Love help: okay, so, this is the typical cliché love triangle. - Help.com

If it’ll make them both happy, just be a good friend and say, “okay.”

Yu can’t do much in this situation, but give up, say okay, and find someone else.

Sorry but like they said, just say okay.

I know… I should say okay

it just bugs me how now my feelings don’t matter. The guy gave me the rudest response ever which just made me utterly upset. Oh jeez, I should say yes.

oooh. that must be heartbreaking! i think i have to agree with the others. there’s not much you can do about this. i’m surprised it doesn’t help you a little that it’s clear that he’s not as into you as you are into him. usually, those kinds of feelings (his for you) aren’t going to change. so you’re not exactly giving up much except a fading dream by giving your two friends your blessing.

it sounds like you’re a little angry with them (oops you just wrote that). but you can’t totally blame them. these things happen.

since there’s not much you can do, you only have two options: (1) you can suffer over this and tell your friends it’s OK half-heartedly, or (2) you can really accept the fact that they fell for each other and be a good friend to both of them. there’s something special about being good friends with two people who are close to each other, if you’re strong enough for it. you STILL know some aspects of each of them that they don’t know about each other. i think you should no only tell him it’s OK, but help him woo her.

the thing is, they told me they won’t be friends with me to spare me the heart ache. He even went to far as to block me on every site so I won’t see his pictures and not get over him.

hahaha! wow. sounds to me like that’s a bit immature of them. but then, i can tell you’re a young bunch so I’m not too surprised :)

this just emphasizes my point. it’s fair for you to be angry with them - this is going a bit far. but they also seem to mean well.

one way to make it clear that you can get over this IS to tell her that you’ll deal with it, and to make your point by saying you’ll talk to her about things he might like if you can think of anything.

clearly, you need to be patient with the two of them. and you’re going to have to re-establish your relationship with her first, since that’s less of a point of difficulty in this mess. he might take a while to come around.

high school :)

yes, I should, I talked to her and I think we’re okay. However, I hurt. A lot. and I don’t know what they’re going to do, I wish I could hear them talking or something…

ack, I hate this mess, I don’t think I’ll get over this guy soon.

i still remember the feeling of a crush i had on a particular girl/friend in high school - and now i’m 28. by best friend went out with her, and that was hard. he never knew how i felt, though. she definitely did know. in any case, she’s long gone from both of our lives and he and i continue to be close.

it’s funny, there’s something about high school love that makes it sooo strong. but anyway, it won’t take too long for you to find someone else (months, maybe, but you’ll get through it). and even though that won’t totally eliminate how you feel about him, it’ll push him into the background.

there isn’t any other guy you find interesting at all?