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I can’t speak for the rest of my gender, but I certainly wish there were more women willing to make a move for themselves. A girl that confident automatically gains points.

I don’t know if there’s a ‘best’ thing to say or talk about, I don’t know why it should be different than when a guy is trying to chat up a girl. Introduce yourself and then tailor your approach to the situation. If you’re at a party where you only know some of the guests, find out if you know anyone in common. If you’re at a bar or a coffee shop talk about the music, or their drink, or the decoration.

Absolutely fastest way to get someone talking: ask a question.

idk get in his vicinity so he notices you then if he doesn’t do anything for ten minutes then go talk to him best things to talk about are things in common doesn’t really matter what you talk about

decorations???? hahahahaha thats funny. what guy in his right mind would WANT to talk about decorations??!!??!

I think she’s a girl that goes after what she wants , the conversation really doesn’t matter , because the girl has already caught the guy off guard , and most of the time the guy likes when a girl walks right up to him and lets him know she’s interested.

downman1 wrote:
decorations???? hahahahaha thats funny. what guy in his right mind would WANT to talk about decorations??!!??!

The short answer is: any guy with any passing interest in art and any guy who wants to talk to the girl striking up a conversation.

The point that downman1 missed was, if you don’t have anything obviously in common (like mutual friends at a party) then start making some common ground, e.g., “Hey, what do you think of that mask over the bar?” or “What’s up with that drummer?”.

And I sure don’t see any reason to wait ten minutes before you make your move.

DO guys think that if she walks up to him that she is easy, and she wants to go to bed with him. thats why i don’t go out much or go up to a guy because guys only have 1 thing in mind.

Not all guys think that she’s easy , some just think she knows what she wants and is going for it .

Sure, some guys are going to think that and some guys are going to be intimidated, but not all of them.

If a guy starts acting like a jackass when you talk to him, well then, now you know he’s a jackass and not as appealing as you thought.

Where is the best place to met a new guy? I don’t have a lot of freinds to go with me, and my best friends is a tall skin blond blue eye girl and all the guys go up to her. I like “rednecks” “country boys”.

Alexaxas wrote:

downman1 wrote:
decorations???? hahahahaha thats funny. what guy in his right mind would WANT to talk about decorations??!!??!

The short answer is: any guy with any passing interest in art and any guy who wants to talk to the girl striking up a conversation.

The point that downman1 missed was, if you don’t have anything obviously in common (like mutual friends at a party) then start making some common ground, e.g., “Hey, what do you think of that mask over the bar?” or “What’s up with that drummer?”.

And I sure don’t see any reason to wait ten minutes before you make your move.

did you read my previous post?

That might be a bit of a problem for you after all. Your average inbred hick is less likely to be educated. And your uneducated dude is more likely to think that assertive girls are ***** and/or to be outright intimidated by them.

downman1 wrote:
did you read my previous post?

I did, but I must have kind of glazed over after the first bit about waiting ten minutes. I seem to have missed your comment about finding common ground. Apologies.

best place to meet them isn’t actually a place. Friends of friends are great people to meet and are have a more often than not, anti-crazy label on them.

Anonymous wrote:
DO guys think that if she walks up to him that she is easy, and she wants to go to bed with him. thats why i don’t go out much or go up to a guy because guys only have 1 thing in mind.

and to respond to this i don’t think they are slutty i was at my friend from schools party in a different town and a girl approached me instead because i didn’t really know any one at the party. it was really nice it kind of gave me a confidence boost lol

I don’t have a lot of friends that know that kind of guys I like. Truth be told I don’t have a lot of friends to start with..

I use to think I would like a girl who approached me. After it happened a handful of times I came to the conclusion that I do not. What you can easily have just isn’t worth having. So I am just going to say that if you do approach a guy then try to somehow also be hard to get.