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Need help with my shyness =/!

Well i’m 20, i just ended the college this year and got a really good job… in this aspect i really think i’m going very well in my life. But i have a real problem with my shyness, i’m overcoming most of it slowly…

But its very , very hard for me to start a relationship of any kind: just to get to know someone i need to be in a situation where i really need to interact, or i wouldn’t never do it…

The worst part is that i know i could just go there and talk to people, be friendly, but there’s something that blocks me, the most simple convesation with some unknown is too scary.

It’s killing me from the inside, i’m twenty and because of it i’m losing all my friends, and i never even kissed a girl, and now i dont really think i will engage a relationship with a girl i really love, because i wourld never talk to her… it’s like my time is passing and i’m letting my life go away =(

even typing it here would be a problem to me, i just posted it here because i know that hardly anyone who knows would be able to read and understand it - and i really know how ridicle it sounds-

i’ve already typed too much, i tryed to keep it simple, but each line i type i get more and more confused =/…
i’m sorry if i made too much mistakes, english isn’t my first language

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je offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

The only way to overcome shyness is to just forget about - just go for it. If you pretend that you’re confident, you eventually will become so. It is hard, but it’s worth it.

Start small - try smiling at someone one day. Say hi to random strangers from there. In no time you’ll start to feel confident. :)

Unfortunately there is no magic cure for beating shyness, but everyone suffers from it.

Ultimately the only one judging yourself and preventing you from reaching confidence is you - we interact with many people in this world, with a diverse range of opinions and backgrounds.

Realizing that shyness is a problem for you is the first
step in overcoming it - you’re on your way to beating it. :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

i agree with liquid courage but thats another story for parties. if you like to do something like rock climbing join a club at school. I know how it is to be shy. i was shy up until junior year in high school. then i broke out of my shell and pretty much went crazy the good kind of crazy i was talking to women i had friends and stuff. it was like a second me was free for the first time. i think the thing that broke me out was this camp i went to where i had to talk to people because we were in a circle. toastmasters does that with speeches but that my be a little much. join face book and host events. The coolest thing is to go to a BBQ in the summer do one of those with friends and tell them to bring people who you don’t know. dude it must of been really hard writing this post, But congratulations your becoming the real you!!!!!!!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 45 minutes after post)

first of all you are only 20 you still have a long life ahead of you although i am not way older than you i have been there before. as for the ladies just keep your head up and try to be the most confident perso around even if you have to act, if you cant then play the shy card some girls actually think its kind of cute. and friends will come and go your whole life if you feel you have to impress them tyhen drop them and find some who dont. “keep your head up because thats where it all is”

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