Snar invited 2 users to read this post 2 months, 3 weeks ago.
I think you should just tell her how you feel.
Maybe she can help you cope.
How far away are you from each other??
Have you ever thought of writing these feelings down in a journal so you can have some sort of release??
Tell us more about your relationship. How long have you been dating?
its ok your not bugging any one i agree with kima tell us more
how far are you from each other?
kima7 wrote:
I think you should just tell her how you feel. Maybe she can help you cope.How far away are you from each other??Have you ever thought of writing these feelings down in a journal so you can have some sort of release??Tell us more about your relationship. How long have you been dating?
We’ve been dating ten months, my posts are more then a weighty indicator of how bumpy theyve been but we’ve toughed it out. I did actually just tell her and she kinda didnt say much. We live the width of america apart from eachother. She kinda is telling me shes worried about me instead of helping me cope, but its sweet in its own way… she has problems that make it hard for her to help me and ive accepted this.
Snar invited 1 user to read this post 2 months, 3 weeks ago.
First of all, that’s wicked sweet :3 In an Ideal World, I’d magically enchant you and you’d just repeat those words to her. And that would pretty much solve your problem, I’ll have you know, cause then she’d understand…
But back to “world in which things actually happen”. And usually I’d say talk to her but since that seems to be the problem I’ll have to devise new tactics. What is a common ground you both share? It’s easy to chat if both of you are talking on even ground. And I have artist friends, I find that the easiest way to start a conversation is to talk about art. If you say something like “I think Degas had it right” They will most likely pick it up and talk about whatever artistic blabber they can. They’re easy like that :).
Do you know her address? Start sending her little things in the mail, like handwritten letters and tiny trinkets just to tell her you’re thinking of her. A girl is more likely to get misty-eyed over something personal like then then an e-mail I’m afraid. We’re complex creatures like that: most of us are just want attention. She’s probably already happy just that you talk to her. Send her poems about her, send her songs, send her those stupid hallmark cards with the puppies on the front that say “Missing You” or something remarkably cheesy. Send her chocolate. Can never go wrong with chocolate.
And now for the option which I just offer because the insane part of me demands it: Go to her. Hop a plane, a train, get in your car. Heck, my family drove to Cali from the East Coast it only takes about a week and well you know you wanted to get those states checked off your list…Granted, we survived off of devil’s ham and grapes and water but we made it. and I bet so can you. If you see her, you won’t have to miss her anymore, right?
And by the way, I love answering your posts Snar. They actually require thought.
Indigo_Rain wrote:
Start sending her little things in the mail, like handwritten letters and tiny trinkets just to tell her you’re thinking of her. Go to her. Hop a plane, a train, get in your car.
That first part is good. Chatting isn’t the most romantic medium. The second part.. well he would need to be old enough, which he isn’t. That’s the rub.
Yeah, shes comin tho :D :D :D 31 days!!!!!!!!! Im so excited but when she leaves im … i dunno… i might actually go into a huge depression.
THanks for the reply indigo a lot of the stuff is helpful, i do try and be sweet and romantic as i can to show her my love. Ive written her tons of peoms and ive sent her gifts in the mail and i even wrote her the first song i ever completed. I think she really does appreciate it altho sometimes i feel a little shortchanged that she doesnt mention any of them but i guess u noe, once the initial happyness wears off..
31 days, that’s great! That’s no time at all. Now, what can you do in 31 days to improve your self-confidence? Maybe that should be your next post. Girls love a guy who’s confident, not arrogant, but confident.
Your rite sans im working on it, i got a huge amount of worries though too. Like what if im not interesting or what if i accidently do something stupid or awkward and haha things i dont even wanna say cus they are kinda silly and kinda wierd.
…Sans says as if he’s a girl :)
It is great though.
*Smacks the Snar* (In a friendly slap sort of way) Come on, I know you can do better then that. You’ll make yourself nervous. Tell yourself it’ll be fine because it /will/ be fine. Just pick her up from the airport with flowers and smile brilliantly. And it’s sort of hard to mess up because when you do, we think it’s sweet and cute and funny. Just don’t, I dunno, get drunk and maim her rental car or something. Like that would happen to you. In any event, if you do mess up, go with it. Like let’s take a huge mud puddle. You slip and fall. Laugh, roll around a bit, and pull her in. (And while this was great fun when it happened to me, make sure if you do it she’s not wearing something that has to be dry cleaned…). Seriously, mistakes will, if anything, make you look impulsive.
