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Hello.

My name is Victoria. I’m 18, I will be 19 July the 31st. I’m almost 9 months pregnant with a baby that wasn’t planned. And I’m currently living with my fiance and his parents. In there basement. And there wanting to sell there house soon. And I can’t stand them. We have no place to go. And my fiance is out of work, and hasn’t been able to find work in quite some time. Were we live jobs aren’t plentiful. The company he used to work for has went under and is no longer in business. I’m so scared. I’m going to go into labor any day now. This is my first baby, Our relationship is falling apart, and we have no were to go. I’m not asking you to pity me. I’m just asking for advise. I’m really in a pickle. Heaven help me.

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Chameleon offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Your fiance needs to get a job. There’s no way he can’t find one. If he needs to go out of town to work, so be it. Flipping burgers? Fine. Take it. He needs to get a job. Any job. Now.
Plus you can apply for financial aid.

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c-eek offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Okay, let’s talk about your situation. You have some positive things going on. Here is what I see:
An educated young woman. You can read and write, which is not to be taken for granted. That is a great asset.
You have a baby on the way. Having a purpose in life is a great motivation to make your assets count.
The father of your baby has a family that is willing to help you. Even though you do not like them, they are an asset.
The father of your baby has work experience and is willing to work. So many young people think that the world will take care of them, it is an asset to have a man like yours.
Those are just a few things that I can tell by what you wrote. I think that you are going to be fine. Your baby will bring great joy to you. I know this because I was in your situation a long time ago. Looking back to that time, I remember feeling unsure of the future. Now I am a grandmother and my life has been a fantastic adventure.

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sans-sans offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Don’t panic Victoria. Chameleon and ckmurra have given you some good advice. Believing in yourself will go a long way towards finding solutions.

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Chameleon offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

When my husband and I were pregnant with our first baby (oops!) we had no home and had to live in a fifth wheel in my parent’s driveway. We had given up our home and went into a business venture with my parents and brother that folded. My husband took a job in a pizza parlor in the next city. From that we built ourselves up. You will be ok. But your fiance needs to get a job and not think any of them are beneath him.
Congratulations on your upcoming bundle of joy!

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max_needs offline Verified User (6 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 89 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (7 hours, 40 minutes after post)

You’ll be okay:) It’s not good for you to worry. Tell the daddy to do all that. He’s a big boy now. Don’t cut him any slack, you are busy taking care of baby and yourself. Stand up for your baby now by letting him figure out the plan. I know it’s harsh, but he needs to show you the money:) You need it for the baby. Baby must eat before him..stick to it girl. You are a Mommy now and if mommy ain’t happy..nobody should be. Take care and get some rest.

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vickiil200 offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 49 minutes after post)

I really appreciate the advise. It’s so good to hear others opinions and thoughts. It helps me rest a little bit easier. :)

PS- Just in case anyone is interested. I’m 1 cm dilated today! I’m so excited and I can’t wait to hold my bundle of boy.

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Chameleon offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (16 hours, 28 minutes after post)

Oh I’m so excited for you! Congrats and remember to breathe! :)

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