Love help: so, how do I find love? - Help.com

Spirited, you don’t find love sometimes love finds you when you least expect it!

We don’t make arrangement to find love, love makes arrangements to find us…!

Why|?

Hang on…aren’t you like 20??

So you can’t say you’ve given the “waiting” a fair try really can you.

You just need to get out there and enjoy yourself before love comes. Because its heavy and overwhelming and you will never get back what you have now.

Don’t rush into love.

Don’t be depressed.
You can find it, you are beautiful enough if this is your picture, you are beautiful.

People in there 50s have had 50years of finding someone and living life though!

Your problem is your looking for love. You don’t find love, it just happens when you aren’t expecting it.

Right now, just have fun. If you enjoy being with someone romantically then just see where it goes. It may work it may not. Just try to enjoy things rather than expect too much.

Hahaha.
It’s the luck, you are still young, I promise you.
You will be able to find love.

:)

don’t try to force anything! let it come to you. because if you try to make something work, it usually doesn’t.

Try to talk to new people. Trust me it works. Be yourself around someone new and maybe it will spark something

I’ll give you an example of my first and only love of my life spirited.

I was 14 about 6 and a half years ago. I went onto a website called groupboard just to mess around and have fun. I met a girl on this site without even knowing it or looking for anything, but she wound up being the one. We fell in love a few months later and we had an outstanding and passionate relationship for 6 long, wonderful years. Sadly, she wound up cheating on me with someone from the internet and I had to break it off at the beginning of this month.

Just use this as an example. I didn’t go looking for love and neither did she. And even when you find it, it’s all a game of chance.

spiritedsoul wrote:
how do i let it come to me?

You don’t. Thats the secret.

I was not lookinf for love and I found him at my job, he was looking to get out of his marrage and I was it (bad on my part I know, I was just loking for new frineds, I loved myself, had a GREAT hospital job, my own place, 1 car, 1 truck) anyways we got together when he called me 1 night to come and get him, he left his wife.. We were together for 2.5 yrs and then he cheated on me ( I know what goes around come around!) But I learned a lot from him.
I believe in the STARS and when its time for you to met someone you will.
Just take this time to learn YOU and what you want in a partern/lover..
Write what you want in lover, and then change your actions, go out and met people.
I read “The Secret” Its a GREAT book, maybe you can pick up a copy and read it…

[note that I have no experience in this field, just analysis]
Like they say love is something that just happens, like, Death, Betrayal, Winning, etc…

Finding Love can be broken into a formula, ‘Chance’ ‘Time’ and ‘Place’
-Chance is that statistics that something will happen. [Chance is finding love]
-Place is were the most likely place this will occur. [Place is Socializing with people]
-Time is the amount of time you put in ‘Place’, which over all increases your ‘Chance’

So in your case you want to add the most “socializing and meeting people” and the more ‘time’ you put doing that increases your “chance”.

I think that the beauty of love is letting it overcome you when you least expect it .Love cant be forced, so stop looking. For now, focus on loving yourself because it is the first step in loving someone else. Love is about throwing all of your heart into something your not sure of. Its about chance, risk, and in turn reward. Just be patient, dont rush because you may miss your true love.

it’ll come when you least expect it

your question should be “so, how do i find like?” you skipped over like and went to love. do know who you are? do you know makes you happy or sad? do you know how to be fun by yourself and with yourself? are you an introverted or extroverted person? find things that “you like” to do. find others who like to do those things also. i am not talking about love or like right here. if you are enjoying what you are doing it will come across to others. if you are happy and beautiful to yourself then others may and will see you as happy and beautiful. you makes friends and from that, “you” can determine who you “love” and/or “like”.
i am sure we all have seen a couple and said, “how in the world did those two get together?! it may just be that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” LOL
we all should let our beauty shine through. take care.

It’s not going to come if your just sitting around or what ever. Be social as much as you can, put as much time as you can in meeting new people making new friends and socializing and that will increase your overall chances.

you don’t! It find’s you!

spiritedsoul wrote:
so I love myself by doing what I enjoy?

ppl constantly say itll come when u least expect it, but…nah just don;t care about that.

Well then get yourself out there! Moaning about it on here isn’t going to find you love.

Get out there and start looking if you don’t want to wait for it.