well I dont belive to any kin of god stuff . because I simply hate the idea that someone else controls my life ;)
I know… I agree in some causes…
I believe in God, but not that he/she controls our lives. More like that God is being born, through all of nature, but especially through us, as we communicate and are part of a divine thought process. Essentially God is love, not a set of religious dogma.
To answer your real question, Itachi Lover, none of us knows what your biological father thinks or why he has done what he has. Life is messy, divorces are very messy. Divorced parents don’t want to see or interact with each other, but still he should maintain contact with you. My guess is that he has become preoccupied with his new family. That’s awful, but your mother and step-dad love you don’t they?
Instead of showing up at his door with an accusation, why not try writing him a letter, a real letter on paper. Tell him how you feel. Give him a chance to make things as right as he is able.
Okay…I like that idea better! And yes my mother and step father love my very much. I also wrote this because some talked about god being there for everyone all the time and helping them when they need it in another thing I wrote. I also wanted to share how I felt about my life’s past. Thamks for listening.
Your welcome. I don’t look at prayer as an opportunity to ask for things, but as a chance to set my mind on things that are peaceful and good. And even for someone who believes God is not always “there”. People rationalize that he/she is there and we just don’t feel his/her presence. But to me, not feeling God’s presence in effect is the same as God not being there. So I try to center my mind on positive things. When I do, I feel the presence of God.
Write the letter. No matter if he responds or ignores you, it will do you good.
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God is there for everyone and i think that he put your stepfather in your life to bring you back together with your real father. i think that you should ask him to bring you, and if it would make you fill more comfurtable ask your stepfather to stay with you.
Maybe eventually that would be a really good idea. But a letter would be personal, and a good first step.
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every thing happens for a reason. No matter how hard it is now, it will get better later. Just you wait and see.
Become three times the person your father was and get a good education and a good job.
I wish…I wish I has the words to answer this post, to tell you “god is with you” to make a promise with you, to hand you a bible a rosary and some holy water and declare you saved. I wish I could point to a star and declare it your one true Messiah, I /wish/ I had solid, unquestionable proof that there /is/ a god out there. And I wish, oh I wish, that one day I’ll be able to not see this sort of question and realize how much it reflects the questions posed in my heart, in my head.
I’ll try to deal with the problem about your father for right now, anyways. Besides the clever letter thing, which I admit I would not have thought of, maybe try calling him? Show up at his door?
Talk to your mom. She might be able to set something up, and if you do talk to him, sooner or later she’ll find out. She’ll feel better if you approach her now, not later.
My niece situation is similar to yours. Her parents were teens when she was born. Her father was in and out of her life at the beginning. She has a step-father who as been there since she was 4. She is now 22. A few years back she made a attempt at getting to know her birth father. She put forth the effort but he did not. She came to realize he is not important. Her step-father is her Father. He has been there all these years and he loves her with all his heart. She no longer stresses about her birth father. She let go of that anger because it didn’t do her any good.
I would suggest you write him a letter and ask all those questions that are going through your mind. If he answers and is interested in getting to know you, then go for it. See what the relationship can become. But if he is not interested, let it go. Don’t hold on to anger or resentment towards him. Because it does not hurt him, it hurts you.
You have mixed feelings and rightfully so.Its a case of being torn cuz we are supposed to love and respect our parents but they have done you wrong.Its normal so your not alone in this.I know God very well and I can tell you he knows your hurting and confused.He knows your heart so he sees how you are capable of loving,he planned and made you on purpose.All these questions you have will be answered someday,some while here in this life and the rest in the afterlife.,,i grew up without a dad and mom never dated so I never even had ‘father figures’ around and Yes, i felt deprived too,UNTIL Gods’ love was planted in me.Now i have a Perfect,supernatural father.No earth father can measure up to that.All you have to do is believe he accepts you as you are .You are loved,receive it and enjoy it .
