Sibling help: Sasquatch here, and I need some help regarding my brother… is anyone on?

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Sasquatch here, and I need some help regarding my brother…

is anyone on?

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vegetabletarian 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

yup i’m on what sort of help do you need?

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Sasquatch 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

My brother is showing a whole lot of signs that I showed back when I was depressed, and he totally refuses to let me help in any way. He wants space, but I know being alone isn’t good for him right now cuz I went thru the exact same stuff.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

He’s really distancing himself from our family. He’s hanging out with people that are bringing him down, drinking too much, acting depressed all the time… I know exactly how to help him, but he hates me right now because I tried to talk to him and he said it makes him feel smothered. He just took off on his motorbike and it’s almost 4AM here. I’m worried about him. He doesn’t see that his actions affect other people.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

He rides his bike drunk, cuts himself, and doesn’t seem to care about his life at all. I’m really worried he’s either going to crash his bike again, or purposly kill himself.

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vegetabletarian 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I think if he wants to be alone then let him but keep a close eye on him from a distance and let him know that you are there for him if he wants to chat. He might just be upset about something that will pass with time but if he starts harming himself in any way you will have to take action and tell him that what he is doing is wrong and you want to help him to be happy again. If you know what it is like to be like that then you should know what sort of things made you feel better and try and get those thingd to work on your brother

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

He just yells at me and tells me to f***** off every time I try to have an honest conversation with him. I’m too scared not to act, but I’m scared that acting will put him over the edge. I remember how volatile i was back then… I honestly have no idea what to do. At least I would talk to people when i was depressed. He’s isolating himself so badly… he won’t even admit he has a real problem.

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vegetabletarian 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

You could try asking some of his friends to have a word with him because if he wont listen to you then he might listen to them

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I only really know one of his friends..(I’m not sure he has that many) and I’m not sure this guy has the tact to talk to my brother in the way…
I guess I’m scared my brother will isolate him too just because he tries to help.

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River 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

I agree with ailsa that you should watch him from a distance. But I wouldn’t tell him that the self destructive behavior he’s displaying is wrong. He knows it’s wrong and that’s why he drinks or cuts or whatever. He wants to feel he’s doing something that’s punishing but he also feels it’s cleansing, like he’s starting anew. If you give out to him for it and say it’s wrong he’ll feel like you’re patronising him and you really don’t understand him at all. Don’t treat him like a child. It could send him to a worse place. You should try you’re hardest to let him know you understand.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (20 minutes after post)

I think his pride is too great to let himself believe that someone else actually understands him. He’s so bent on fixing everything himself (Just like I was) that he refuses to talk to anyone about anything he’s feeling, or anything remotely related to his mood, for that matter.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (22 minutes after post)

well, it’s also the fact that he doesn’t want to burden anyone else. He figures that if he can fix everything himself, then nobody will be brought down with him.

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River 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Then don’t act like you understand him but make it clear that you know he’s misunderstood. Everybody likes to think that their problems are unique and for the most part they are. But if he knows that you get that he’s depressed or that he has problems even if you don’t disclose what they are he’s still feel a little better to know that one person out there even understands that he can’t be understood.

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Sasquatch 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (30 minutes after post)

hmm..

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River 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (33 minutes after post)

I’m sorry if that wasn’t helpful, it’s just how I’d like to feel sometimes.

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Sasquatch 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (35 minutes after post)

no, it was. I’m just playing out scenarios in my head. Thanks for that post.

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