friends help: I getting really angry now at my friends ! - Help.com

1 - sounds like you have ****** friends - maybe find some new 1s that are a tad better
2 - call the place you applied to and ask them hows it going? and do you want me? I believe work places actually appreciate this.

urge to hurt people will pass - maybe try writing some music or going for a jog :) some thing that takes your mind off the current situation
sorry your having such a hard time with it. You could do with some real friends to just chill with and remove the stress :)

James - Who cares what he does is it affecting you? My friends don’t work and never plan too, I just accept it, they’re happy…

Sarah - Get better friends

Rose - Seriously you can find better friends

Yeah, like Ditzy said, call the place, and as for living an isolated life, get out in the world and stay there til you find good friends, they won’t knock on your door. Be proactive.

I call that place a few times a day now their getting annoyed. As for making friends, I can’t, haven’t been able to in 4 years and I go out at least every other day with crowds and people its not as easy as it sounds. I’m not scared of people I’m talkative and friendly. Like last night I was at the coffee shop and tried to sit next to a couple people as i said “chilly out their” then the 3 of them just nodded and left, the same night I went to a Jacuzzi, and some guy was in there and I was going to start a conversation about tennis cause he has his tennis bag with him, and he picked up his phone and called someone… I hate that people really are sick of me

think its coz your in LA - stick with it - there is a nice group of friends to be found. Maybe get involved in a group or some thing - like dramatic arts or dungeons and dragons or book clubs or music group - or even a gym club thingy. A job will also help with the getting friends thing. It will all come in time and then you will be able to scream and run around grinning like a fool coz your so happy.
I think your doing marvelously well - its just that LA tends to be closed minded. You’ll get there :)

If you give people the notion that you are just waiting to be used by them, you’re going to get used! Don’t wait on somebody all day long! Ask for a firm time if someone is asking you for your help. And if you got an interview for a job, did you follow up that interview with a written thank-you note? If you didn’t, shame shame! You want to stand out from the crowd of job seekers, and that’s one way to do it. And, yes, you’re trying too hard to make friends. If you try too hard, you may make some friends, but they won’t be the best of friends for you. The thing is, however, that you should feel good about yourself regardless if anyone else does. You cannot measure your self worth by what other people think–because too many other people are “agendized” and won’t give you a truthful answer. Well, one thing you’ve got going for yourself is that you ARE willing to help other people. That’s pretty rare. Very soon you’re going to find some friends who will really appreciate that quality in you!

thanks

Those sound like valid reasons to get upset.But try not to put them all in a group.They are all individuals in different situations.Did you confront any of them?letting them know your mad about it?

Sometimes we know the answer but don’t like to see it.Why do you think Sarah doesn’t hang out with you much?What kind of excuses does she give?………It’s just a thought but do you think people feel intimidated by you in some way? What I’m thinking is others can sense when we are ‘aloof’.If you dont know what this means(i just recently learned myself.lol)It just means you might be distant,not connected.I’ts not a bad thing,its just part of personality,I tend to be this way.so if that sounds familiar,let me know and I can tell you more about that. Another thing may be how you look,if you look mad,people are scared.If your not as clean,they could be offended,or if you cuss….Im just guessing here.

About the guy who dont work etc..no-one likes a free-loader and although you have a heart for his grandma(which I admire) it’s not your problem.Im not being sarcastic,its just about who owns the problem.1) you have your own problems 2) if his grandma is being used,its her problem,she is allowing it for whatever reasons of her own.And it’s judgement.The best you can do with this is keep being a good influence and example for this guy.I said it’s his and her problem but if he brings you into it,that can make it your problem.Then it’s up to you to give your opinion or help.If he asks your opinion or complains to you too much that would be bringing you into it.