friends help: Two people in my life who i used to be really close to have been treating me appalingly over the past two years. - Help.com

stop being freinds with her and break it off as clean as possible to not stir up more stuff in the process. if she treats you like that then there is no reason to stick around!

I completely agree. This woman is most-likely jealous of you and she gets a sick pleasure out of seeing you crumble. The best thing you can do is not let it get to you, or atleast do make it obvious. It makes her happy to see you in such a bad state so forget her and live your life to the fullest and dont let her get in the way of your happiness. This may not be the best advice but it has happened to me before and ive learned that the best way to deal with it is to just get that person or people out of your life. If this helps you than thats great , if not than sorry but i tried !

OK - the two words that sum this up are SMALL & TOWN

Confront your accuser head on with witnesses who can testify that she is lying.

Act your age - it is childish and you are responding by being hurt like a child, this sounds like it goes back to when you were younger. You are 30 - be 30 - you control your own life.

No-one can damage your relationships with your friends - not if it’s based on a lie. Try and repair your friendships but dont speak about this woman all the time or you will come across as weird.

And no offence intended but your ex-boyfriend is old enough to stick up for himself.

Either confront her and shut her up or move out of tht place. Maybe her money does carry influence - how much of your life are you going to waste obsessing over this.

Make a grown up decision, deal with it and stick to your guns. Remeber slander is a crime, start treating this like a 30yr old would and you may get somewhere - Regards Mas

I live in England I am not sure slander is a crime here. She was behaving very oddly atagonizing me then recording what I said back over the phone and responding to what I was saying in a shocked way so other people in the room would think I was saying something awful. I did not say anything wired to her I did try and stand up to her though.

Slander is a serious crime in England but you have to fund the prosecution yourself - that is why libel cases are usually much more successful it is hard to take back the written word.

But here is the thing, she taped you without your knowledge and replyed it in a public place.

Dont mean to sound hysterical but that has notions of a stalker about it. At the very least she would be cautioned by the Police. I understand you may be reluctant to involve them but - out of a matter of interest - do you and this woman have a man that you share history with - or wished that either of you did?

Something about this shrieks of someone scorned - Mas

No I do not think so but she seems quite keen to make me look like a dishonest person when he was around. I am not entirely sure she was attempting to record what I was saying but I certainly heard clicks like a tape recorder turning on, it could have been at this point I was getting paranoid. I feel so silly for ever being friends with her she was up to this stuff along time before I knew. She makes up negative things about people or exaggerates what you have said, adds negative meaning, etc. It is done in a really subtle way ans she seems to have a lot of control over what others think, I think she says to people do ot mention it to her etc to make herself seem like the nice one again then she is nice to everyone else and everyone treats me like a second rate citizen. I just am really scared of her to be honest and how she has been able to convince intelligent adults that she is right.

Its easy to say that i should be grwon up and not act like a baby but this woman was my best friend I feel like I can not trust people now.

I think she is my sister-in-law - do you live in the M25. It’s true - little horrible people can make your skin crawl and terrorise you and even though you are bigger and older than them - you are like where did that come from? - she used to swipe at me from nowhere.

She was only your friend because she needed something you could give to her. Dont write off the rest of the human race because of this snake. And you need to get a more solid footing. Your self-esteem and confidence have taken a knock through this. I know it’s boring advice but that town will still be there when you wont. At lest get out of there once a week and dont tell a soul where you are going - seriously - dont be tempted to tell anyone. Go to festivals, concerts, I dont know you so cant really give you proper suggestions.

Make a life that puts this woman out of your loop. And then be careful that she doesnt try to sneak back into your life to find out what you have that she hasnt. People like her should be put on an island - Mas

I am being encouraged by these people to remain friends with her she is very convincing. When she lies which I now know she does frequently, she acts like she is telling the truth and she makes people feel sorry for her. It is profoundly difficult to get people to see what is going on. I have excepted that people will not believe me and it is impossible mountain to climb. I am also realise there were warning signs long before this and I should have kept my distance and had her as an occasional friend if any friend at all. In future I will be much more careful about who I make friends with and try to get to know them slowly and if they behave normally let them in further.

Oh by the way she does not live in the M25.

Darn I was sure it was that evil little crone who lived with my millionaire brother lol Thankfully she is but a distant memory but she actually had the police come to my house one night as she convinced them that I was keeping my brother a ‘prisoner’ - oh yes and poisioning him at the same time - actually all the guy had was a massive drink problem which got sorted. Luckily when he sobered up he paid her to go away. But I know how convincing they can be, like shiny gold coins all polished and plausible.