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He did ask you out on a date, in a way, when he asked you where to eat and said he doesn’t want to eat alone. You should have offered to go with him.

nextstar wrote:
i couldn’t do that what if he was only talking & he didn’t want to go out with me ?

Reread what you wrote here:

he started to flirt with me from the first day he came he asked me if I know any nice restaurant here in Cairo & he wanted to go for a dinner but he had no one to go with & know that he wanted me to go out with him but why he didn’t ask me straight ?

From what you yourself said, he was asking you out, just not directly. What’s the worst that could have happened if you replied with “How about if I take you to a nice restaurant I know?”? Maybe he would have said no? But probably he would have said yes!

I’m not a feminist by any means, but why didn’t you just ask him out? You seem as interested in him as he was in you. It couldn’t have hurt. Maybe he was shy?

Just something to remember for the future. :)

nextstar wrote:
so am I the one who drove him away ? I’m stupid . but why he didn’t just ask me out in a straight way ?

He was flirting ;)
If you learn to pick up on it, you’ll find you have dates :)
He left a complete opening for you by saying “Where is a good place to eat here and I don’t want to eat alone”. Come on! You need a map drawn for you? lol Trust your instincts. You knew he was interested. You knew he was flirting with you. And you knew he wanted to have dinner with you.
Next time you see those signs, take a little action and offer to accompany them :)

I don’t know what to say…

If you think this guy is hot, ask him out! Or say yes when he is asking. But if you don’t think he is hot and an imaginable boyfriend, then don’t!

You’re very welcome and good luck! I want to hear about the next date you snag girl! ;)

Well, first of all, you can’t blame him for being interested in an amazingly beautiful woman =3

And perhaps he *was* shy about being rejected, so he asked in a non-direct way? I understand why you wouldn’t, but yes you could have offered to go with him.

I have no doubt that you have the ability to entrance men, so don’t be afraid to take a chance or risk if they don’t put out as much effort as you would like or expect them to.

Now go and romance a very lucky man, quickly, before I change my mind and go crazy with jealously.

= )

Over my head.lol. I invite a friend:)

I think the guy was giving you an opening to see if you were interested. I don’t think they always get subtilty of women dressing up. I agree, if he comes back or if someone else shows interest, ask them out. Go girl!

lmao

it’s not only your fault nextstar. what kind of a guy sends you an email saying your shoes are hot? why didn’t he say it streight to your face?

mabe he is just very shy.

i’m sure the way he was talking wasn’t very suggestive so don’t feel bad…

XD

fran

Good point, franchesca!
Maybe he didn’t even see her face, because he may be a foot fetischist…

Nextstar is hot, so some guys simply think she is taken already.

Nextie, be selective! Only the best ones are good enough!

I’m on the next plane to Cairo !!!!!!! All kidding aside , I’ve seen your picture and I think your beautiful , I think they are intimidated , maybe you should let the guy know your interested , it sounds like he was not the kind of man you would want to be with any way , any man who could pass you up for dinner wasn’t worth your time anyway . Nexy your prince will ride in to rescue you don’t worry.

lmao moltok

I don’t think I have anything to say that hasn’t already been said. I just think the right guy is going to come along when you least expect it, that’s usually how it works.

sometimes… the hints that someone sends to us… is not taken… it sounds like he did ask you out… but you werent seeing his hint..

asking someone out is hard to do.. because of fear of being rejected.. so he was asking in a way that would not get his heart broken..

my suggestion is to pay close attention to the next guy who seems interested.. most of the time.. when you pay attention to things… such as an attraction from someone.. your gut feeling is usually correct.. so jump on it… take him up on his offer…

Hah?
What… “hint”?

He asked for restaurants and said he had nobody to go with for dinner the next day. He took pictures of her with his cellphone camera.
That was no “hint”, but rather right on!

He got the restaurant suggestion but forgot to bring her, so he didn’t follow-up and go from words to action!

Maybe he left his nads in Turkey and had to go get them.

sansceriph wrote:
Maybe he left his nads in Turkey and had to go get them.

hahahahahaha… theres the sansceriph that i love so much… lmfao..

I don’t know about these foot fetish people, maybe that’s why he ate alone. The eyes have it:) They can’t hide their lying eyes..lol. What fun would be dinner and him looking at your shoes? Weirdo. Smart girl, Next:)

He was shy, afraid of rejection, and figured it was ’safer’ to ask you indirectly.

You didn’t take the hint, and maybe he figured you had a boyfriend and that your flirtation was just you being nice to the new/visiting guy.

He took pictures, because staring is rude, and you can only make up excuses for accidentally walking by someones office.

The shoe comment, he’s probably looking for a common topic of conversation.

Girls like shoes—
Nextstar is a girl, she probably likes shoes.
Compliment the shoes…then maybe she’ll talk to “me”.

People who are attracted to other people act like idiots, sorry hunny.

I didn’t think of it like that, but wow that is some killer instinct! I can only imagine how lucky my husband would get if he complimented my shoes! hehe

Hello,
Sorry if this is not the answer you were hoping for, however he may have come across as liking you and maybe that was his plan, or maybe he did love you but he was too afraid to show his true feelings.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUp4j9…

Shy people don’t flirt with everybody..and when they find someone they like..they hang close:) I’m going to stop before I put my foot in my mouth…lol.

Well, I’m sorry I missed this while I was gone. The funny, insightful usual suspects are here. :) Well, how are things now nextstar? Most what I would say has already been said but be a little careful if you are settled on just being friends. That misinterpretation from people that want more from me has gotten me into a lot of trouble.

I think you’re beautiful, Next. I’d ask you out myself, but I’m afraid you’d say yes and I’d have no idea what to do next. I’d be totally nervous the whole time.