You need to adjust to your new town and new environment. You need to mingle specially if you’re single! That’s my motto!
How? I don’t know anybody and when ever i get around a cute guy i start stuttering and blushing. maybe i just feel down. i need a confidence boost.
Have you tried just being you?
I don’t know. I would imagine so but I could be wrong. Truth is I feel like I would just be bothering someone. Which is so unlike me I can’t even begin to explain.
alright, aside from the whole dating thing, which is tricky even in your own hometown, try to find friends within your immediate day to day social interactions. Do you work? Do you got to school? These are great places to find friends. Are you religious? Try to find a church, temple, mosque near you and ask them if they have a club or something. Just be safe, no matter what you do and where you look for friends. Anyone you meet in a public place that you don’t really know to be associated with a community, like a starbucks, don’t bring over to your house on the first get-together. Meet in another public place to get to know them. You can never be too safe.
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by the way, why the sudden move? Did you move there for a job? What’s your career? I’m asking because I’m in college and I’d eventually like to move away and start up somewhere new. What’s it like? Does it take alot of money to do it?
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Listen, we all have that. When we move to a new school, to a new town, to a new area, but it will time to adjust. You just need to give yourself time. Don’t despair. I bet you somewhere where you moved to there’s a guy who sees you and turns into a mumbling idiot when he sees you!
i moved here for college i got accepted into a top culinary school like 7 blocks away from my new apt. i love the city and i know it has a lot to offer me but i can’t seem to bust out of my shell. i know things will be easier once i start school in august but it seems so far away from now. i grew up in a huge family 4 bros and sisters. i’m the oldest at 18.
thank you i think that’s just what i needed to hear. i’m just not used to being alone. i never realized how much i depended on my friends and family back home they give me the safety i need to step out of my comfort zone
you’re 18 and you’re in culinary school! Wow! Did you attend any other college? My family is originally from Chicago. Is it expensive to live there? Are you taking out loans? And what made you want to go to culinary school? Sorry for all the questions, I’m just inquisitive. Oh don’t worry, I depend on my fam and friends alot
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See the fact that you’re culinary school is impressive! When you talk to a new person, male or female mention that! You’re not just going to “college” you’re going to “culinary school.” That’s impressive!
Put me down as one of your friends if you want and whenever you want to talk, just look for me here! Can I put you as one of my friends? As a matter of fact both of you put me down as your friends. You can never have too many friends.
ok first things first…
-my high school has an off site vocational school that has an awesome culinary program. i went there and to senior year for and during that time i was working really hard to meet requirements for college
- it is expensive put my family is sort of well off and in 2000 i was in a car accident. a lady ran a red light and slammed into our car the window i was sitting next to shattered and i had to have plastic surgery and all sorts of other things. the insurance settlement was somewhere upwards of $30,000 so i have had that money in a mutual fund just collecting more and more interest.
-also my dad is a marine veteran so i get money form uncle sam like $40,000 or something so i’m super lucky and well covered for.
- and i love cooking. i get so passionate about it. i love being creative and thinking of how the different ingredients would taste together.
- and don’t worry i am really nosy too.
and i don’t know how to add as friends. sorry. i’m new to this
Click the blue man righ above the word “ago” next to your name!
Keep on rocking! Chicago, my kind of town!
Um… just out of curiosity, you wouldn’t mean Merrillville, Indiana, would you?
nope, greenwood. but i’ve been to merrillville. is that where you r from?
Yep. It’s not a bad area, Chicagoland. You’ll learn to like it.
oh liking it isn’t the problem. i’m madly in love with the city. i love how different everything is from my tiny town. i just get shy around people.
No worries, just start talking to people about stupid things. Obvious things. Sit at the bus stop and ask if they know when the next bus is coming. Talk about the weather, sports, music, or any other popular topic. Once the ice is broken, you can talk about anything else. Then, you’ve made a friend.
Xeno Dragon knows how to break the ice!
omg you just opened up a whole can of worms. i can’t ride the bus!! i’ll get lost. in a dark alley!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well, I assume you go out in public for other reasons? Lol.
yes, smart aleck lol. i just moved in 2 weeks ago. i need time. to conqeur my irrational fears.
Well, you know what t do, at least. That’s far better than most of the other people we get on here.
if you don’t mind my asking how did you find out about this place? how long have you been on here? r there really alot of creepsters and losers?
Oh, god I love this question. It makes me feel important! Lol.
I’ve been here for one year, two months.
I have 147 posts, roughly 12,300 replies, and have helped nearly three and a half thousand people.
I found it… hmm… I don’t really remember how I found it. I think I just Googled the word “Help.”
Yes, there are a lot of creeps, but we call them trolls, scammers, and spamers. And if you find one, report them. If the mods aren’t on, find me. I’ll handle it.
There are also some losers… but if we help them, they usually become functional.
“There are also some losers… but if we help them, they usually become functional.”
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Thanks a lot Xeno Dragon for showing me up! Now I will go to my corner and think of something smart to tell you! *littlenick sticks his tongue out to Xeno Dragon.*
that’s exactly the way i found it. i’m really glad i did. that’s amazingly impressive that you helped so many people. i’m like proud to have met you lol
Lol, well, I’m by no means the only one here who’s done a lot. There are plenty of other ancients, and even more regular members.
ok for real say something to give me the courage to ride the bus!! this is a test. i wanna see how good you really are lol
Courage to ride the bus? Don’t you want to see the Chicago scenery? That would be enough courage for me!
Hehehe… Well, there’s the obvious. Carry a knife/pepper spray/map/gps/brass knuckles/bazooka combo. or, travel with other people until you get used to it. Or, you could always ask each bus driver what to do, where to get off, etc.
oh dang i left my bazooka at home. lol
i have to admit that was strangely uplifting. i don’t know if that was the extra push i needed. but i am inspired to take another step.
you’re probably wondering what the step is but i can’t think of anything either. i’m sure ot will come to me at an extremely obscure moment.
giving me realiztions at obscure moments? cause i feel the need to remind you we just met. and i haven’t had very many obscure moments in the 2 hrs i’ve been on here. ;)
No, not that. The other part. Strangely uplifting, extra push, inspiration, all that good stuff.
i was just looking around and reading other people’s posts and stuff and i gotta be honest i had no idea how hard it would be for me to give advice. in my family we always solved everything in the kitchen with food and love everywhere. i never had to really deal anything alone. i just want to give everyone in pain a tight hug. and tell them everything will work out in the end.
Maximina just moved from Tucson to Chicago. She’s not online right now but I’ll invite her to your post.
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Hi Malori. Welcome to my part of the world, both virtual and geographically. I understand what you are going through. Six years ago I moved to Tucson to go to grad school. I didn’t know anyone and shortly after I started the program I realized that it was not what I wanted to do. Like you I am not shy, but I felt very lonely the first couple of months. Once I entered a grad program for teaching and got a job things got much better. I just moved back to the Chicago area one month ago. I live in a burb, but I love the city. I am actually headed for downtown in the next hour. I am so HAPPY to be back.
Maybe you should find some kind of organization or club to belong to. Why don’t you take a cooking class while you are waiting for your program to begin? What other interests do you have? Remember when you see your neighbors always look them in the eye, smile and say hi. You will meet people and make friends, but it is going to take patience. If you are brave and put yourself out there, you will make friends faster.
As far as giving advice to others, you should try it. With all that love you received from your family, I bet you would have love to give to someone in need. Ooooh that just made me thing of an idea for you. Volunteering for a good cause is a great way to meet quality people. People who volunteer tend to be outgoing, have connections, be open minded, and fun.
If you have any questions don’t be afraid to ask. :D
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