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I’m having some trouble with friends…

Well, recently I went to a friends party and got ridiculously drunk. So drunk that I got violent with a couple of people without realising! Of course I have learned my lesson and I won’t be drinking that much again! However, I am worried that the hostess of the party might be angry at me because I was sick and I really like the hostess because she is a good friend of mine and a large part of my friendship group. The lads that I got violent with laughed at me afterwards except one, whom I have had a love/hate relationship with but nothing serious as we were always jokey! Anyway, I decided to add him on facebook but he has rejected me and the other boys I got violent with haven’t replied to my apologetic comments. They know what I am like sober and I am perfectly nice and one of them is my best friend! I just feel like it’s me against them even though I have made sincere apologies! What should I do? Do you think they hate me? I feel really stupid and pathetic for acting like such a fool! please reply, I’m getting quite depressed about it all.

P.S One of my best friends was just as bad as me, except she didn’t get violent so I suppose we sort of share common ground with the situation.

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SoulRising offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (22 minutes after post)

My daddy always told me “You’ve got to pay the piper you can’t dance for free:)”.

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Råymond offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 327 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Was this your first time getting drunk? Now you know what kind of drunk you are. Watch who you drink around.

As for your friends, they’ll have to come around on their own. You’ve done all you can, you’ve apologized, etc. You can’t do anything else other than wait.

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guitarlegend_12 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Nooooo no no no that was the first time I have ever got properly violent, but only because I was on the verge of becoming paraletic. I drink quite regularly just not to that extent. I’m usually an incredibly happy drunk :) Just as long as I don’t drink too much. Which I now know what to do. My only concern is my friends really. I love people!:)

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Råymond offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 327 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (47 minutes after post)

Then all I can say is what I’ve said in the second half of my above post.

Good luck to you.

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spontaneousreluctanc offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

You’ve shocked them a bit. Dont treat it like a huge deal anymore or they will to. That’s for sure.

They’ll get over it once they see your not like that on a regular basis. You’ve got to earn their trust back. Try and forget about it. Just don’t forget what got you there so you don’t do it again.

Don’t be surprised or offended if the next time you drink around them they crack a joke at your expense about it. Even if you never do it again, you now get to be the brunt of the ‘crazy drunk person’ stories told at parties.

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Chickapu12 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours after post)

Who u a trully sorry, ur real friends should kno. Some of them may just need time. But in the long run the good friends will come around.

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Chickapu12 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours, 1 minute after post)

Ok tht made no sense i meant if u are trully sorry!! lol. srry bout tht.

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guitarlegend_12 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours, 41 minutes after post)

I’ve always been known as the ‘crazy party animal’, so most people know what I’m like anyway. I just feel guilty for being violent for no reason really :| But I know it won’t happen again and it makes me feel better that I can make up for it at the next party :D

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Chickapu12 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Thts always good. Just remeber to keep it low on the drinking.

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