girl help: I am a 17 year old girl. - Help.com

I’m so very sorry you’ve had to experience so much at such a young age. You’re very strong, a lot of people, especially around your age, would turn to self-harm. You just need to stay strong and realize that those things you’ve mentioned were beyond your control, it’s not your fault. Just keep going, whatever you do, even if you don’t understand why.

Hey, where did you move to ?
Did you move out on your own, or with someone??
And the best thing you can do right now is try to live your life very independently since all of this is happening to you when you happen to deal with people..
You should just keep to yourself for the time-being, get more in-depth with your personality and go from there,
So that in the long run, you know not to depend on anybody, since everyone has screwed you over..

Maybe its time you decided what life means to you,
and what you desire to do.

At first I was homeless. I just moved around staying with friends for a few days. I eventually moved in with my sister and her boyfriend, who kicked me out three months later because “if i was actually important to anyone, i wouldnt have to stay with them” so then i moved about 45 minutes away to live in my oldest sisters basement, where I currently live. She has three young boys and I am unofficially a burden. Her boyfriend is crazy and constantly screams at her, but I really cant complain. The only person I had through this was my ex boyfriend, who cheated on me twice with the same girl and currently dates her =) And I really can’t be labeled as strong: I cry myself to sleep almost every night. I’ve been told I am emotionally shut off. I havent been to see any doctor in over a year because I am so terrified of being diagnosed with the diseases of my mom, which I’m almost sure I have. And I don’t think anyone really knows what its like to be completely alone. To not have a home, a family, or really anything at all.

Well e.mccarthy,
The best thing for you to do is make that doctors appointment and see whats u[.
Because seriously, the longer you wait, the more worst anything you have, if any, is going to get worst..
You probably dont even have any of her mental disabilities, you are probably just emotionally wiped out with all that has been going on in your life..
Look at it this way, If you do have something, at least they will give you medications, so you will be able to cope with your current lifestyle easier..
I really hope that you do that, and also seek into getting a therapist, someone you can truly talk to face to face who wont judge you..

The fact is,
people choose.

And for being completely alone,
you have the doorway to the world called the internet, I wouldn’t be so pessimistic to say you’re alone.

you’re right.
people do choose.
people make choices every day.
every minute.
every second.
and i really do believe every decision is lifechanging.
whether its deciding what color shirt to wear or if you’re going to blow coke in a bathroom stall.
nevertheless. the choices ive made define who i am. and the choices ive made have led to my isolation. because every person lets me down. as soon as they make me feel safe. and the internet isnt real to me. its looking at a blank screen trying not to scream, giving me an opportunity to put words I have nowhere else to put. And therapy isnt real either, considering every therapists is just as ****** up as every one else appears to be.

that`s not really true..
you have to stop being, or talking as if you`re so self-centered..
that`s what a therapist job is, to help people in need, like you..
you shouldn`t be that negative into saying they have their own blah blah too.
because its their JOB to help you, and therapy helps out a lot of people who have gone through worst than you..

Our isolation is our choice and if you can’t live with it than ignore it, you have the mental capacity to take it all in and never let it out, but are you strong enough?
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.
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Apparently not.

Deja vu,
who is this?

tell me im self-centered.
its probably true.
isnt everyone selfish.
im not mother teresa and i dont live to be.
tell me im not strong.
because im sick of people telling me i am.
and most of all,
you don’t know anything about me.
judge me.

Life will judge you, to no bound and no end.
What steps you choose to take,
life will correlate.
~Khjar

e.mccarthy,
honestly i am the last person to come on to this site and judge somebody..
i am just allowing you to see how you are coming off, in your situation , evidently you need someone to talk to..
you may not want to admit that everybody in the whole universe is not wicked, but they`re not..
as you said, the net is not real, it is, but at the same time, it`s not everything, because you`re better off talking to someone face to face.
i`m just trying to help you, and make you realize talking to a therapist really can`t do you any harm.

you’re right.
cause telling me im self centered does not directly correlate to judging me at all.
and it definitely convinces me that there are good people in the world!
im glad that was accomplished

=)
it would break my heart to know that you were just being sarcastic..
you weren`t right?

im sorry.
hearts are broken every day.

To answer the original post, save yourself. I started life with a large immediate family. Mother, father, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. Over time, each and every one of them has proven their true colors time and again, and today I would be betraying my own sense of morality, and endangering my life in some cases, if I so much as spoke with the people I happen to be related to.

It used to bother me greatly. Now, not so much. They aren’t people I wish to associate with anyway, and I won’t waste my life pining for people that disgust me just because they are blood relations. I’m trying to save myself, and even though it’s hard it’s much better than trying to salvage something that can’t be salvaged.

As for mental issues, my father is a paranoid schizophrenic. I know well what it’s like to live in such a situation. He’s made a few attempts on my life.

My father is actually a very nice guy. I like him, quite a lot. He’s sick, though, and he’s going to remain sick, and so being around him is unsafe, and therefore not something I’m going to do. I hope you can forgive someone who hurts you through no fault of their own, and also have the strength to prevent them from hurting you.

okay so you were being sarcastic…
so you had me waste my time trying to help you..
maybe its not others thats the problem.. its probably you..
need to stop being so dam self centered and get with the program.
smh

im sorry.
i wasnt trying to waste your time.
and i probably am self centered.
but thats solely because im an emotional wreck half of the time.
and you cant really know some one else if you dont know yourself.

yea, but you were kind of being selfish,
because i`m taking time out of my life to try and help a stranger..
but okay,
everyone is different..
but i wouldn`t be that blaint when i`m the one who is asking for help.