Love help: I think I’m falling apart. - Help.com

i love that expression ¨falling apart¨ you see, english is not my first language, and so when someone says that I see them like in the cartoons, their arms fall down to the groung, and the rest of their body crumbles, like sand ….
eat lunch or dinner. get a full belly. and then sit down and feel good because: you are not going to fall apart like in the cartoons. so you havr that going for you.
you can ask your bf for money. be honest and ask.
and realize that whilst your uncle is going, you are still here.

and if you like movies: ¨there is no spoon¨

talk to someone your parents. if you think you are forced to act as an adult, why not act like an adult your way. do things that makes you happy.

p.s be easy on your boyfriend, i think because your feeling stress your finding someone that you can release your anger on. instead of getting angry talk to him.

about your uncle … even though it seems impossible, try to look at the bigger picture. It’s his time to go, and it happens to everyone sweety. no one is special, and everyone has to go through it. When my grandfather died of cancer, at first I was too devestated to even cry. I was numb. But believe me, everyday it gets better, even though you might not yet imagine it. After some time, I finally cried and cried, and occasionally I remember him and cry again. But this is something that happens to everyone, so if it’s any consolation, you’re not alone sweety, even though you might feel like it.

About your family, I cannot say that I can relate to your situation, but if you don’t like how your parents handle their responsibilities, try to work on making yourself better than them everyday. Promise yourself that you will never be like them.

As far as financial problems come, those problems are only temporary. If you have the option of borrowing money from your boyfriend or your friend, don’t let your pride prevent you from doing it. Desperate times ask for desperate measures.Don’t be shy, this could happen to anyone. I’m sure people would understand and be compassionate.

From what you said about your boyfriend, I think you do care for him, as does he. Your are just seeing everything ugly, because of the bad time you’re going through. When you’re going through a rough patch, you always take it on someone close to you. But instead, try to see him as your friend, and open up to him. Oh and if your best friend could care less, then she is not really your best friend.

If you’re going through some problems now, then they will help you mature, and you will be ready for these problems if they occur in a later time. if you mature quickly, it does not mean that you will lose the ‘fun’ period. It’s never too late. Just hold on … nothinnnnng is impossible.

steff_18 wrote:
about your uncle … even though it seems impossible, try to look at the bigger picture. It’s his time to go, and it happens to everyone sweety. no one is special, and everyone has to go through it. When my grandfather died of cancer, at first I was too devestated to even cry. I was numb. But believe me, everyday it gets better, even though you might not yet imagine it. After some time, I finally cried and cried, and occasionally I remember him and cry again. But this is something that happens to everyone, so if it’s any consolation, you’re not alone sweety, even though you might feel like it.

About your family, I cannot say that I can relate to your situation, but if you don’t like how your parents handle their responsibilities, try to work on making yourself better than them everyday. Promise yourself that you will never be like them.

As far as financial problems come, those problems are only temporary. If you have the option of borrowing money from your boyfriend or your friend, don’t let your pride prevent you from doing it. Desperate times ask for desperate measures.Don’t be shy, this could happen to anyone. I’m sure people would understand and be compassionate.

From what you said about your boyfriend, I think you do care for him, as does he. Your are just seeing everything ugly, because of the bad time you’re going through. When you’re going through a rough patch, you always take it on someone close to you. But instead, try to see him as your friend, and open up to him. Oh and if your best friend could care less, then she is not really your best friend.

If you’re going through some problems now, then they will help you mature, and you will be ready for these problems if they occur in a later time. if you mature quickly, it does not mean that you will lose the ‘fun’ period. It’s never too late. Just hold on … nothinnnnng is impossible.

You’ve helped me a lot… thank you.