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the father(me)wants custody.

where to start? i’m depressed. i have a 3y/o son i don’t get to see like i want to. a few years ago, i had kidney problems that left me disabled, i wasn’t able to find his momma until he was 2, she moved with no forwarding info. once i found her, she wanted money. i told her that i wasn’t able to work, but i paid for a dna test and my disabilty has been taking care of him since. i never signed the birth certificate because she wanted him to have her last name, and i wouldn’t agree to it. everything was ok for a long time, i could see him, and i took them(him her and her 2 other sons)places -fishing,movies,etc- about twice a month. now, she is with a new guy, again.. she’s been through several (felon and drug dealing-using) boyfriends. but now she is getting my check- this guy is hanging around. she don’t want me to see him, take him anywhere. her new boyfriend don’t want me to even know her number. i don’t like the enviroment he is in. i’m scared she may be back on drugs. he is with his grandmother right now, but she’s nuts and there are bugs just crawling all over the house. last time i was there, she was saying her dauther should be helping out more with money. i wasn’t raised in that way, and don’t he should be either. so i’d like custody of him, or even half. but i don’t have any money for lawyers. i’m not sure what to do. i’m in Georgia. any good ideas?

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where to start? i’m depressed. i have a 3y/o son i don’t get to see like i want to. a few years ago, i had kidney problems that left me disabled, i wasn’t able to find his momma until he was 2, she moved with no forwarding info. once i found her, she wanted money. i told her that i wasn’t able to work, but i paid for a dna test and my disabilty has been taking care of him since. i never signed the birth certificate because she wanted him to have her last name, and i wouldn’t agree to it. everything was ok for a long time, i could see him, and i took them(him her and her 2 other sons)places -fishing,movies,etc- about twice a month. now, she is with a new guy, again.. she’s been through several (felon and drug dealing-using) boyfriends. but now she is getting my check- this guy is hanging around. she don’t want me to see him, take him anywhere. her new boyfriend don’t want me to even know her number. i don’t like the enviroment he is in. i’m scared she may be back on drugs. he is with his grandmother right now, but she’s nuts and there are bugs just crawling all over the house. last time i was there, she was saying her dauther should be helping out more with money. i wasn’t raised in that way, and don’t he should be either. so i’d like custody of him, or even half. but i don’t have any money for lawyers. i’m not sure what to do. i’m in Georgia. any good ideas?

Fuzzy Pepper offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Try calling social services//child protective services//etc. Try PrePaid Legal.

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darrensdog offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (46 minutes after post)

jellybelly wrote:
Try calling social services//child protective services//etc. Try PrePaid Legal.

can’t do that, with me not being on the brth certificate- he would go into foster care. plus, even if she is using, her mom’s got him, may not be the best enviroment, but they would probably consider it ok.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (48 minutes after post)

But you got a DNA test to prove father hood; In that case, even if you are not on the birth certificate, there is proof that you are the father. The Court would understand that. Foster care is not good, though. How does he act? Is he scared/withdrawn/hyper?

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Fuzzy Pepper offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (51 minutes after post)

OK, I have to go to bed.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (53 minutes after post)

he acts ok, but in ga, if i’m not on the birth certificate, i have no legal rights, even if i pay.

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1 year, 4 months ago (14 hours, 4 minutes after post)

Do you have any family, mom, dad or sister that could offer to baby sit him or something so that you can spend some time with him? She might take you up on it if it is free babysitting.

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