friends help: My life is crap at the moment.

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My life is crap at the moment.

My best friend seems to get all the attention and I get none.
I’ve been working int he same place for two years and I never seem to get invited out, I like the same type of music, same type of clubs as my workmates, I even go to a few of the same bars and clubs as them but they always ignore me. I never get invited to sit with them and I feel really left out. This has got so much worse since my workmates met my best friend. Several of them fancy her have been inviting her out for drinks without me, I wouldn’t mind if it was a date but they usually go out in a big group. It doesn’t help that all my uni mates fancy her too, I get more text messages directed at her than I do for me and it’s really really starting to get me down. Everyone seem to rush to sort out anything she needs doing while i’m left struggling. She can often be a bit of a ***** and use people to get what she wants, it really hurts that I try so hard to be a good person and a good friend and I don’t have anybody to care about me. I can’t work out what I’ve done that’s so bad that i’ve been left alone and so unhappy. I think now I shouldn’t have bothered being nice, being a selfish ***** gets you everywhere. Why is it so difficult to find any people in this world to care about me?

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Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Why don’t you ask your friend why you’re being left out? Tell her how you feel about it, maybe she can shed light on it for you. She knows you, we don’t, and you don’t know what you’re doing to cause it. So ask her :)

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

I got kicked out of home at 17 and so i’ve been living alone now for 7 years. I have done my BA and now i’m doing my phd, I’ve had about 10 jobs and everywhere it seems to be the same I know hundreds of people but I just know them. I just don’t seem to have anybody that cares for me, I sit in my front rrom most nights and i’ve even taking up going drinking on my own beacuse I have no-one to go with. That’s the problem i’ve spent 7 years trying to find a place i belong and I just keep being rejected.

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Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

That’s why I’m saying ask your friend. She knows you. She is very sociable and does well socially with others. Ask her why it’s not the same for you. I bet she’ll tell you.

qq7 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

She’d say it’s beacuse i’m fat. (eventhough i wouldn’t say UK size 12 is fat, she’s a size 8 with a fairly decent rack on her and i’ve got fried eggs stuck to my chest).

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Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

You don’t know what she’d say. Ask her and find out.

qq7 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

No that’s what she said when I came home crying the other week because i had to sit in a bar with all the people from work having a good time and being told quite frankly i wasn’t welcome. I did say friend in the loosest sense of the word. I just can’t understand why pople would choose to surround themselves with beutiful people even though they have the abrasive personaility of an unwashed heavily syphilitic C (hUNT)

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Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

Are you fun to be around?

bil.help 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Comparing yourself to others is the best way to make your life miserable. If you think no one is caring for you, start having care for yourself and take responsibilities. It is not that your best friend or your work place people making you feel lonely, you chose to be alone because you want _______. What do you want? Approval? You shouldn’t deny yourself to buy love and care. Instead of trying to be good and nice person, be yourself. It won’t hurt to express your anger and frustration. Start doing activities that you enjoy and love. I am pretty sure that people who will have a care for you will be drawn to that activity.

sadamus 2 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 24 minutes after post)

working with friends has never worked out for me, i agree with bil.help

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