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Trust:Friend to Friend(From a site called Crosswalk)

What do we have when we trust someone we love?We have the unwavering faith that they are always truthful with us. Truth in the words they say, truth in their actions, truth in the way they live out their convictions.Sometimes the truth hurts, but when said in love, can make us grow into better people.

When we begin to place our trust in someone, we begin to reveal our true selves to them.We break down the protective wall that was once wrapped tightly around our hearts, and we begin to let them in. We reveal our past, our hopes, our dreams, our disappointments, and our expectations.We, in essence, allow ourselves to become vulnerable.

When we trust someone, we assume he or she has our best interest in mind and we begin to love them unconditionally. We believe whole-heartedly that they wouldn’t do anything to hurt us.

Our security in the relationship is strong and unbreakable when we trust.Our stamina to brave the storms is unwavering.We feel like we can conquer any trial life throws at us because we trust each other. Two are stronger than one. We are finally our true self.

But what happens when that trust is broken? Truth turns into lies. Revealing turns into confusion.Unconditional love turns into nit-picking.Our security is ripped apart and our vulnerable and true self is buried once again in the self-protective shell of our broken heart.

I have asked myself many times, why is it that we (I) trust someone and they always end up hurting me whether it be intentionally or unintentionally?The question that I should be asking myself is why do I place so much faith in human beings?We are all so flawed and eventually we all disappoint someone we love.
Suggestion;
Start a gratitude journal.Write one thing each day that you are thankful for even if it small .
We often put our trust in our spouse or friends to make us happy.
Do your relationships need help?Check out Mary’s book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those who rub you the wrong way .—- The following is for us believers;
Proverbs 3: 5-6.Trust in the Lord with all your heart & lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

We often put our trust in our spouse or friends to make us happy instead of keeping our eyes focused on the One who is always truthful with us, always has our best interests in mind and loves us so much. We must remind ourselves that God is with us through every storm and disappointment that life brings us. He knows our true vulnerable selves, and He loves us more than we will ever know.

Why do I not remember that I should only care to play to an audience of One, when He is the only one I will have to answer to at the end of this life?
Wake up each day and thank Him for all He has given us.
Start a gratitude journal.Write one thing each day that you are thankful for even if it seems small.Write down what you will trust Him with and be specific.
Let’s Pray
Lord, please refresh my mind each day to remember all of the good things in life that You have given me - a home, a husband, my healthy children, a job and friends who genuinely care about me.I trust You, Lord, to take my disappointment in others and mold my brokenness into a tool of trust and hope no matter what is going on in my life.In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Live Well, Laugh Often and Love Much-Kim :D

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (25 minutes after post)

i’ll read it soon, i promise, i gotta sort some stuff out but i will read it :D

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Amen:)

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

its all true and good. well apart from people lying. I always find something within the day to say thanks for :) and I always ask for god to look after the people I care about or who seem to be having probs.he does help aswell.he helps loads, hes always helping me and other people, I believe

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wow that is one of the best things i have ever read thank you so much for putting it on

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its true aswell :)

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YOur welcome.I didn’t write it but I did edit it and agree with it.

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thanks for sharing this xx

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nice one fel, im on a course today, Electrical Engineering (Boring ) I will certainly reply, this means heaps

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 hours, 53 minutes after post)

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Thanks for that Ireland.I appreciate it.I didn’t know what copy-infringement was…I hope you are well and enjoying your new puter room

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Trust:Friend to Friend

What do we have when we trust someone we love?We have the unwavering faith that they are always truthful with us. Truth in the words they say, truth in their actions, truth in the way they live out their convictions.Sometimes the truth hurts, but when said in love, can make us grow into better people.

When we begin to place our trust in someone, we begin to reveal our true selves to them.We break down the protective wall that was once wrapped tightly around our hearts, and we begin to let them in. We reveal our past, our hopes, our dreams, our disappointments, and our expectations.We, in essence, allow ourselves to become vulnerable.

When we trust someone, we assume he or she has our best interest in mind and we begin to love them unconditionally. We believe whole-heartedly that they wouldn’t do anything to hurt us.

Our security in the relationship is strong and unbreakable when we trust.Our stamina to brave the storms is unwavering.We feel like we can conquer any trial life throws at us because we trust each other. Two are stronger than one. We are finally our true self.

But what happens when that trust is broken? Truth turns into lies. Revealing turns into confusion.Unconditional love turns into nit-picking.Our security is ripped apart and our vulnerable and true self is buried once again in the self-protective shell of our broken heart.