Unless you suddenly lose your ability to speak, but then all I can suggest is to learn sign language, mate.
The awkwardness is part of why young love is so sweet. Snar you don’t have to be anyone but you. She likes YOU. She’s crossing the country to see YOU. Have some things planned, but allow for spontaneous moments too. Video chat gets boring? No kidding! That’s not a big deal unless you make it one.
Those are encouraging words indigo, ill try and be like that and shrug off the worries and little things. You and sans have been a big help as always. I dunno though… how ill stop missing her so terribly when i see her beautiful skin across the screen *shakes head* maybe im doomed to be an emotional fool.
sansceriph wrote:
The awkwardness is part of why young love is so sweet. Snar you don’t have to be anyone but you. She likes YOU. She’s crossing the country to see YOU. Have some things planned, but allow for spontaneous moments too. Video chat gets boring? No kidding! That’s not a big deal unless you make it one.
I suppose its not sans but it IS all we got and with me being an emotional doofus and missing the crap outta her and her saying nothing and off paitning XD its kinda silly and its kinda i dunno.. me being a fool. But yeah i think itll be good when she comes… we have plans to go to my favourite place in the world… vancouver island :D :D :D yey!. And also just a lotta random things too, walks and just doing fun spontaneous things like u said… god i hope it works… (im not the most interesting guy really…)
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I reported me, us. Hopefully a mod will remove those replies.
Or hunted down via google maps?
I feel bad for them I’d be like “you want me to remove those replies beeecauuuse?”
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Am I the only one who notices that it seems like the only thing he likes about her is how pretty she is? That’s the only good thing he says about her…she’s pretty, so beautiful, he’s so attracted to her…
See! I keep telling everyone on here that guys only care about looks! Snar is on my side at least…
steff wrote:
Am I the only one who notices that it seems like the only thing he likes about her is how pretty she is? That’s the only good thing he says about her…she’s pretty, so beautiful, he’s so attracted to her…
See! I keep telling everyone on here that guys only care about looks! Snar is on my side at least…
Well i take that as a huge insult but you dont know me or her very well so I’m not gonna get upset or mad. I love spending time with her for so many other reasons. Believe me if all i cared about was looks i wouldnt wait ten months to meet a girl when i have plenty others around me. Its kinda rude that you’d assert that im shallow just because im attracted to the girl I love and Its hard for me to carry on a conversation because of the silence and how i miss her terribly and that shes beautiful to me. I dont liek being asked too or to have to stand up and justify my own love which is somethign I think should be beyond justification but here I go. I love her because shes an artist, shes a creator, shes a wonderful and imaginative girl. Shes kind, shes compassionate shes altruistic. She understands me in a way that few others really do. SHe can have fun and take me with her for the ride, she can be goofy and crazy and silly yet speak words that are beautiful and so true. DOnt you dare try and say that im the kinda guy who only cares about looks because I refused to even go on dates with people that I se emyself having a hard time talking too and just being alike even if they are gorgeous. Hell i was friends with my gf before I even saw her picture, liked her before it and even went out with her after only one picture. ITs kinda a silly thing. Im not upset im just gunna have to justify myself her as (though it may not have bene your intention) you made a rather bold, unfounded and rude assertion.
Sorry, Snar to offend you but it kind of upset me that you only highlighted her looks.
I am not an attractive girl so things like that sting.
I’m just bitter.
steff wrote:
Sorry, Snar to offend you but it kind of upset me that you only highlighted her looks.
I am not an attractive girl so things like that sting.
I’m just bitter.
Well thats ok but im not even sure if you read the whole post then because it NOWHERE insinuates that i like her only because shes beautiful and realyl all it talks about is how im having a hard time with face to face discussions because im akward because of that attraction. And there should be netohing to be guilty about for that. And honestly i am really attracted to her and i DID only highlight her looks here. But if you went and searched my posts ud see me talk about a lotta other things, a lotta problems with me and her for sure… but also a lot of others things i love about her. I think what you did was probably skim over this post, see that i was ratning about how beautiful she was and that come to this assertion based on whats bothering you personally. And thats understandable and you kinda admitted that so you know what.. lets just drop it and dont worry about it, it did kinda upset me even though I said it didnt because its just so far from the truth but I understand you have a personal problem thats getting in the way.
And im sure your an attractive girl! Dont say that. Theres also MUCH more then attraction then just looks…. i mean it…
You’re right…I only read the first part of your post. I can see now the other things you appreciate about her. I’ve just never met a guy who didn’t care about looks (which is why I’ve never had love) and I assumed you were the same.
