thats all you can do, then give her space and never lie to her again.
If I apologize and then give her time do you think this might make her realize I am sorry and she might accept my apology?
Umm it’s not exactly a good characteristic of a best friend to lie. But it happens. Sometimes people can forgive us and other times they won’t.
It’s up to her now what happens. Try not to force anything on her. Let her do what she feels necessary. And learn to accept the decision she makes.
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I know that lieing to her was very wrong, and I guess I kind of brought this on myself.
I shouldn’t have lied I suppose…
But I wish if I said “sorry” our friendship would come back.
I hate waiting, because when I have a rough time I go to her and she would come to me if she needed help.
And now that I’m upset, and she is the cause of it…I don’t know what to do. ):
That is sad to hear. Write in a journal for a while to help keep the process of you sharing your emotions going.
Think of how it would be if you found out she’d been lying to you in the same way. Would you want some time to think it over and not be messaged by your friend awaiting a response…?
Maybe you can learn from this and not let it happen again.
But please be patient or your friend may be gone for good
Palozatri wrote:
If I apologize and then give her time do you think this might make her realize I am sorry and she might accept my apology?
it wont hurt any more then your lieing did.
What did you lie to her about? Was it one thing or a bunch of things? It will take a lot of time for her to trust you again. I think you should just speak from the heart. Tell her how you feel and why you may have lied. Everyone lies for one reason or another. Ask her to listen to you and tell her how much she means to you.
Give her time too. If she cares about you and what you guys share as a frienship, she’ll forgive you.
Someone was going to say something to her that would make her hate one of her friends and I lied to her and told her that whatever that person says is lies, but the person who was going to break apart her and her friend was true…
I explain that to her but she wouldn’t listen, she told me “yeah yeah, i dont need a speech, its the end”
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So time I guess is the best thing…
Whatever you do please dont go to her house and try to talk. That will only bug her even more, trust me i had an ex bestfriend who use to lie about everything. I ignored her then she was at my doorstep the next day. I didnt answer the door and was more upset that she came. So give her space then talk to her
Palozatri wrote:
Someone was going to say something to her that would make her hate one of her friends and I lied to her and told her that whatever that person says is lies, but the person who was going to break apart her and her friend was true…
I explain that to her but she wouldn’t listen, she told me “yeah yeah, i dont need a speech, its the end”
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So time I guess is the best thing…
If you were a true bestfriend you wouldve been right beside that person who told her the truth. Just for future references, bestfriends are honest with eachother so that they can be prevented from getting hurt in the long run
You’re ignoring a very important factor here, which is WHAT you lied about. There are lies and lies. If you told her that she looked nice in her new red jacket when she really looked like a member of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police, well, that’s a forgivable lie. However, if you told her you were alone last Saturday night when you were really out dancing with her boyfriend, well, that’s a lie of a different sort.
If she’s angry at you for lying, my guess is that there is some kind of a betrayal embedded in the lie, and THAT is what you have to address.
It depends, if you lie more than one time she maynot. Nobody what want to be aroung someone they cannot trust! You said you were sorry so now give her space.
I can relate to what you’re saying.. I’ve been something like this lately except that my close friend is angry because something i said to another friend… I hope things will be ok after I said sorry, but apparently he’s still angry…. And i hate to wait for things to b ok because we’re so close and it hurts alot because he did not accept my apology..
Whatever is it, if u know u’ve done your best and sincerely apologized, just let time heal the wound… Always know that your friend is very hurt now because she had once treasured you and you can take that as a compliment.. Only hurting ppl hurt ppl remember? :) Just dont bug her anymore and let time do the job..
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well i can relate to this so much!!
i was real real real good friends with a girl, she was rly my everything i spose. the only person i told everything and anything, and the only person i rly FULLY trusted. but then all of a sudden we drifted, because of someone else. and i got rly upset over it, but when she asked me what was wrong i obviously couldnt explain to her, so i made a whole bunch of lies up and pretended something completely different was wrong when it wasnt. i suppose i was trying not to hurt her, by not letting her know how i felt. but then she fount out i lied about it, and now she hates me. she wont talk to me. when i try to explain why i lied she doesnt beleive it. i have said sorry, but it doesnt make a difference. it hurts so much because without this girl i am nothing. i didnt know you could get heartbroken over friends. but i suppose just give it time.. let them think about it.
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