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I wish I had only skinned knees too. :( *Love & Hugs*

I know how it feels. You just have to know that what’s supposed to happen will. And that if you’re not with him, then there’s something better for you.

Are you positive it’s too late?

what about those of us who never get their chance?

I know how you feel as well. I wish things in my situation wouldn’t be so complicated, but it’s a part of life and a part of growing as a person. What ever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and if he’s too lovestruck to see what he’s missing in you, it really is his own fault. Yes there is the option of spewing your feelings to him, but ask yourself if that might really get you there, to lay it on thick all at once.

Maybe show him what he’s missing out on from you. Don’t try for him, just make him realize what you have to offer rather than the woman he’s with now. In time, I know many people say this, but you might wind up with him, or you might find someone that’s even better, that you just were blinded to at one point because of his presence. Soon, I’m sure, things will become clear. Don’t let it overcome you or eat you alive. Control it, and learn from your mistakes, if it even was a mistake, make it your strength and like I said, maybe show him what he’s missing.

Singer, could you give a little more on that? What happened between you two? Oh, and take Tzubake’s words to heart, he’s totally right. I have been trying to do exactly what he’s describing and it truly works. So again, can you elaborate on this at all please?

Sound rough. Just try to move on. It’s for the best and it’s what’s best for you!

it hurts just a little, just a little.
i’m right here with you on this, time heals…

“Yeah, we all flirt with the tiniest notion
Of self conclusion in one simplified motion
You see the trick is that you’re never supposed to act on it
No matter how unbearable this misery gets”

SingerInPurple wrote:
Tzubake, I really hope you’re right! I just hate “complicated” stuff…but he gets me so angry!!! Sometimes he just flirts with my friends and it’s just like “wtf?!?”…but I think you know what you’re talking about so I’ll take you up on your advice! Thank you :D

It’s no problem, just don’t let the anger or frustration get the best of you. Only terrible things are the outcome of actions that are based on anger. Learn to control it and see what you can do around it. If you plan on showing him what he’s missing, don’t go out of your way to do it. Keep on doing what you do, and living how you live, but when the time comes, I’m sure you’ll see your opritunity to show him what you are really about.

Seems like this guy is not for you babe. Seriously now, you told him you didn’t think you were ready for a realationship, what have you. Then he puts his arm around you at the movies that same night… hmmm… Where I come from, that’s a scumbag… How well did you know this guy before all this happened? Never doubt your women’s intuition, it is a very powerful and often reliable source! He could also just be ‘being a guy’ and having a grand ol’ time while school’s out… doing whatever it is guys do when they’re THAT guy… No matter how old you are or he is, you need to decide what’s best for you. It’s ok to make mistakes, but you need to be aware of the type of risk you’re taking. I still agree with Tzu, do what you like to do with who you like to do it with and live your life. If you put your best foot forward, so to speak, then this guy will see what a wonderful person he gave up. Men love two things in women: 1. Self-confidence; and 2. Agressively going for what they want in life. :D I hope some of this helps babe!

I’ve been there I know how you feel, you will find the one for you one day. I promise.

Ok, hun, then I retract my previous statement on the basis that I was mistaken :D It’s never too late if it’s meant to be anyway :D

No problem on that at all. I still wish my friends would take back all the horrible things they said about my ex. I still love him deeply and would go back to him in a second because he is by far the most loving, selfless and wonderful person I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting and knowing. Ok, I am waaaaaaay too emotional at night… why is that? I wish you luck hun and I hope you get the man of your dreams! :D

I did, but I lost him… thank you though…

thanx hun, but i don’t feel comfortable with that. Only cuz I’m here to help you, not bring you down further. If you’d like you can read some of my posts… like when I first came here… some of them are like blah blah blah now but it just does hurt a lot still. Thank you again…

nope it’s a song- self conclusion by the spill canvas.
i feel empty right now too! and i know i just need to get over it, and let time heal. but, like me you’re probably just wishing and looking for an easier way. i get so anxious to rid myself of this emptiness, it takes over me. it’s not fun at all. but you’ll make it through, me too. and better things are on the way, i believe

Ok well, without reading the other replies I’m at risk for repeating what other people have said, But I know these people by now and i trust them, so anything they say couldn’t hurt when repeated.

This post hits a little close to home for me. I have a best friend who I’ve cared for for many years now and I understand how hard it is when someone like that approaches you with relationship problems. Your mind is racing between two things, “Should I be selfish, try to be happy, and use this relationship problem to ease myself in?” or “Do I be a good friend and help them be happy?”

Unfortunately, for people in these situations, when they care about someone, they tend to pick the latter, and it makes life hell. At this point though, it is time to take control. Sit with yourself and think over everything thats happened. There are wonderful people out there, and unfortunately they often don’t know how much they hurt us. Likewise, I’m sure this guy is wonderful, but at a point in your life like this, it is time to understand that your happiness is most important. And though you care about him, this path is not what makes you happy.

I do believe that “what if”’s are some of the worst situations we can find ourselves in. But humor me here, at this point there is no way to affect the possibility of “what if you went out with him”, bit you can affect the “what if I miss out by waiting for him” situation. You aren’t going anywhere, move on and live life. You could either be happy with what you find, or he could come to his senses and miss you and you could have your shot, but you’ll never know until you take that first step.

Good luck!

