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I know your cousins asked you not to tell, but if you dont tell not only will they have to go on with the abuse, but so will you. All those years you lived with the abuse, dont you wish someone had of told for you? I know that they are probably scared, but in the long run they will be thankful to get away from all of that. You need to do whats right for you, and whats right for them

Even if you break your cousin’s promice, you must tell them.

they may be mad at you at first, but they will not hate you. You know what it is like to live with abuse, its not fun. they are just scared right now, but once they get away from that they will be grateful. by telling, you are not betraying them, you are helping them

i know how you feel being riped away from your mother. my mother gave me up for her drug addiction and i havent had a relationship w/ her since. im now 17 years old amd i can tell you that life goes on. it gets hard but it will all be ok. as for your cousins, you are helping them by saying something. this is your one chance to save them. if you say nothing you may be put back in the same situation and you may not have another chance. and you never know how bad the situation can get. you may save thier life, by telling someone.
it wont be easy but i dont think you can just walk away from this.

If you dont say anything, your cousins will be forced to face what you worked so hard to escape. They may not be as brave as you, but they will be grateful once they realize they are safe

I think you should tell now. I’m not saying this to be mean, but the sooner they get out of the position they’re in, the better. If you had the chance to live through less abuse, would you? It’s the same with them. Most of the time when people ask you not to repeat something is because they’re scared or they don’t want it spread around. If you wait until the custody battles are over, you might not get a say in it anymore. It’s better to end up never having experienced her abuse and having said it earlier on then it is to have to live with her. And the DSS will make you go through /more/ custody battles and the same routine. It’s easier just to get out now, and take your cousins with you.

It doesnt matter if its life threatening or not. Both you and your cousins deserve to live without worrying about getting beaten. You know what your aunt does is wrong, just like you knew what your mom did was wrong. Your cousins are scared to speak out for themselves, they need you to do it for them right now. I know its not fair that you are in this position, I understand that it is tough, but you need to do what is right for them and you.

Are you glad you are away from your mom?

and dont you want the same for your cousins?

then you need to tell

Tell them all you know people act tough at school but when mum comes in a temper no one your age is tough.
Not even your cousins ok.
I wish you all the luck and im sure im talking on behalf of everyone here ok .

Tell your social worker, they will know what to do

I am sure he will come and check up on you. what about your foster parents? would you feel comfortable asking them for his name and number?

I have added you as a friend, and you can send me a shout anytime you want to talk or have questions. I have to head off right now, but I am on most days at some point. I dont know where you are living right now but I am able to find all sorts of answers to any questions you may have about childrens aid in canada. I am not sure what differences there are if you are in another country, but feel free to ask anything.

no problem :) you did a very brave thing, speaking out about your mom. you should be proud of yourself. I know it is difficult right now but things will get better. *hugs

Please tell your foster parents what you just told us. Tell them that you have awful feeling when they speak harshly to you. They have no way of knowing what you are feeling because they have probably never been exposed to violence the way that you have.
Your foster parents are probably just alarmed to learn that your cousins are being treated badly by their parents. Most adults cannot understand why a parent would behave the way your mother and your aunt do. We want to believe that all adults are kind to children.

your cousins will eventually get over it and understand the reason you did what you did. like i said b 4 you may have saved thier life…. :}

Hey angel! How is it going? I’m sorry I just got here!

How old did you say you are?

i think she said she was 13.

I think she went off line.

sorry but i really think you could help her.

Do you think she’s coming back. Or should I keep on replying according to what I read on all the replies?

idk. it says that she is still on line. rply to the other replies untill she comes back.

hey angel, that was a really good thing you did. I am sorry your foster parents reacted the way they did, but they werent really mad at you, just worried about your cousins. like everyone else says, your cousins will forgive you. they will realize what a great service you did them. I know you are scared, but I do think you should tell your foster parents how it makes you feel when you are yelled at. They just want to help you, they wont get mad at you for that.

I am so glad to know that your foster parents have apologized and that you are talking with them. They may be able to help you with your cousins, too. Let them know how you are feeling. It won’t be long before your cousins forgive you. They will need some time to adjust, but they will come around.
Your actions have been nothing less than heroic. I wish you a lifetime of wonderful experiences. You deserve to have all your dreams come true.

Oh my goodness, what a wise girl you are. Letting your cousins come to you is a good plan. If you have time, may I make suggestion? Your foster parents would love to receive a note from you thanking them for being there for you. Being a foster parent can be a difficult, but rewarding job. Everyone needs to hear that they are doing a good job and a note from you would mean worlds to them.

Angel, you are so brave. everything you have done these last few days is just amazing. even just talking to your foster parents to let them know how you feel. There is no doubt in my mind that you will achieve great things. give your cousins some time to adjust. they are upset now, but they will realize everything you did was for the best. you can add me as a friend if you want, and message me whenever you just want to talk.

I just don’t believe a word of it to be honest. You say your cousins are 16, and 5.
You also say “they both are some of the toughest kids in school and they dont word getting around that they cant even stand up to their own mom”.
Since when is a 5yo tough in school? In Australia, you don’t even start school till 5/6. Something about your story doesn’t ring true.