Money help: got a problem with mom

zetzer_

Opa Locka, FL, US

got a problem with mom

so i live with my mom and her boyfriend and i go to work part time and go to college full time. im 19, and my mom is not obligated to take care of me but we are latin, and in latin countries we are accustomed to live with your parents until you graduate college and find a decent job to support yourself.

so heres the deal, my mom is a real estate agent and she hasnt made any money in the last 6 months, she hasnt had funds for 2 months, and i have been paying for car and insurance and whatever other little things that come along the way without complaining. i calculated that in 2-3 months im going to be in zero funds, and if that happens that means i wont have a car cus i will be broke.

i feel unstable and stressed out because i have nothing to fall back upon if i go broke, but my mom has her bf to do that. its stressing the hell outta me, and im starting to think its kinda selfish from my mom not to quit the real estate business and go to a job that guarentees a secure pay, but i dont wanna be an *** and kill her hopes of making big money but then again i think shes being selfish by putting all the costs on me while she hasnt made anything in 6 months.

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Chameleon 676 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I’ve got to agree with you. Your mom shouldn’t be letting you support her for so long. Can you talk to her and tell her that you would like to be able to save money for your own place but you can’t do that while supporting her and could she get a job that pays?

butterflyplum 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

My mom is a real estate agent as well.

It’s a tough market, you can work long hours, and still not get any money. I think chances are your mother is working as hard as she possibly can, it’s a tough and unpredictable business, but I’m sure her success is right around the corner.

She might not know what else she can do, as far as jobs go. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t want to be working at McDonalds.

littlenick 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

You have to do what you have to do. You need to move and fly with your own wings. You are a grown up now and need to take care of number 1.

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SingerInPurple 110 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

you should casually bring it up with her…just tell her the truth in a non agressive way…I’m sure she will agree with you! Good Luck!

zetzer_ 2 #
Opa Locka, FL, US | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 41 minutes after post)

i see what most of you say, but i feel stressed out and i have brought it up with her but she tells me i need to save money, and i have been. all the money i have been using is from my savings and some of the money i make. I can work more hours but with school full time it will jeopardize my study time so i dont want to do that,

and i honestly i have lost hope for her already and i dont want to tell her but i ask her constantlly but its really true that shes not going anywhere with this, and i know she strying her hardest but me as the age i have and the responsabilities im assuming, i feel like its too much. i dont wan tto sound like im spoiled, but like i dont mean helping her pay for the insurance, and pay my cellphone but stressing money, and thinkin that theres no money, plus the stress from school, and my personal life, theres a lot of **** going that i dont think its healthy for me and i dont think she comprehends that when i tried to talk to her about it.

Help me with: lately i have been feeling as if my heart and head are not at the same place, i listen to all the time whenever i have to

zetzer_ 2 #
Opa Locka, FL, US | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

“i dont mind** helping her pay for the insurance…”.

also i do want to tell her that she should get a job with a secure pay but thats like me telling her thats theres no hope in doing what shes doing when shes trying her hardest.

Help me with: lately i have been feeling as if my heart and head are not at the same place, i listen to all the time whenever i have to

chev.jame 22 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 6 minutes after post)

If your mom hasn’t sold a house in six months, it’s highly unlikely that she will sell a house in the next six months. The real estate market is really flat right now. However, a good realtor will still arrange deals even during this period. Your mom probably isn’t doing something right. She does need to get another job, because it’s unfair of her to drive you into the ground financially while she’s fishing in a dry riverbed. Sit down with her and talk. Your family is on the path to financial destruction right now. Things must change. The real estate job needs to be exchanged for something at Wal-Mart or McDonald’s, if nothing else. This is another reason I don’t like “selling.” You can starve to death while trying to sell something!

animalstuffing 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

i see where your coming from, where she should get a better job and where you paying for everything, but she has her oyfriend to rely on for money, not you. perhaps you could ask her to get a second job, or find a way to make more money. im sure that if you go broke because of her, your mom or her boyfriend will help.

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