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Ok so there’s this guy.

(isnt there always?) But I’ll tell you about tht in a minute. First you need to know that i’m the kind of person who loves to have fun is always smiling. I lve my friends and they are my life. And one thing that i can NOT stand is teasing and being mean, And when its toward me well, i kind of get upset. Ok so back to this guy. We were goin out for 2 months. And i wouldnt even count it as goin out. We barely talked. We didnt even go anywhere. I mean, that is DEFINITELY not goin out. But i realy like him. I LOVED him, LOVE him. Before we never stopped talking to each other and we hung out. But that changed. And i dumped him. I couldnt stand his brother who would always go around being a total jerk and he hated me. I couldnt take one more person (who i didnt even know!) coming up to me and saying “OMG your goin out with him!!!!??!!!” And also the guy i liked he changed. He used to be good, nice, and well he wasperfect for me. but then he started being mean to my friends. Like he’d walk up to them and start swearing and taking there worst moments and using it against them. He became a thief. He stole from the school. I mean nothing big. He stole the little rubber ball in a wired mouse for a computer. But he still stole. All this time he’s still being nice to me, sometimes. HE sometimes just ignores me. But i still liked him. Don’t ask me why. I won’t be ab;le to tell you. Anyway, as i said i dumped him. And here’s the catch. This was about 2 weeks ago. Then recently (two days ago) He asked me out again. He said he’d change. He said he wouldnt be like he was before. I didnt know wht to say and i dont know if i should go out with him again… help me. What should i do???

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Ok so there’s this guy. (isnt there always?) But I’ll tell you about tht in a minute. First you need to know that i’m the kind of person who loves to have fun is always smiling. I lve my friends and they are my life. And one thing that i can NOT stand is teasing and being mean, And when its toward me well, i kind of get upset. Ok so back to this guy. We were goin out for 2 months. And i wouldnt even count it as goin out. We barely talked. We didnt even go anywhere. I mean, that is DEFINITELY not goin out. But i realy like him. I LOVED him, LOVE him. Before we never stopped talking to each other and we hung out. But that changed. And i dumped him. I couldnt stand his brother who would always go around being a total jerk and he hated me. I couldnt take one more person (who i didnt even know!) coming up to me and saying “OMG your goin out with him!!!!??!!!” And also the guy i liked he changed. He used to be good, nice, and well he wasperfect for me. but then he started being mean to my friends. Like he’d walk up to them and start swearing and taking there worst moments and using it against them. He became a thief. He stole from the school. I mean nothing big. He stole the little rubber ball in a wired mouse for a computer. But he still stole. All this time he’s still being nice to me, sometimes. HE sometimes just ignores me. But i still liked him. Don’t ask me why. I won’t be ab;le to tell you. Anyway, as i said i dumped him. And here’s the catch. This was about 2 weeks ago. Then recently (two days ago) He asked me out again. I didnt know wht to say and i dont know if i should go out with him again… help me. What should i do???

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Rocco. offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 219 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

I say go with your heart. I know on the outside you maybe doubtful, but if you look deep down, I am sure you already know the answer and that is the answer you will most likely use no matter what anybody here will tell you.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

goin with my heart… easier said then done. And your right, i a doubtful on the outside, but i’m doubtful on the inside too. I cant have hope that i’ll be with him and just have him tare me down again. I dont even know what my heart thinks..

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

I’m glad you dumped him. Stay his friend for a while so he can prove that he has changed.

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liz13 offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

I agree with rocco. If you believe the guy has changed give him another chance but let him know that if he is mean again he will end up back on his own. Be strong and tell him exctly where he stands

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Rocco. offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 219 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Your heart doesn’t think, it merely convinces your brain to think in a new way.
Tell him that you are angry with him. Tell him you do not like the man he is becoming.
Let him know that he becomes himself again, and you go back. Or becomes this new self, and you leave.

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