God hasn’t forgotten about you he cares about you very much. part of growing as a person is expriencing pain. Pain will make the happy times in your life standout. Also, another thing is that God proably gave you many gifts. Look at all the wonderful things in your life.
God konws whats best for us, thou we will exprience some pain on the way there.
Just because your parents didn’t plan you doesn’t mean you weren’t planned. God planned you and he loves you.
I’m sorry for the pain your father gave you, but your heavenly father loves you and he will never leave you.
We often leave God, but he never leaves us.
He understands your hurt and he can comfort you. You will be in my prayers, Bless You Child.
God does everything for a reason. You are part of a huge plan and something amazing will come out of it…for you and the whole world.
Thank you too all of you. Your comforting words have and will help me to go on. I’ll try some of the things you have told me to be good idea’s and try to let go. I’ll also try to believe in god the ways you have told me, you’ve fixed my complex with god. I thank you all once again and hope you will all help my in the life to come when I have another thing to talk about. But I must say that if my real father doesn’t care after I try I may not be able to let go. It might hurt or scar me more, or it will help me to see as some of you said that he is not important. I don’t really know, but if something happens I’ll be sure to report to you if that’s okay…
Oh! But I forgot! What about my real brother which I knew nothing about!?
Is this your biological father’s child? Your half-brother?
And is he still a minor, under 18?
yes… He’s like probably 10.
You can’t force your biological father to let you see your brother, but you can ask him. You may have a better chance if you don’t start out by hurling accusations at him.
It may be hard to control, but anger will not help you see your brother. I’m not saying you should hide your hurt, just don’t lose your temper at your father if you want to see your brother.
Honey, if you find your father doesn’t care,don’t take it personally,YOU did nothing wrong.It doesn’t make you any less worthy of love or happiness.It just means it’s HIS problem,NOT youRs! You must believe This for your own good
Thank you Felicity-{KIMKRISS} and to the last person, does that mean I odn’t have a right to see my brother?!
A right? Yes, absolutely.
A legal right? I don’t know. Probably not.
But my bloods in him, or at least some of it… What if my mom made it possible in some way, or can see? But first what if he wants to see me too!?
I’m sure if your half-brother knows about you he would want to meet and get to know you. I’d say write your dad a letter first. Tell him that you’d like to meet your brother. Don’t start off with big demands, or suggest going on vacations together or anything that would require your dad to interact with your mom. Divorces are messy and bitter. He obviously wants to leave his old marriage situation behind and live the new one, but he shouldn’t sever contact with you too. Are you sure that he hasn’t tried, and was prevented from contacting you by your mom?
I don’t think he’s tried, my mother gave him her phone number and where she works a long time ago. (My mother’s worked at the same place a long time) And what if my brother doesn’t even know I am part of this world!? I met him when he was a month old and that was the first and last time. I don’t think he wants to make contact, or maybe his wife won’t let him…? I odn’t know.
ther’s a lot of ‘What ifs’ try and take it one step at a time.
It’s true that a new wife doesn’t want her husband to have anything to do with the ex-wife.
But that’s just a what if as u said. What if my brother knows nothing of me? I just put the wife thing in caz I didn’t know what to think of the possibilaty.
It’s all a “what if”. Whether or not your father responds to you, don’t forget that your mom and step-dad love you. And you’ll have friends here if you help others.
IF things dont work out where you and your brother get to know each other,keep the hope,make it a point to contact him when your both old enough to make your own decisions.
Yes, that’s good idea, and I help people on here sometimes, but I am still new here. I think ur cool though sansceriph. I hope you’ll help me and I can help u whenever. You too Felicity-{KIMKRISS}.
Thanks. Sometimes when a person is going through a lot of trials and pain, they are better able to empathize with others. Their help means more because it isn’t preachy.
And yeah, Kim rocks.
Goodnight Itachi, I’m going to get some sleep. Check you later.
Your welcome sweetie :) Sans Rocks Too !
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