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Ok so I’ve known this girl for almost three years.

My buddy from school gave me advice and helped me talk to this girl when I first met her. Things were going good and we almost became friends until my buddy told my other friend that I liked this girl. Then the word got out and I was too nervous to talk to her. Things went from bad to worse. I couldn’t talk to this girl and my buddies were no longer there to help me. So I thought that at that point that I should start instant messaging her more often. At fisrt it worked but since I didn’t talk to her in real life she started to ignore me. I got furious and told her how i felt about her, which was a really bad idea. She didn’t really say anything about it and then at school she would give me this glare and then on instant messaging she called me a crepper. The truth is I’ve tried to move on but I fell like I can turn things around. I fell like I’m to obsessed with her beacuse I cant stop thinking about her, messaging her, etc. This fall we have two classes together and I was wondering if anyone could tell me what I could do and how I can become a friend of hers instead of a creeper.

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animalchic offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

just let her know (even if its not true) that u JUST want to be her friend.. confront her after class …. tap her shoulder and say can i talk to you…. maybe she’ll soften up if you stop IMing her… you can keep thinking about her:)

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Malori In Love ♥ offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 717 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

ok i don’t know if this is the advice you’re looking for but it’s all i’ve got. girls love guys who know what they want and go after it. you have to realize this is your only chance to ask her out, to make an impression. if you want her enough you have to swallow you’re nerves and you’re reluctance to approach her. go for it and be confident. make her believe she wants to go out with you. that’s all you can do. and i’m sure this girl is special or you wouldn’t want to go out with her, but darling there are other fish in the sea.

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Soccer_32 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

thanks for the advice also i forgot to mention that i am 16.

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2 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

ok, i would say don’t try anything to drastic for the moment. just smile at her if you walk past each other and say hi in class every now and then. maybe stop IMing her for a while. just talk to her sometimes so she can see you are not a creep.

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liz13 offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 39 minutes after post)

yeah I agree with the others. Don’t be too obsessive cause then she will start to think this is wat you would be like in a relationship. Relationships need space so before you ask her out (if you decide to) be cool with her for a bit. Don’t talk every day or anything just every now and again. I remember some obsessive times from schol when I was totally in love with someone and it doesnt go down well when you are always wherever they are. Let her know you can be apart from her without totally freaking out. Good Luck :D

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (6 days, 10 hours after post)

i agree with the others ask her out and act like a gentleman, don’t push things, just flow with the flow if it flows.

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