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Ive been on and off with this guy…

for about a year & almost 4 months.
I think i may be in love with him. I mean, Everytime webreak up, im happier you knoww?
But then something happens & it reminds me of him & then its just like BOOM. Hes there again. Making me cry, suffer,stupid stuff. But I just cant seem to like ever SERIOUSLY let go. m tired of him hurting me, but I dont want to break up because I I’ll just end up running back to him anyways, so whats the point? Ive tried to replace him. But it never works. I try so hard to find all kinds of different guys. Guys who remind me of him & guys who dont. But in the end its him I think about at night. If nim not with him, I cry because im not, when im with him, I cry because he wont stop. We argue CONSTANTLY. ALL THE TIME. I cry like crazy,& he never seems to care. I just dont know what to do anymore. & its not like I can ask MY friends because they neveer help.They just get kinda mad. NONE of myfriends like him. But I just dont know.

SO help me please…

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akulion offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

From personal experience I can tell you that you are a victim of psychological abuse. It is very common for the victim to attach themselves to the abuser and then start to think that they cant live without them. The person ends up in a mental state where their mind is dominated by the other due to the trauma they have suffered in the past at the hands on the person, whether mental or physical. My sincere advice to you would be to get away from this individual if they are abusive physically OR even if mentally (emotional blackmail etc). Also you must not go back no matter what! With time things will get better, even if it takes a year or 2. So remember if you are being mistreated dont stand for it and dont go back no mater what or you will always be stuck in an abusive relationship.

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theresape offline Verified User (5 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Waltham, MA, US | 4 years, 11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

You’re wasting your time and hurting yourself over and over. Is that the kind of life you want?

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Its not but like right after whenever we do get into huge fights, hes justlike “awh baby, dont cry I love you.”
I just keep falling for it over & over…

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tmpy~is~back offline Verified User (5 years) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Sounds like a tell tale of an abusive person… sorry if that sounds harsh. Seriously though babe, you should just let him go, no matter how much it hurts. Do some work on you first then find someone to be a companion with.

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theresape offline Verified User (5 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Waltham, MA, US | 4 years, 11 months ago (22 minutes after post)

No one can protect you from this but yourself. You decide to go along with this, and you are inviting a terrible life. You CHOOSE what kind of life you get.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (2 weeks after post)

I can say that I am going through the exact same thing. I have been on and off with the same guy for about the same time that you have and i would do the exact same things as you would do. I haven’t talked to him in 2 months and I’m still left wondering if I did something wrong, and how much I want him back, but I don’t deserve to be treated like how I was and neither do you! I still think about him everyday and I know it will take me a long time before I move on. I suggest you do the same…it will hurt a lot but time will heal..just think about how much more you will be hurting if you stay.

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