Love help: has any1 ever been so in love with some 1 so much that you literaly need that person to go on or your life is just worthless? - Help.com

Well, the first part, Yes. They haven’t stabbed me. Yet.

Yes, I’m going through it now….

That’s called an obsession. Get help.

I’m in this now. It’s been what, 3 days? Everyday I don’t see her everything gets worse and worse…

Ugh yesss.. it SUCKS.. i feel SO worthless

Haha, same here. I decided after a few months that I couldn’t really feel like this and I was just all up in the moment. Then I didn’t speak to her at all for about a month and a half… Geez, you should have seen me…

Everything has been better nowadays, but she went on a trip and has been out of contact for awhile. =/ I hate this, but at the same time, I love it… Weird…

AH thats how i am. I have gone a few weeks without talking to this person and it feels great…i just regret ever meeting this person. you know? it just seems like life would be less stressful if i never met him. Ugh im ready to give up

I’m sorry. That sounds really harsh. I don’t think I’d be able to have my love life ruined if she attacked me like that. My heart would probably stop beating and I would drop then and there…

yes, i’ve been through the exact same thing. dated a girl for over 2 years and then just got dropped out of her life out of nowhere, wouldn’t even talk to me and she was with someone else within a couple weeks. I thought that pain would never end, but it did. I’m also kind of in the same situation again, except this time it’s all because of a misunderstanding (she doesn’t believe me about something but I am telling her the truth). Someone wrote something about your situation being an obsession, but i don’t think that’s true… life is about beauty; now perhaps you didn’t have something beautiful (she doesn’t feel what you thought she did), but maybe it’s like what i’m feeling now, which is that something truly beautiful is dissapearing… my advice, if it is the former, is to let go and the pain will end eventually and, if it is the latter, you ought to keep fighting. At first i thought I shouldn’t fight this time, but now i’ve lost precious time and I don’t know how i’ll live with myself if things don’t work out.

I don’t understand this… so I doubt I can help beyond being ‘rude’ and telling people to just get over it and move on with your lives. Which IS what you should do.

Xeno Dragon wrote:
I don’t understand this… so I doubt I can help beyond being ‘rude’ and telling people to just get over it and move on with your lives. Which IS what you should do.

true true, but it is easier said than done….life moves on. whatever

I never had trouble. Maybe I’m weird.

you are lucky…maybe you have but you don’t let it effect you? which is how i wish i could be

I just got over it, because it was over with. What’s the point in wallowing in it?

very very true. its over so stop worrying about it.

It’s not that hard. Your emotions are a product of your mind. You can control your mind. Try it. Tell your mind what to do. The mopey-emo-sadness crap will try to pull you back in, but you’re stronger than it. SO make yourself happy.

you will find someone…seriously just give it time!!!

Xeno Dragon wrote:
It’s not that hard. Your emotions are a product of your mind. You can control your mind. Try it. Tell your mind what to do. The mopey-emo-sadness crap will try to pull you back in, but you’re stronger than it. SO make yourself happy.

Yeah true…

If you need help to get happy, watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBqY6c…

xeno dragon wins the internet.

Xeno Dragon wrote:
It’s not that hard. Your emotions are a product of your mind. You can control your mind. Try it. Tell your mind what to do. The mopey-emo-sadness crap will try to pull you back in, but you’re stronger than it. SO make yourself happy.

Yay! I am the winner!

I have been going through it for the past 4-5 months now, but I have learned from many people here at help.com and myself that everything happends for a reason. My ex cheated on me and I want MORE, I want a REAL man… It will take time and self desiplen and this is past and the person your suppot be with will find you or you will find him/her..

Xeno Dragon wrote:
Yay! I am the winner!

kudos, kudos. :DDD

best way to heal a broken heart is to realize, your not worthless. Its been 2 months for me personally…I feel good. Im sad here and there, but i feel good. Heartache is one of the worst pains a human can go through. But all wounds eventually heal, some leave a scar, and remain forever. But sometimes you heal even better than you were before with new goals, and ambitions. good luck

Mister Tony wrote:
best way to heal a broken heart is to realize, your not worthless. Its been 2 months for me personally…I feel good. Im sad here and there, but i feel good. Heartache is one of the worst pains a human can go through. But all wounds eventually heal, some leave a scar, and remain forever. But sometimes you heal even better than you were before with new goals, and ambitions. good luck

I like what you said Mr. Tony!

Haven’t read all the replies, but the situation you are describing is codependency.

If you are looking to someone else to make you happy, you are setting yourself for misery.

6 months and counting.
Gah.
I feel like I die on the inside if he doesnt called me a day after he calls me again or I call.
I go through a phase if I get upset about something… I get depressed and he’s the only one that can help and i alwys want to hear his voice or ill go crazy.

I have dreams of dying so he’ll be right next to me telling me not to die.

GAHHHH!
IM TWISTED.
-____-

yes, I fell in love, she promised me everything, then broke her promises. She told me she loved me then later told me she didn’t. Now she doesn’t care that I’m hurting.

i’m gonna take a shot in the dark here… Joe Jona?

It really sucks.
Its painful and sometimes all you want to do is end everything. The important thing Is that you don’t.
I’ve been through it. You can’t sit around and wallow in your self pity. Get out there and TRY to have fun. even if you’re not having fun just getting out there helps little by little. You may only go out for 5 minutes but eventually [and when i say eventually i mean that this is gonna take a long time] you’ll be able to go places by yourself without hurting. And you can live again.
When you do see that person again remind yourself of all the pain you went through. Someone who really cared about you wouldn’t do that to you.

I feel for you. It has been 3 months for myself and the wound is still so fresh and painful. She promised me the world, then break her promises and dumped me. The reason she gave? “I love you, but i am no longer in love with you”. Yeah right. Less than a week later, she got herself a new boyfriend.

Lesson of the day… Girls, don’t always blame the guys for not being serious in love. Because guys who are serious will get dumped!