girl help: I asked this girl out while texting and she said “mayb”.

trevor_chapi

I asked this girl out while texting and she said “mayb”.

We had come back from a school trip to Peru two weeks before. While we were there, we spent a lot of time together. We were holding hands and hugging while there, and we were close to kissing once. I told her that I liked her before we left, and she seemed okay with it. She kept talking to me like we were before. But when I asked her out just recently, over a text (I can’t meet up with her without being on a date), she said “mayb”. We were talking over texts and the phone before, and I still talk to her (only texts), but it seems that nothing has changed other than my akwardness. Also, It would have been my first date, but not hers. I asked her only yesterday so I’m still tense. How long should I wait before I ask her again… with more specifics. Please help me… I’m so lost. Send me an e-mail. < trevor _ chapin @ att . net >

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phuckit! 41 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

She is playing hard to get..keep up the texts

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anothernikki 14 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Um. Ask her to her face. Seriously, if someone asked me out over a text, I’d say no.

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theresape 6 #
Waltham, MA, US | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

“Maybe” means “give me something specific.” She’s not giving you carte blanche for anything, anywhere. Don’t say, “Will you go out with me?” Say, “Would you like to meet Saturday for dinner and a movie? I could pick you up at 6.”

Then she’ll say “yes” or “no.”

Good luck.

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Satan's Smith 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

dude you NEVER ask someone out over a text. It’s part of the ask out rules i suggest asking her out to her face or at least over a phone call if you can’t meet up with her…

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trevor_chapi edited this post 1 month, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

I asked this girl out while texting and she said maybe. We had come back from a school trip to Peru two weeks before. While we were there, we spent a lot of time together. We were holding hands and hugging while there, and we were close to kissing once. But when I asked her out just recently, over a text, she said “mayb”. We were talking over texts and the phone before, and I still talk to her (only texts), but it seems that nothing has changed other than my akwardness. Also, It would have been my first date, but not hers. Please help me… I’m so lost. Send me an e-mail. trevor _ chapin @ att . net >

Satan's Smith 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

well yeah then you should probably just let her go if you can’t meet up wit her… sorry man thats the world rolls

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EmilyRI 311 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

She probably wants to hear it from you not through a text. Not very romantic :)

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trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

My parents won’t let me bike to her house and I can’t drive (for another year) so i can’t meet up with her without my parents knowing, which they should for now.

Tator03 23 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

This is coming from a mom. First do your parents let you date? If yes talk to your parents about her and let them know how you feel. Maybe they can do a cookout or something and have them invite her and her family over. If they do not want it at there house do it at a local park. Then you can see her and your parents can meet her. If you really like her. But if the answer is no that your not to be dating leave it alone because if you get caught your going to be in more trouble than it is worth.

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theresape 6 #
Waltham, MA, US | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

I’m confused. If you can’t meet up with her, how can you date her?

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trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

my mom’s pretty cool about the whole dating thing, but my dad’s paranoid.

trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

to Tator03: Yeah i can date. Thanks for the idea, but my dad was her old principal so that would be pretty weird. Its not like she was bad or anything, she never even went to the office. And yeah, I really like her.

Tator03 23 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

Have your mom talk with your dad. You know you might think it would be pretty weird, but Your Dad might be cool with you dating someone that he already knows. You never know your parents and her parents might already like each other and like to have the cook out. You know another thing is that also maybe have your mom invite her and even maybe her family over for supper or something of the sort. Just have your mom set it up. I would for my son if I knew he really liked the girl. I have a son that is 14 fixing to be 15 next month, I do allow him to date but he have not even asked to go dating. Please keep me posted how what is going on. If I can help you out let me know. If you like for me to talk to your mom get her on here and I will talk/chat with her too. I can come up with different things to help you out.

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trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

Thanks so much, I’ll see if my mom will talk to my dad.

To anyone: I need to know when to call her to be able to ask her out again.

trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

Also, how can i win her over, I feel pretty akward with the whole thing.

theresape 6 #
Waltham, MA, US | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

Call her now.

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Winter.Rain 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Be yourself.. If she don’t like you for you, then you shouldn’t date her.

trevor_chapi edited this post 1 month, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

I asked this girl out while texting and she said maybe. We had come back from a school trip to Peru two weeks before. While we were there, we spent a lot of time together. We were holding hands and hugging while there, and we were close to kissing once. I told her that I liked her before we left, and she seemed okay with it. She kept talking to me like we were before. But when I asked her out just recently, over a text (I can’t meet up with her), she said “mayb”. We were talking over texts and the phone before, and I still talk to her (only texts), but it seems that nothing has changed other than my akwardness. Also, It would have been my first date, but not hers. I asked her only yesterday so I’m still tense. How long should I wait before I ask her again… with more specifics. Please help me… I’m so lost. Send me an e-mail. trevor _ chapin @ att . net >

trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 33 minutes after post)

what should i say to lead into it???

