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I only know what you wrote. You made it sound like he cares for and enjoys “All-ee-sohn” and then you said “I got over my issues with him when he dramatically proved that he was over her and truly only loved me.”

He will always be friends with allison. Think about it. I cant say if he is right or wrong, only that if he is going to be your man, Allison will be a part of your life.

If it’s really bothering you that much, ask him.

And by the way you’ve wrote things here, you’re not over her.

i agree with raymond as well hun… you are not over the fact that your b/f still has feelings for his ex. you need to work on that as well. Ask him if you want to, but if you TRUELY are “OVER” he and allison, then it wouldn’t bother you that he’s going to see her… right?

kmichelle wrote:
Anyway, I got over my issues with him when he dramatically proved that he was over her and truly only loved me.
So fast forward to present day, and he still talks to Allison, but I’m okay with it, because she’s in a long term relationship too.

This is disproved by the fact that you’re on here worried about him.

As for confronting him, do what you feel is necessary. Let me copy and paste something I wrote earlier today.

Råymond wrote:
Love is three parts.

One part forgiveness, one part acceptance, and one part trust.

If you say something that offends him and he loves you, he’ll forgive you. Don’t worry about censoring yourself to him. :)

If you trust the man, trust him now! Otherwise, don’t and tell him so!

LET IT GO girl. i say it is your problem with trust…and if you try to ban his friendship with her then you are a)operating in fear b)in distrust and c)neither is good for you or any relationship so its better you change then he even agree to not see her. you have a problem with trust - work on it. joyce meyer dot org has lots of resources (she’s christian though so if you’re not into GOd, may not be for you, but VEry useful even if you’re not into God).

I’d say focus on thinking about the positive/how he is with you and leave it alone.
whatever is meant to be will unfold anyway - you being paranoid/feeling he has to disclose everything will only make him feel trapped.

maybe later you will want to have a conversation with him that you have a problem with trust re this girl still…can he help you with that, just so its in the open. secrets are the worst, espec. if working on something. dont worry girl. like you said, he’s good to you.

kmichelle wrote:
I don’t think that he’s going to cheat on me with her, I really don’t even consider it a possibility.

Then why are you worried?

kmichelle wrote:
Am I really that untrustful just to think it’s suspicious that he avoided telling me who he was talking to?

Maybe you heard wrong? One second, I’m going to look up a post I made yesterday.

Read this post.

http://help.com/post/180461-i-am-tryi…

Did the post i linked make sense?

sdv wrote:
listen closelyi am a dudebelieve my words, womanhe is cheating on you. [he probably has been from the beginning. this isn’t to make you feel bad, but i swear it’s 90% likely to be true.

Don’t listen to him. the only way he knows is if he’s your boyfriend or allison.
I’m a male also.

The only thing that it could mean to me is that maybe he’s not comfortable telling you some things. If he likes you as much as you’ve insinuated that he likes you, maybe you’ve given him a reason to hide some things?

That’s why I linked the post that I linked. That’s what I was hoping you’d take away from it.

You have nothing to worry about.

He is just hiding his actions which are pure and good, to make you feel better.

You are not suspicious or overbearing, and you do not seem like you are.

You two have a wonderful relationship.

kmichelle you need to listen to Raymond and talk to your bf about what you heard. Be open and upfront, but calm and non confrontational. Get it all out in the open.
Things like this will fester until they become BIG problems if they’re not nipped in the bud.

You are allowed to bring her name up you heard him say it and you are his girlfriend , it may be innocent , but if so why did he not tell you he was talking to her , don’t be the one who keeps her mouth shut and then finds out in the end he wants her or is seeing you both . I wish you luck and please shout me and let me know how you make out , I hope it’s innocent , you sound like you’re in love and I wouldn’t want to see you get hurt ……………RON.

that sounds like a plan.
I think he is hiding it from you because this is exactly what he doesn’t want to happen. He loves you. He does not want to give you a reason to worry. Just act like nothing happened or tell him what you heard and that you don’t care if he hangs with her. Don’t give him reasons to hide things.

Hmm this is suspicious. Maybe he does think that you don’t trust him with hr. Otherwise he would tell you he’s going to see her. I think you guys have trust issues with each other (no offense) but you definitely need to ask him about it and just be honest and say you heard what he said on the phone. Let him know that you don’t think he’s cheating but that you don’t understand why he lied. Why would he hide it if he knew you trusted him?

kmichelle I think we all want to know how it went, and if “she” dropped him off.
It is getting to sound very suspicious :(
I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Sounds good
good job

Sounds good
good job