A true love is a love in which you are loved BACK. It’s that simple. Were you loved back in this “love” you had for this other person? If not, it was an infatuation solely on your part. True love is NOT your trying to light a pile of waterlogged wood with a sputtering match. True love IS dropping a match in a room awash in gasoline–there’s a CONFLAGRATION! Go and find your TRUE LOVE now! Don’t pine away for something that never was, and never will be, and was never intended to be! Good luck!

Singer, please remember that what is now will not always be. :) *Love & Hugs*

try talking to your friend, and work things out where they dont talk about each other around you. apparently, eighter hes trying to make you jealous, or your not meant for each other.

chev.jame wrote:
A true love is a love in which you are loved BACK. It’s that simple. Were you loved back in this “love” you had for this other person? If not, it was an infatuation solely on your part. True love is NOT your trying to light a pile of waterlogged wood with a sputtering match. True love IS dropping a match in a room awash in gasoline–there’s a CONFLAGRATION! Go and find your TRUE LOVE now! Don’t pine away for something that never was, and never will be, and was never intended to be! Good luck!

Excellent reply!
I was going to try to help you, Singer, but he completely took my answer!

I’m glad you’re a little more over him now. :)

chev.jame wrote:
A true love is a love in which you are loved BACK. It’s that simple. Were you loved back in this “love” you had for this other person? If not, it was an infatuation solely on your part. True love is NOT your trying to light a pile of waterlogged wood with a sputtering match. True love IS dropping a match in a room awash in gasoline–there’s a CONFLAGRATION! Go and find your TRUE LOVE now! Don’t pine away for something that never was, and never will be, and was never intended to be! Good luck!

As much as I love this reply, sometimes it doesn’t work out just because you’re loved back… Sometimes, love isn’t enough…

i know how you feel

ok sorry about the timing

well i guess your welcome, now i just need to figure out my own problems, kinda funny in a way.

i kno how you feel, that happened to me. just happened to me today. i found out that the guy of my dreams has a girlfriend alrerady. i am only 14 and still hav time to find another guy. the situation has tought me to move on and not to linger on him forever. i have liked him for a year and a half now

thank you for your advice, i think that is exactly what im going to do.

ok thats a lot of replies :O
someone prolly already said this, but the easiest way to move on, is to find someone new. I didnt beleive that at all myself, until it actually happend. Twice. It works. Unfortunatly, someimtes you need to wait it out and endure the hardship until you find someone new. sowwy :(

Hey, it’s bassgirl. You helped me today, so I wanna help you too! Trust me when I say I understand. I feel like this often. I know I can only repeat at this point, but the only way to make the pain go away is to try to refocus onto someone else. It’s not easy. It’s just something time can heal. Hang in there sweetie. Boys are dumb.

bassgirlcoyn wrote:
Boys are dumb.

*hides in closet*

Everyone’s dumb! We’re all human, we all make mistakes…don’t expect that to ever end;) Stupid boys!

Sooooo is the new person working out? I always like to see if people are generally happier with the way things worked out in the end. Many of us never look back, while some seem to have a “need” to.

They always say everything happens for a reason, and if it’s meant to be it will be…there is no changing that. There is no “it was supposed to be” it’s either it IS or it ISN’T. No in-between. That’s my take anyway….

I’m really glad to hear you’re doing well singer. It’s nice to know that heartache isn’t bringing someone else down still. Once you get back into the swing of school I think you’ll have so much to distract you you won’t even know anymore. Keep it up! I just hope I can follow in your example haha.

you will tzubake as a tv repairman fashion designer or bear tracker!

Lmao mal.. you crack me up.

good smiling is like antibiotics for heart ache!!! so basically i’m your nurse! now take two of these and call me in the morning. *hands you two mike and ikes*

Haha why thank you, I’ll be sure to let you know how things went :P lol

eww you ate a green one. blech, those are the nasty ones!!

SingerInPurple wrote:
So in conclusion, I’d just like to tell everyone out there that reads this that if they like someone or are secretly admiring them, go out there and get them before it’s too late!

I really really want to, but I can’t. I know I need to, but there is something stopping me. I don’t know what to do, and I have never been more terrified in my life of losing her.

We don’t get to see each other much. But I’ve definitely given her tons of hints. I’ve practically outright told her, but I’m afraid she either A) Doesn’t feel even near the same way, or B) Misinterprets the signs, or just thinks that they are coincidence or something… I like to imagine and figure out what other people say before the scene actually comes into play… I can’t even imagine what she would do in that situation. I can’t picture what happens, so I’m afraid to continue.

I’ve done posts in the past. They usually end badly. Haha.
I don’t think, but I have to understand to function. I don’t talk on the phone well, it’d be easier in person… Sorry, maybe this isn’t the right place to talk about this, you seem kind of annoyed.

I’ve got no idea… Keep thinking until I think of something, I guess. And until then, just keep doing whatever stupid thing I’m doing now.

Ok, thanks. It’s not my fault I’ve got no confidence though. Haha

I know 100% how you feel You change ur eye color for a guy because you thought it would make him love you more. Don’t change your self for a guys the change yourself because YOU want to do it for ur self. I know it hurts to see the one you love in another girls arms, but remeber theres always bigger and better fish in the sea. You’ll get though it i promise you if i could do it you can do it too!! Best wishes