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I dont think her made cooked the food yet. I thought the poster said her mom was going to cook after the show… And thats not the only issue she has with her mom thats just one example.

I would help you but i dont know what to say other than keep your head up and hopefully your mom will see what shes doing to you soon

I’m a Dad, so I don’t quite get the mother daughter relationship. I know what Freud says about the Electra complex, but I don’t buy it 100%. I have hear however that the mother / daughter relationship can be very stressful at times. I doubt it has anything to do with hormones, although I suppose it could. I’m thinking your mom has some other stresses that you maybe are not aware of. Did you mom over-react, in my opinion yes (but I’m a Dad). In a sense you did disobey your mom. You asked if you were eating before the show, and she said no… you left the place you had apparently agreed to meet and got food (before the show, even though you mom said you were not eating before the show) Over reaction… yeah I think so, but parents can get wrapped up in having children that are obedient. Where is your Dad in all this?

For a Dad, I think Richard gave an excellent reply.

I’m a Daughter and a Mom.

I see two things happening here.

You are obviously growing up and you have now started seeing your Mom through different eyes then when you were younger, for you it’s not about just doing what you are told anymore, it’s about using your own brain and with that you see her imperfections.

She is now having to adjust to that and for a mother that can be very frustrating, some mothers do not know how to handle their daughters becoming more mature and independent. It’s like with my daughter, I knew long ago that the teen years would naturally put a distance between us, that’s just nature. I told her long ago, “I’ll miss you when you hate me”. She thought that wouldn’t happen and said “I’ll never hate you Mommy”, but now she’s getting older and she sees what I was talking about. She doesn’t see me as perfect anymore, she sees my flaws, they were always there, but now she sees them and even though I knew she would, it doesn’t make it any easier.

Like your Mother, my own Mother over reacted to a lot of things. I try to remember that with my own daughter, I try not to over react to situations, because I remember how that felt and let’s face it growing up is hard enough as it is, I imagine sometimes I fail and blow my top especially when feeling helpless in a situation.

Sweet :) thanks Fizz