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Well aren’t you a ray of sunshine.

Seriously though, you’re not worthless. You’re just feeling down right now. It will pass.

We all feel that way sometimes. About ourselves, not you! I’d suggest that you make a list of things that you would do if you were NOT worthless, then try to do some of them one at a time.

What would you do if you had worth?

Would you get a job? Sing in a chorus? Volunteer at a homeless shelter? Read all of Shakespeare’s comedies? Offer to help coach a kids’ soccer team? Paint your room a cheerful color? Write a book of poems?

If you can think it, you can do it!

I feel like that too. I’m a shy person with only a handful of friends, and since high school I have found it impossible to make new ones. The old friends are dropping off, moving away etc, and I’m feeling more and more alone. I also feel powerless in my life–I sense you feel that way too.

I have never had a boyfriend and because of this I feel ugly. What about you? Why do you feel ugly? Have people called you ugly? Do you hate the way you look when you see yourself in a mirror?

I need to know more before I can try to help. Perhaps it isn’t as dark as you make it out to be–or maybe it is. At least we can wallow in self-pity together :)

yourselfish but thats okay! thats what makes you, Younique(spelled for the pun). stand tall, pick up your attitude and apply it in a positive way. The average person has 7 people who look up to them for one reason or another. Dont let them down!! Im counting on you.

The worst thing you can do when you feel down, is to attack yourself. Don’t. Look for all the positive things you have accomplished in your life and expand on them.

Mechanical wrote:
I feel like that too. I’m a shy person with only a handful of friends, and since high school I have found it impossible to make new ones. The old friends are dropping off, moving away etc, and I’m feeling more and more alone. I also feel powerless in my life–I sense you feel that way too.

I have never had a boyfriend and because of this I feel ugly. What about you? Why do you feel ugly? Have people called you ugly? Do you hate the way you look when you see yourself in a mirror?

I need to know more before I can try to help. Perhaps it isn’t as dark as you make it out to be–or maybe it is. At least we can wallow in self-pity together :)

yes actually…some guys tell me im ugly right to my face. i have never had a boyfriend. at one time i wanted to break the mirror because of what i saw. i think my purpose in life is to make people feel prettier when they see me.

Everybody has a bad day. I have them all the time. Usually what helps me the most is to go out have a drink alone cause you know what I only have 1 friend and that’s all I need.

Stop thinking about what bad qualities you think you have. While it’s easier to believe the bad things people say, think about the good ones, too.
If you’re still in high school, it is important not to let others get the best of you.
I know so many people who have blossomed since high school…they weren’t able to show their beautiful selves while in school because people were always putting them down.
But once they graduated, they became who they were and people accept them and they made good, true friends.
Don’t base who you are solely on how others in high school see you.
While it seems it is going to form the rest of your life, it’s not.
People change and grow up.

It’s going to be okay don’t let them get the best of you

Anonymous wrote:
yes actually…some guys tell me im ugly right to my face. i have never had a boyfriend. at one time i wanted to break the mirror because of what i saw. i think my purpose in life is to make people feel prettier when they see me.

That’s a good thing though, right? Oh dear.

I can’t believe anyone would say that right to your face. That is just awful. There is probably something beautiful about you. Honestly, look at yourself in the mirror. Don’t fixate on one thing or one body part. Look at all of you. Is there anything that you like about you? Even if it’s something mildly silly, like, do you have nice feet? Or you think your knees are really well formed. There is probably something.

Another bit of advice that helps me that I thought of, is that everyone has different tastes for what they like in someone else. I do not like the way I look because it doesn’t fit in with what *I* find attractive. However, someone else might like the way I look. Also remember that other people see less of your bad side than you think. That ugly birthmark on your shoulder? If you point it out, you’ll be surprised to find out that many people haven’t even noticed it!

It’s all about perspective. If you think you are beautiful, or are at least proud of something about yourself, you’ll project the confidence needed to attract someone.

So, you probably say, why hasn’t this advice worked for you, Mechanical?

Eheh. I’m shy, and haven’t met anyone yet. I’m sort of content with that, since I wouldn’t want to go out with an idiot or settle for less than what I am compatible with. It’s painful to be alone at times, but someday you’ll find someone you get along with fantastically. You have to find them first. And most likely, they’ll find some beauty in you. (Who said you had to be a supermodel to be beautiful? Look at this website!: http://www.digitalphotoshopretouching… )

Mechanical wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
yes actually…some guys tell me im ugly right to my face. i have never had a boyfriend. at one time i wanted to break the mirror because of what i saw. i think my purpose in life is to make people feel prettier when they see me.

That’s a good thing though, right? Oh dear.

I can’t believe anyone would say that right to your face. That is just awful. There is probably something beautiful about you. Honestly, look at yourself in the mirror. Don’t fixate on one thing or one body part. Look at all of you. Is there anything that you like about you? Even if it’s something mildly silly, like, do you have nice feet? Or you think your knees are really well formed. There is probably something.

Another bit of advice that helps me that I thought of, is that everyone has different tastes for what they like in someone else. I do not like the way I look because it doesn’t fit in with what *I* find attractive. However, someone else might like the way I look. Also remember that other people see less of your bad side than you think. That ugly birthmark on your shoulder? If you point it out, you’ll be surprised to find out that many people haven’t even noticed it!

It’s all about perspective. If you think you are beautiful, or are at least proud of something about yourself, you’ll project the confidence needed to attract someone.

So, you probably say, why hasn’t this advice worked for you, Mechanical?

Eheh. I’m shy, and haven’t met anyone yet. I’m sort of content with that, since I wouldn’t want to go out with an idiot or settle for less than what I am compatible with. It’s painful to be alone at times, but someday you’ll find someone you get along with fantastically. You have to find them first. And most likely, they’ll find some beauty in you. (Who said you had to be a supermodel to be beautiful? Look at this website!: http://www.digitalphotoshopretouching… )

wow. you really helped me…do you give advice for a living? because you should!

whoa Mechanical that website is scary.
I’ve seen similar stuff like this. I’d actually feel worse as a model if they had to do a ton of touching up on my photos!

And then you go on feeling sorry for yourself! Why don’t you throw a pity party and be your own guest of honor while you’re at it? You see what I’m getting at?
Quit wallowing in your own self pity. Don’t let yourself become your own victim. If you are always thinking that you are ugly and you’re not pretty and you are worthless, well that’s exactly what you will always be. Why not try the opposite? Tell yourself that you are beautiful and that there are many things that you have yet to acomplish. It’s the case of the self-full-filling professy. The more you tell yourself that you are something, the more you will become that.

I know, right? When I saw that site I was angry because it really makes people have quite the wrong impression of what they should look like. Each and every one of those women were beautiful before the touch-ups…And after, they looked like dolls or aliens. Our standards are now impossible to realistically achieve.

You know people who are always attacking other people and telling them that they are ugly and worthless is because they themselves have some deep rooted issues themselves and want to project them onto other people. Don’t let them do that to you!

No,You are NOT worthless.You just haven’t got where you are suppose to be yet,thats all.Change what you can and accept the rest as is,for now.Appreciate the people and things you DO have in your life.