Love help: My girlfriend and I broke up after roughly a year together. - Help.com

that sounds good to me

Uh.. Yeah I don’t think that would really be the appropriate thing to do in this situation.

So yeah. I don’t think it’s wrong to go the bar every now and then and run into her. If you two want to stay friends I don’t see it as a big deal. The thing is if you go there purposly to look for her and hope she’s going to be there, then you need to sort of ween yourself away from that. Don’t become to attached and I know you still love her, believe me I know what you’re feeling, but don’t dwell on what might happen. It’s fine to hang out together, be friends you had a long, happy time together there’s no reason to erase her from your life completely.

Maybe instead of going to that bar one night, go to the next one down the street or something. Just a small trick to try to get yourself off of compulsively going to the bar in hopes she’s going to be there. And you never know, maybe she’s doing the same thing, hoping you’re going to be there, so if you’re not there one day she might wonder and think. Then the next time she sees you there she’ll be a bit more excited to see you I think.

it seems to me like she’s not sure she’s if she wants to be at you. At night, when she’s at the bar and she sees you, she wants to be with you, but when your not there (i.e., before you call her) she decides again that she definitely doesn’t want to be with you. If i’m right, and she is confused, then you shouldn’t give up. But, i don’t think you want to go after her so hard… if she doesn’t want to talk to you on the phone, you shouldn’t call her so much; because whatever she’s confused or not, she definitely doesn’t want to feel like YOU are pushing her back into the relationship.

in my opinion, i say leave her alone for now. otherwise, you will never be able to get to the next phase of your life. there is a reason why you broke up. many times we remember the good in the relationship and have amnesia when it comes to the bad. a lot of us has gone through what you are going through. sometimes love can seem like an addiction. this is why i say leave her alone for now. it is like being a recovering alcoholic and purposefully trying to get a job at a liquor store. it seems hard but it really isn’t. just as you found love for her, it is bound to happen again if you want it. good luck.