Tator03 23 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 49 minutes after post)

You know she already know that you like her, by you asking her out. YOu have taken the first steps so just sit back and see what happens. But wait and see what your mom say to you after she talks to your dad. Get your mom to try the cook out thing or something of the sort and if her parents accepts great and then you will get a chance to get the vibe if she likes you from there. Then maybe she is waiting to see how far you will go to get her to go out with you. You have asked her let your mom see what she can do and wait on the rest for a few days.

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trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 18 minutes after post)

thank you so much. its good to have an “insider” on that side of the situation.

trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 52 minutes after post)

but what should i say to lead into it???

trevor_chapi edited this post 1 month, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

I asked this girl out while texting and she said “mayb”. We had come back from a school trip to Peru two weeks before. While we were there, we spent a lot of time together. We were holding hands and hugging while there, and we were close to kissing once. I told her that I liked her before we left, and she seemed okay with it. She kept talking to me like we were before. But when I asked her out just recently, over a text (I can’t meet up with her), she said “mayb”. We were talking over texts and the phone before, and I still talk to her (only texts), but it seems that nothing has changed other than my akwardness. Also, It would have been my first date, but not hers. I asked her only yesterday so I’m still tense. How long should I wait before I ask her again… with more specifics. Please help me… I’m so lost. Send me an e-mail. trevor _ chapin @ att . net >

Satan's Smith 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 2 minutes after post)

well if your anything like me, im not very “normal” in that i do a lot of s*** that most guys won’t or wouldn’t around girls, then just straight up ask her with out any lead ins. If your not, then something like… oh i don’t know, “what’s your favorite movie or kind of food” and even if it isn’t what YOU like just agree with her ;) now i know a lot of people will strongly disagree with me on that but trust me you might even start to like.

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Tator03 23 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 20 minutes after post)

Best of all start the relationship (even if it is just friends) Be honest.

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trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 10 minutes after post)

i’ve already begun the relationship, i’ve been completely honest, but I’m afraid that if I’m too blunt in asking; she won’t see that I care about her.

trevor_chapi edited this post 1 month, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

I asked this girl out while texting and she said “mayb”. We had come back from a school trip to Peru two weeks before. While we were there, we spent a lot of time together. We were holding hands and hugging while there, and we were close to kissing once. I told her that I liked her before we left, and she seemed okay with it. She kept talking to me like we were before. But when I asked her out just recently, over a text (I can’t meet up with her), she said “mayb”. We were talking over texts and the phone before, and I still talk to her (only texts), but it seems that nothing has changed other than my akwardness. Also, It would have been my first date, but not hers. I asked her only yesterday so I’m still tense. How long should I wait before I ask her again… with more specifics. Please help me… I’m so lost. Send me an e-mail. < trevor _ chapin @ att . net >

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

be patience sent sms with lovely mood till she accept to come

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 1 hour after post)

Tator03 wrote:
This is coming from a mom. First do your parents let you date? If yes talk to your parents about her and let them know how you feel. Maybe they can do a cookout or something and have them invite her and her family over. If they do not want it at there house do it at a local park. Then you can see her and your parents can meet her. If you really like her. But if the answer is no that your not to be dating leave it alone because if you get caught your going to be in more trouble than it is worth.

Shut up you stupid *****, stop giving this kid bad advice

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trevor_chapi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 6 hours after post)

then what would u say, hdhdhdh?

apple_2 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 11 hours after post)

Ive done the same as u Trevor. There is this gorgeous girl at my school and i have known her for about 8 months or so and over the last 2 weeks ive talked alot more to her and stuff. She made alot of eye contact with me and then i asked her out. I did this over MSN cause i dont know her number or address, i was straight out honest and said that wanted to take her out to see a movie. I made the conversation funny with some silly stuff and some jokes then asked her and she said this.”IF i get a chance, yer!”.

Now is that a good sign or???

Cause ive never realy asked anyone out before O.o

Any steps i should take next?

BTW she cant go out atm as she is doing work experience for the week.

apple_2 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 11 hours after post)

I forgot to say that i did it over MSN because im prolly not going to see her for ages unless i ask her out in the first place. Lol

apple_2 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 11 hours after post)

BTW i was REALY hnoest with her. I told her that if i had the chance i would have asked her out in person but i wasnt going to see her for a while so…

apple_2 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 days, 13 hours after post)

Oh BTW Trevor… People keep saying there is a no text asking out rule which is silly tbh. Ask her out how you want. Or find out how she would like to be asked out lol.

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