I can admit I’m wrong.
steff wrote:
You’re right…I only read the first part of your post. I can see now the other things you appreciate about her. I’ve just never met a guy who didn’t care about looks (which is why I’ve never had love) and I assumed you were the same.
I can admit I’m wrong.
Thankyou and dont worry im not gunna hold a grudge or nething :).
anything changed with your gf situation?
Snar wrote:
Yeah, shes comin tho :D :D :D 31 days!!!!!!!!! Im so excited but when she leaves im … i dunno… i might actually go into a huge depression.
THanks for the reply indigo a lot of the stuff is helpful, i do try and be sweet and romantic as i can to show her my love. Ive written her tons of peoms and ive sent her gifts in the mail and i even wrote her the first song i ever completed. I think she really does appreciate it altho sometimes i feel a little shortchanged that she doesnt mention any of them but i guess u noe, once the initial happyness wears off..
Pretty much sounds like you need a relationship that is actually in your home town. That long distance stuff does not work. And the reason she didn’t really say much when you told her, is because the feeling is not mutual.
You mainly talked about how pretty she was and how beautiful she was. Sounds more like infatuation. Uhm… I dunno babe. How long were you guys actually talking before she left? Did you touch more than once? Or just once and it had a lasting impression on you that made you fall in love? Maybe you should try and talk to other ‘’pretty'’ girls. Sounds like you need a distraction. There’s nothing there if you guys don’t have much to say to each other. Sorry
I guess I wasn’t the only one who noticed the “pretty” thing…
sorry snar
Tyonnn Sparkles has already brought that up.
Snar happens to convinced me at least, but if you want I can ask him the questions that are required to find out if someone is really in love.
I more or less trust Snar totally, since what would be the point of having mental pains over a girl that’s just a crush?
tyonnn wrote:
Pretty much sounds like you need a relationship that is actually in your home town. That long distance stuff does not work. And the reason she didn’t really say much when you told her, is because the feeling is not mutual.
You mainly talked about how pretty she was and how beautiful she was. Sounds more like infatuation. Uhm… I dunno babe. How long were you guys actually talking before she left? Did you touch more than once? Or just once and it had a lasting impression on you that made you fall in love? Maybe you should try and talk to other ‘’pretty'’ girls. Sounds like you need a distraction. There’s nothing there if you guys don’t have much to say to each other. Sorry
Well I guess maybe its not mutual that she feels quite so attracted to me as I do to her but shes also got a lotta self esteem issues as well as simply communication ones. Fair enough though I agree, maybe that’s what the silence is telling me but I don’t expect her to realy have the same amount of zeal that an obsessive person like me would
Im not sure about infatuation especially since she asked me out and im the one who gave it a shot and 10 months seems like a long time to be infatuated I dunno, maybe not. Poiint is ive actually gotten more and more attracted to her not less and less, seems kinda like the opposite.. infatuation is sposed to be fake puppy love that wears off. I guess I am a little smitten but Im not sure that infatuation is quite the word.
As far as when she left, she never did, we haven’t met yet.
Don’t worry I understand ive met so many people whove told me I was crazy and that long distance relationships don’t work. I don’t take it personally anymore, its their opinion and I respect their concern but also know that they cant see into what we have just as I cant see into what merit their argument has in THEIR minds.
Indigo_Rain wrote:
Tyonnn Sparkles has already brought that up.Snar happens to convinced me at least, but if you want I can ask him the questions that are required to find out if someone is really in love.I more or less trust Snar totally, since what would be the point of having mental pains over a girl that’s just a crush?
Thanks indigo :) (im resisting the urge to call you indy as red sky does XD)
Indy Indy Indy. Go ahead Snar, it’s fun.
Um, snar, practically everyone calls me Indy…You’re more then welcome to. I would have expected you would have broken sooner.
Indy Indy Indy. Its like a chant.
heh i will then, reminds me of indiana jones to be honest XD I picture a person in a safari hat or something… im silly that way….
Like Indiana Jones only meaner.
Wow haven’t hear that one before -.-
I happen to have a Indiana Jones hat, when I don it I enjoy the stares I get.
I’m mean? ;_;
…so I’m…nice?
*head twisted 180 degrees* [does not compute]
Indigo_Rain wrote:
…so I’m…nice?*head twisted 180 degrees* [does not compute]
Nice and awesome, Indy. Snar.. I noticed you still haven’t said it.
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