Love help: I have an on-going relationship with my ex… i broke up - Help.com

Being in the situation your ex is in… I would have to say that my opinion is she may still love you with all her heart, but it may be very hard for her to see you where you hurt her so bad. She might be trying to figure out her own feelings on the matter. Moms never make things any easier, but it’s because she doesn’t want her daughter to get hurt that bad again. I think you two should talk more at least. Try to see what is going through her mind. I wish my ex felt this way, but it is what it is and we can only live through it and move on. I’ll be around if you want to talk more.

She is also confuse as you are. Please do not think that you are the only one confused. That is actually the usual result when one become close friends with an ex. It would be a little difficult to really let go when you both know that it is better to move on.

if you broke up with her because you didn’t think you were treating her right, you should’ve just treatd her better! and now you can’t see her because her mom is pissed that you broke up with her? is that correct?

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if you broke up with her because you didn’t think you were treating her right, you should’ve just treatd her better! and now you can’t see her because her mom is pissed that you broke up with her? is that correct?

i have to quote this and say that i understand where he is coming from… it’s hard to imagine but it’s possible to put yourself into his shoes. Sorry, anon, didn’t mean to hijack your post here…

i understand that i should’ve treated her better, im fully aware of that but when you have a 54hr a week job you are really limited… and yes because i broke up with her, her mother wont let me talk to her… her idea is that i was only thinking for myself, when i really wasnt. She also happen to tell L* my ex that “she shouldnt take guys back because we felt sorry and wanted to get back, that on the long run we would just do it again”… Her mom is a single mother, i believe she has gone through a great deal of disappointments… I’ve called my ex a couple of time during the day, she didnt answer… i really think my chances are just slipping away… i cant consentrate at work, i dont go out… which are things i did alot

Don’t let her not answering get you down. She might just be busy. Like I said, she’s probably just as confused as you are right now and might just need a little time. And as for her mother… Single moms are usually burned somehow in their lives, and they want to protect their children from making the same mistakes because they don’t want to see their children hurting as much as they once did. On the other hand, I know L* can think for herself, too. It is hard to do though when you have another trying to beat down everything you think of… been there, done that, where’s my **** t-shirt?!
I still know how you feel, and I can’t say I blame you or her at this point. I’m still around if you’d like to talk more :D

Its a really hard situation ive been in the same, Me and my fiance split up because of a bad term relationship as it had alot of stress in it, then we got back together and he split with me again i felt lost betrayed and lonely! maybe she doesnt want to go through the same situation, weve been sleeping together in the 5 months we split up and hes been saying “were working on things” then his attitude totally changes! Hes not affectionate (which alot of females like) Im really considering calling it a day… trust me if she loves you that much she will realise what she wants .. leave the decision in her hands though and dont pressurise her.. It will get easier! Give her time to think things through! xx