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I am 22 years old and I’m about to graduate college.

My boyfriend who is also 22 years old has already graduated and has a great paying job. I’m planning on getting a full-time job after I graduate in the same area he lives in now. We both want to move in with eachother after I graduate and we have been dating for over two years now. We plan on getting married no more than two years after I graduate, just to make sure that we are both financially stable. We are both completly ready to live with eachother but my parents have never agreed with me or anyone living with the opposite sex until they are married. I am the oldest of five kids. My parents are very conservative. How do I tell my parents that this is what I want to do? Also, how do I make them see that this is a good idea? I don’t want my parents to think of me differently.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (50 minutes after post)

Actually, you DO want them to see you differently. You’re no longer a dependant litttle girl. You’re a grown woman, on an equal footing with them, and you’re going off to live your own life. It’s been normal to live together before marriage for forty years now. You don’t have to tell them anything. Just do it. If you tell them before you do it, there’s just going to be a big drama fest.

Actually, you DO want them to see you differently. You're no longer a dependant litttle girl. You're a grown woman, on an equal footing with them, and you're going off to live your own life. It's been normal to live together before marriage for forty years now. You don't have to tell them anything. Just do it. If you tell them before you do it, there's just going to be a big drama fest.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

Yes, I do want them to see me differently. I do think this will be a huge shock to them though. I’m not so sure about not telling them until last minute, that could ultimately make a bigger drama fest.

Yes, I do want them to see me differently. I do think this will be a huge shock to them though. I'm not so sure about not telling them until last minute, that could ultimately make a bigger drama fest.

Anonymous #
1 year, 4 months ago (1 day, 16 hours after post)

Your parents are right. Living with a guy without marriage is a HUGE mistake for the woman. Get a job. Develop your own independent spirit first.

Your parents are right. Living with a guy without marriage is a HUGE mistake for the woman. Get a job. Develop your own independent spirit first.

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