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What’s normal friendship-wise?

I have a hard time making friends. I’m a bit of a shy person, but I’m outgoing and friendly. It just seems like I don’t make friends easily. I moved around a lot when I was young, but still I lived in the same place long enough to go to school with the same people from 5th through high school. I have no problems getting guys, and can maintain a relationship. I can also maintain aquaintinces with whom I occassionaly talk to. I just can’t seem to make/find a group of steady friends. Does anyone else have this problem or am I just social inept?

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Chameleon offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 676 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Could it be that you don’t trust females? I myself get along a lot better with men than with women.

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optimismiles offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

hmm. my best advice is to start inside jokes of some sort. those always bring about friendships as lame as that seems. be friendly and ask basic questions at first, and don’t feel like you can’t be a friend to them. just go for it, things will come around

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Cosmic Fool offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 75 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 19 minutes after post)

It takes me a while to make friends too. The trick is to find people with some shared interests (whether its a hobby, films, sport) so you have a good reason to get together on a regular basis. From there a friendship will blossom, as long as you take an interest in the person, making it clear to them you want to be a friend.

Treat friends as a non intimate partner. Smile lots, arrange to hang out a lot, and basically love them. Takes me months or years usually to build a decent friendship, but its well worth the effort =)

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Meohmy offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (9 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Yes, you are not alone. Maybe you should spend time nuturing the friends you have. It seems that good friends don’t mind sharing their friends then pretty soon there is a group of you.

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mz suicide offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

friendship is a two way thing.. you can’t make all the effort..two people have to put a bit into it.. for it to survive..

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