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My parents are the epitome of hell when they’re together.

My mom is absoluetly insane and harasses my dad about phone calls that he has to make for work, and she has even called his boss. She picks out the littlest things to harass someone about, like how the string on the back of my dads pants got tucked in, and she is the same for me. I am the oldest of 3 kids, and she keeps all of us up until 4 in the morning fighting with my dad over pointless things. She even trys to take my phone away and punish me when i confront her about it. She thinks she is always right, and when any of us kids say anything to her about please stoppping because i have exams and need to sleep….she will throw things and hit us. I dont know what to do, because my dad will not stick up for us and is never home now, and we cant talk to her or anyone else because its embarassing and she is borderline abusive. Her mom even says she has an alchoholic personalitly and she never drinks. SHe needs serious help, and needs to stop making our lives hell. Ive gotten to the point where I have no feeling left for her at all, if she moved away and I never saw her again I would not care. my parents have been like this for almost 9 years, and I am now 16. I cant stand living here with them, and I feel bad not giving a **** about my family anymore, but she is so horribly mean and inconsiderate that I dont know what else to do. She trys to blame it on us that we are ruining thier marrige and sh even tells my little sisters that are 7 and 9 that the devil is in them..which is totally insane and she does not need to be blaming them for her problems. What do I do, if I contact a therapist or someone for her she will get mad and probably try and punish me. She needs help, my dad is to much of a prick to do anytihng, what do i do?

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My parents are the epidemy of hell when their together. My mom is absoluetly insane and harasses my dad about phone calls that he has to make for work, and she has even called his boss. She picks out the littlest things to harass someone about, like how the string on the back of my dads pants got tucked in, and she is the same for me. I am the oldest of 3 kids, and she keeps all of us up until 4 in the morning fighting with my dad over pointless things. She even trys to take my phone away and punish me when i confront her about it. She thinks she is always right, and when any of us kids say anything to her about please stoppping because i have exams and need to sleep….she will throw things and hit us. I dont know what to do, because my dad will not stick up for us and is never home now, and we cant talk to her or anyone else because its embarassing and she is borderline abusive. Her mom even says she has an alchoholic personalitly and she never drinks. SHe needs serious help, and needs to stop making our lives hell. Ive gotten to the point where I have no feeling left for her at all, if she moved away and I never saw her again I would not care. my parents have been like this for almost 9 years, and I am now 16. I cant stand living here with them, and I feel bad not giving a **** about my family anymore, but she is so horribly mean and inconsiderate that I dont know what else to do. She trys to blame it on us that we are ruining thier marrige and sh even tells my little sisters that are 7 and 9 that the devil is in them..which is totally insane and she does not need to be blaming them for her problems. What do I do, if I contact a therapist or someone for her she will get mad and probably try and punish me. She needs help, my dad is to much of a prick to do anytihng, what do i do?

Deąth offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 500 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

omg thats exactly how my parents are

man steff ur on a editting spree today huh?

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

death21494 wrote:
omg thats exactly how my parents areman steff ur on a editting spree today huh?

well i only read the headliner part but yeah :)

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

sorry, it annoys me. :)

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

steff wrote:
sorry, it annoys me. :)

oh…lol..
go look at ur shout!!

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spiratec9 online Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 30 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

you need to copy and paste your post into a text file and print it on a printer.
Then seal it up in an envelope and slip it under your moms bedroom door.
Don’t sign it. It is the best thing you could possibly do.
If your mom won’t listen to that she won’t listen to anything.
If you try this please let us know what happens.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

spiratec9 wrote:
you need to copy and paste your post into a text file and print it on a printer.
Then seal it up in an envelope and slip it under your moms bedroom door.
Don’t sign it. It is the best thing you could possibly do.
If your mom won’t listen to that she won’t listen to anything.
If you try this please let us know what happens.

do that…but u might wanna edit a few words? lol just aan idea (unless ur ove 18 or w/e lol)

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spiratec9 online Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 30 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

I think don’t edit it. It’s so straight from the heart.
It carries the most amount of weight. If I saw this post and I was her mother
I think I would be crazy if I didn’t do something about it.

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theresape offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Waltham, MA, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

I feel so badly for you. Your mother sounds like she is terribly depressed, or has some form of addiction or mental illness, and she is SO unhappy. Her illness really is ruining it for the whole family, and your father doesn’t know what to do to help her. Yet if you try to help, you get punished for it. It’s a terrible situation for you.

I like spirate’s idea, to a degree, but I am not sure your mother is capable of dealing with the situation because of her illness. I really think you need to take the message AND the problem to your FATHER. He absolutely NEEDS to do something to help his wife and protect his children. Of course, it’s easier, less challenging, for him to go along as he is, trying not to make trouble and hoping that things will get better, but that’s not going to happen. I doubt that he’s just being a prick, as you say. He probably is scared to death about the situation and does not know how to handle it. Remember, most of her rage is directed at him–you and your sibs are just catching the fallout.

SOMEONE in your house NEEDS TO BE A GROWN-UP. Since you don’t have the power to do that, and your mother is not ABLE to do it, IT HAS TO BE HIM.

You tell him that, and if he does not take some kind of action, then tell a school counselor what is going on in your home. This is abuse, and counselors are required to report abuse. The likely outcome is that your family will be required to get help, and perhaps your mother will get the needed treatment.

Good luck, hon.

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spiratec9 online Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 30 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

yes maybe give a copy to both mom and dad at the same time.
They both need wake up calls.

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spiratec9 online Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 30 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

you could work a week on writing out a letter…..
but it won’t get any better than your post.
It carries maximum weight.

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