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Why does everything seem to be going wrong?

Lately, I have been more stressed out than ever. I’m worried about so much right now. I don’t know where my life is taking me. It seems like everything is just falling apart. I’m entering my second year of college. I transferred from a small private school to a relatively big public university (but it’s out of state). It’s closer to home so that I don’t have to worry about flying back and forth, but it still requires a good amount of driving (about 6 hours away from home). Classes start soon, and I have run into a whole bunch of problems that need to be taken care of right away. My biggest concern is housing for next year. The school has an urban campus, so I absolutely have to find an apartment. The thing is that I have no idea how to go about finding one. I’m so worried and confused; I just don’t know what to do. Moving into an apartment doesn’t make my parents too happy; it’s going to cost a lot. I’m so focused on my education that I don’t want to have to take time off to save money for the rest of college. I’m hoping to take out some loans, but I don’t want to graduate with a lot of debt. Maybe I shouldn’t have transferred and just stayed at my old school, even though I wouldn’t be happy. My parents have been separated for over a year now, although they’re not divorced. My mother is the only one employed but barely making enough to raise her four children. I feel so bad for her. I wish I could do more to help, instead of spending money on college. But, I know it will be better in the long run if I stay in school. I guess I’m at a stage where I’ve lost a sense of direction in life. I’m wondering where it’s taking me.

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Why does everything seem to be going wrong? Lately, I have been more stressed out than ever. I’m worried about so much right now. I don’t know where my life is taking me. It seems like everything is just falling apart. I’m entering my second year of college. I transferred from a small private school to a relatively big public university (but it’s out of state). It’s closer to home so that I don’t have to worry about flying back an forth, but it still requires a good amount of driving (about 6 hours away from home). Classes start soon, and I have run into a whole bunch of problems that need to be taken care of right away. My biggest concern is housing for next year. The school has an urban campus, so I absolutely have to find an apartment. The thing is that I have no idea how to go about finding one. I’m so worried and confused; I just don’t know what to do. Moving into an apartment doesn’t make my parents too happy; it’s going to cost a lot. I’m so focused on my education that I don’t want to have to take time off to save money for the rest of college. I’m hoping to take out some loans, but I don’t want to graduate with a lot of debt. Maybe I shouldn’t have transferred and just stayed at my old school, even though I wouldn’t be happy. My parents have been separated for over a year now, although they’re not divorced. My mother is the only one employed but barely making enough to raise her four children. I feel so bad for her. I wish I could do more to help, instead of spending money on college. But, I know it will be better in the long run if I stay in school. I guess I’m at a stage where I’ve lost a sense of direction in life. I’m wondering where it’s taking me.

punckrok offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Don’t worry about student loans. Everyone has them, and everyone has to pay them off. It’s basically part of going to school if you’re not from a wealthy family. You pay them off over time, and you should be making enough money when you get out of school that it won’t be a problem.

You can usually find an apartment for something close to the cost of living at the school. Don’t get a fancy apartment, just something that will suit your needs.

The best thing you can do for your family and for yourself is to stay in school. 2 or 3 more years will go by fast and at that point, you can be financially independent and maybe even help your mom out.

Try to think of one problem at a time… sometimes that makes it easier and less overwhelming.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

i’m having the same problems, so i know how you’re feeling. i had hoped to not be in debt at all; i was going to go to flight school. now i’m going to get kicked off my parent’s insurance for not being in school anymore (i’ve already completed my first year of college). soo, it’s last minute and i’m attempting to find a school to transfer to. and i agree with punckrok :) that’s the way i’m going :) you took the words right from my finger tips.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Thanks so much for your encouragement. :)

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optimismiles offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

i feel like everything is falling apart with me too. maybe it’s something in the air. i just keep reminding myself of things on a larger scale. look online for an apartment though, there’s tons. also, if you have a chance to go in the town and look- go to a real estate office, or look at fliers of people looking for roomates. good luck, things will sort out i keep telling myself. so i shall tell you the same.

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mcollar offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

The school will often have a housing board. COnsider finding a roommate or group of them. Large houses are best.

Good luck.

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Deputy Hazel offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours after post)

what about sharing a place with your mom and siblings?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 29 minutes after post)

Some of the happyest people started in the worst places, keep with yourself. Lots of schools are out there and maybe you just need to find one that is more practical.

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