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I just recently broke up with this guy.

When we broke up, we were arguing over something stupid. Namely, him getting an oddly placed bug bite, and him accusing me of possibly giving him something. Me, being a cancer gal, took it as him not only accusing me of having something I didn’t (which has been tested, btw) , but cheating on him as well. That fight is what lead to our break up, rather suddenly and rather harshly. Because he took it from the fight to you make me unhappy and I don’t love you anymore. Which hurt.

So the week went on, and I do my best to forget and get over him. But he keeps texting me- once to “just see if I was okay” the next “to see if it was okay to come get my stuff back” (that, even after a week, he still has failed to come get it) and then just recently “happy birthday.” followed by continuing conversation. He also has started going out of his way to post on social forums that I post on, that he never showed an interest in even reading up until now. I am not only confused, but hurt as well. It is like he is just trying to make it a point to stay in contact with me just so that I keep hurting. (And I told him that I didn’t want anything to do with him- that I would not be his friend).

I guess what I”m really wondering is… is this the beginnings of an I want you back, is he just trying to hurt me more, or something completely different. I can’t talk to him with out bursting into tears, and I just want to either move on and forget or forgive and make up… but I don’t know which one to expect or prepare for.

Any advice is appreciated. I’m at the end of my rope.

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crazy711mdlay offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

(long live the cancers!)… well, the whole leaving him forever or trying it again is all up to you… (actually the horoscope said:Cancer do not let someone reenter your life this week. think about why they left your life in the first place.) i know break ups are hard, and unless he is upfront about what he feels, you wont really know if its “i want you back” or “i want to hurt you”, but you have to think about it , do you want him back, can y’all get over your big prblm… but i think he is just having a hard time to let go… breaking up hurts and its kinda scarry sometimes.

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SingerInPurple offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 128 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 26 minutes after post)

Harsh break up…I think he’s wants to see if you’ll forgive him, and from what you’re saying it maybe sounds like he wants to patch up…maybe…I’m honestly not sure, psh I hardly know anything when it comes to guys :P All I know is this: If this break up is really what you want, then you have to make that absolutely clear. Just tell him you’re going to need some space and that you don’t want him to contact you for a while…again, I’m really sorry about your break up! I hope you find a new special someone! Good luck!

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~ToXiC~ offline Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (22 hours, 13 minutes after post)

sounds like he wants to stay in contact with you and is using any lil reason to do it.. and hehasnt quite made up his mind yet bout what he wants to do… so just play your cards safely and be careful

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