I have asked myself many times, why is it that we (I) trust someone and they always end up hurting me whether it be intentionally or unintentionally?The question that I should be asking myself is why do I place so much faith in human beings?We are all so flawed and eventually we all disappoint someone we love.
Suggestion;
Start a gratitude journal.Write one thing each day that you are thankful for even if it small .
We often put our trust in our spouse or friends to make us happy.
Do your relationships need help?Check out Mary’s book, Sandpaper People, for practical ways to deal with those who rub you the wrong way .—- The following is for us believers;
Proverbs 3: 5-6.Trust in the Lord with all your heart & lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

We often put our trust in our spouse or friends to make us happy instead of keeping our eyes focused on the One who is always truthful with us, always has our best interests in mind and loves us so much. We must remind ourselves that God is with us through every storm and disappointment that life brings us. He knows our true vulnerable selves, and He loves us more than we will ever know.

Why do I not remember that I should only care to play to an audience of One, when He is the only one I will have to answer to at the end of this life?
Wake up each day and thank Him for all He has given us.
Start a gratitude journal.Write one thing each day that you are thankful for even if it seems small.Write down what you will trust Him with and be specific.
Let’s Pray
Lord, please refresh my mind each day to remember all of the good things in life that You have given me - a home, a husband, my healthy children, a job and friends who genuinely care about me.I trust You, Lord, to take my disappointment in others and mold my brokenness into a tool of trust and hope no matter what is going on in my life.In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Live Well, Laugh Often and Love Much-Kim :D

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 hours, 34 minutes after post)

I am scared to trust. Though in the beginning i would try. But when i feel some seeds of doubt, i immediately take back the trust i just gave. It’s not that they are worth it. But i am scared it might not work out.

It is just sad that when i give up, they interpret it in a different way. I could never blame them too. That’s how i am.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 hours, 1 minute after post)

lillies, I had a friend who because he had been taken advantage of by another friend of his,he treated our friendship differently.It was unfair to me when I asked him for something. He wouldn’t help me and that made me mad and it hurt.It wasn’t my fault or wrong doing.It ultimately scarred our relationship,almost ruined in in fact.Do you know what I mean? It’s not right to carry over that untrust onto someone else.we need to place blame or responsibility where it belongs ,put it behind and allow ourselves to give of ourselves again.YOu say ‘when I give up’ -we must never give up on others as well as ourselves before giving things a fighting chance.And you say ‘they misinterpret’ Maybe they don’t ,they are probably hurt and feel an unjust has been done on them personally.When we have seeds of doubt all we need to do is make a mental note of it and/or confront the person ……I hope that helps.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 hours, 4 minutes after post)

I hang onto faith by a thread (no pun intended) despite the fact that I don’t really trust God anymore. He/she has let me down too many times. I know, you’ll say that God has never let anyone down. But if one experiences unanswered prayer and a lack of spiritual comfort, then the net effect is of either being left out to dry, or that God is not (yet) as omnipotent as the book claims, or isn’t playing by the rules in the book. “God does answer every prayer, but sometimes the answer is ‘No.’” is a rationalization. Trust is earned.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 hours, 23 minutes after post)

Sans, I pondered this for a bit.Although it makes me sad for you,I understand how you could come to this.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (7 hours, 54 minutes after post)

sansceriph wrote:
I hang onto faith by a thread (no pun intended) despite the fact that I don’t really trust God anymore. He/she has let me down too many times. I know, you’ll say that God has never let anyone down. But if one experiences unanswered prayer and a lack of spiritual comfort, then the net effect is of either being left out to dry, or that God is not (yet) as omnipotent as the book claims, or isn’t playing by the rules in the book. “God does answer every prayer, but sometimes the answer is ‘No.’” is a rationalization. Trust is earned.

I agree will put sansceriph. I know alot of people don’t like us who are not believer to say stuff like this but for those who have lived out lives it is hard to see it anyway else. I hope I don’t always feel like this but time will tell that problem.

Kim - I do love what you posted. It quite true in many respects. I do rely on my family and friends for my happiness which why I have problems when they have major issues. I am trying to change that. I have felt that sting of having the trust turn to lies and the hurt lingers for years. Like I said it is very true. Thank you for sharing.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 hours, 55 minutes after post)

broussardhh wrote:
I agree will put sansceriph. I know alot of people don’t like us who are not believer to say stuff like this but for those who have lived out lives it is hard to see it anyway else.

Actually that’s the irony. I still believe in God. Even if there was no such thing as heaven (and I don’t think of it as a bejeweled city anyway), even if prayers and hope radiate into nothingness like the ripples of a stone dropped in a pond, living in the pursuit of authentic love is worth it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 week after post)

Thanks for posting this. I needed that too. Last week was hell and I’m thankful it’s over. :) I’m sorry about some of you here feeling a little downish and I hope things get better. Here if you need me.
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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 week after post)

Nikko, So good to hear from you! Im glad to hear things are better now too.Shout me sometime,I miss you:(

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 week after post)

Aww, thanks. I’ve been meaning to catch up with everyone individually, but I’ve been running through my invites before they scroll away. I’ve been back about 2 days now, but with a few web problems along the way. Five computers and then this network mess - epps! I’ll be thankful when it’s over too :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 week after post)

Just a suggestion Nikko,You could make a quick little post and invite all your friends.

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