Love help: I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half now, he broke up with me two weeks ago this Wednesday. - Help.com

He may come back but is he really good for you? although if he just lost a relative give him some time to deal with it if he calls you and you wanna go back thats up to you but nagging him wont make him come back to you however it may drag you down just make sure you can pick yourself backup and try not think of it too much.

It sounds like he finally got smart enough to see that you two were in an unhealthy relationship. Don’t ring him back. Move on. Develop a healthy relationship with someone else.

We have been through so much in the sort time 2getha thats why im finding it hard, and i think im holding onto the hope that we always do this and we will be fine. He messed me around for a long time but we have such a good time when theres not all that crap going on

You first love?

How old are you barbie?

23

Hey, you can love someone and still not be a good match because you’re unhealthy for each other. And you two sound VERY unhealthy for each other. If you find another man that you can have a healthy relationship with you will be a LOT happier.

No i had a long term boyfriend before this one
I just really dont want to let this one go

i agree with chameleons reply.

but i would advice follow your heart i have always done that.

and your only 23 so if he dont call you, you can find someone else.

Why does he keep leaving me and then coming back. I know im only young but i never find men, and my heart says i need him my head says he bad

Hello there, fights can be uncontrollable sometimes bec of so many different factors.
Culture, personality differences, upbringing, social reality etc…

Love is there…can be. But there is no consistency and that is madly sickening.

He has issues that he needs to solve.

And you have the right to be happy.

Please don’t beg for love.

Thanks Lilies i last rang him on sunday and i am not going to call him now. My family and friends think that he may have someone else as he is quite sneaky with his phne and has done this befoe i think if that was true it would be alot easier to deal with than the fact he doesnt actually love me anymore

Okay dear. Some guys are really sneaky. and guys think so differently from girls.

Here. Think about this over and over.

Listen to yourself this time. Do not mind what he would think now. Think of your own side.

How would you want to be treated this way in the days to come? You certainly would not want to. Every tear , every struggle… is it worth it?

Doesnt seem like its been worth it now he cant even fight for us, he thinks the grass is always greener i think, but when we normally brake up he ring me to ask if im ok nothing this time.

i am glad you have finally realized this abuse.

Why cant i just let it all go tho and not get upset and feel like ill never find any1 again

You have become used to it. That is actually a form of emotional abuse. Training you to stick to them and make yourself believe that you could not find someone else to love you.

Don’t let it happen to you.

Thank you wish my brain would get hold of that, i know its going to take time i think i just dont understand y hes done it

Been under that kind of condition and i felt worse. I started to question myself and my capabilities. I started hating myself (yes i came to that point).

Good thing i got friends who believed in me and supported me. I went into a very troublesome self therapy.

Now i am on my feet again. Seek the help of your family and friends. You can do it. Let me know how it goes.

will do thank you

Hugs. You are always welcome.

take time he may come back to you