depression help: my bf doesnt want to share his sadness with me… well the story is his grandma died, but he didnt call me … i am so sad :[ - Help.com

Sharing pain is something really difficult for guys, especially with girls. Wimen have a tendency to judge sadness and grief in men as character flaws and might use it as a weapon when there’s a fight… and although most girls would argue that they don’t… most guys knows that they do. Wimen are very image driven and selfish that way and likes to find weak spots to pick on in a way guys could never do (cause they’d get their ***** kicked).

It’s just something you learn as you go along. Not to let your guard down around a woman and let her have her “strong, silent man”.

So my suggestion is that you ask yourself:

Would you even want him after seeing him crying like a baby? Would you still respect him as a “man” and feel atracted to him?

If not - there’s your “why didn’t he call me?”.

If yes - let him know how you feel about him and that it’s actually ok. Cause as any guy would tell you, it’s far from obvious with wimen. You guys as a group are far, far more judgemental than guys as a group.