work help: Have you ever had feelings for someone,but you just know that it wont work out. - Help.com

Sometimes fate needs a little push, hehe

No one can be certain going into a relationship that it’s going to work out. You have to take a chance and it could be the best thing you ever did. You don’t want to live your life wondering what might’ve been.

I totally agree with Whatsername17. … does anyone know for certain how long a relationship is going to last or if it for certain will work out or not??? I dont think we have any real way of knowing that - even really in a marriage. All we can know is what we want and our intentions. We cant read another persons mind or predict their future to an exact degree .. ever. So.. as with all things in thisi life… there is a risk involved. But that is what makes life life… we live, we learn, we grow. If your afraid to take chances because you fear failure or mistakes - you’ll never grow.

Yeah I agree to an extent, you don’t know how long a relationship will work but you can also see from the start if it has a chance or not. More often than not you don’t really have a choice in how you feel, deciding to not let yourself like someone more is kind of impossible and the more you try the less it works, I know because I tried the same.
You just have to jump in and take what life throws at you, no point in trying anything if your not going to let yourself experience anything.

Sometimes fate does need a push. Good advise everyone

How much older are they? What is your age difference? What reason do you think it wouldn’t work out?

Heart Break is extremely hard to get over it. It is one of those things you can forgive but not forget. It sticks with us for along time. I too say age isn’t usually a factor. If it is a matter of getting hurt again you can not live your life trying to keep yourself from getting hurt because you may also be protecting yourself from great joy. You have to really look at what your reservations are and why you have those reservations. If most of your reservations are fear of being hurt just understand that unfortunately hurt is apart of life and it will continue to effect you til you feel safe again.

kayla54 wrote:
Thanks everyone for your advice, its helped a lot. Well, to answer your question there is a 22 year age difference. I have always said that age isnt a factor for me, but this is kind of ‘uncharted territory’ as they say. I’ve had my heart broken more than once, and Ijust dont know if its worth getting myself into something that is likely to fail

He seems like a nice bloke and very much into you.
Do what is best for you but remember not to regret any choices you make.
Maybe start slowly and see how it feels and if you are okwith things.

LazyDaze~ wrote:

kayla54 wrote:
Thanks everyone for your advice, its helped a lot. Well, to answer your question there is a 22 year age difference. I have always said that age isnt a factor for me, but this is kind of ‘uncharted territory’ as they say. I’ve had my heart broken more than once, and Ijust dont know if its worth getting myself into something that is likely to fail

He seems like a nice bloke and very much into you.
Do what is best for you but remember not to regret any choices you make.
Maybe start slowly and see how it feels and if you are okwith things.

Good suggestion

ya, i agree,just enjoy without any expectation :)

ok first i want to start out with age is just a number. if you have had no problems with his age until now then you shouldnt let it stop im your thinkin about getting involved any farther. Secondly i want to say that there is never a definete guarantee that a relationship will last. Hearts get broken and mend all the time. Follow your heart and let him know what your fears are on going any farther. he may have the same fears?!? Expect the worst and find the best is a motto that my mom lives by and it seems fitting for your situation.. Hope this helps