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!!!!! me and my boyfriend have been going out for a few years but i caught him cheating with his ex i still love him but i am having a hard time trusting him should i stay or go???

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MeMe 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 minute after post)

go, he’s a cheater

Rowass (The Great) 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Help! I need somebody Help! Not just anybody Help! You know I need someone Hehehehelp!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Never trust a cheater.

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Fuzzy Pepper 65 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Leave. There are better men out there

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Ok hold on. Cheaters can be forgiven.
I use to think the same way - LEAVE A CHEATER THEY’RE SCUM - but as I’ve matured I’ve learned that people make mistakes and sometimes it’s not worth throwing the baby out with the bathwater if you know what I mean.
If you want to TRY to forgive him and keep the relationship, there’s nothing wrong with that as long as he’s truly sorry and promises to never do it again. You’ll be watching him like a hawk for a few years (he’ll have to earn your trust all over again and be very patient with you) but it IS doable.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (30 minutes after post)

what were his reasons for cheating?

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Hybrid Theory 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (38 minutes after post)

everyone makes mistakes give him 1 more chance, but if he does it again, dump his *** as fast as possible.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (50 minutes after post)

does it matter there is never a good enough reason for cheating. not after you have been together a year!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (53 minutes after post)

thats true, but if no one ever got second chances then no relationship would ever last. everyone screws up big sometimes. i’m not defending the dude, i hate cheaters with a fiery burning passion, ive been cheated on too many times not to. but just once can be forgiven if they truly feel sorry for it. don’t just forgive and forget, make him earn your trust back the hard way, but at least let him try.

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happitoday 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (55 minutes after post)

Is this the 1st time? If it is then I would try to forgive and be strong so he knows that this is right cool and “if” there is a next time then it will be OVER, If he has done this before then be DONE with him!
LOVE can heal, if he loves you?

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♥ Kristin Renee♥ 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Once a cheater always a cheater.
Because u forgive him once he’s gonna
think u will let him get away wit it
again..and so on.

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lucif 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 hours, 37 minutes after post)

Say him, he has two weeks, to show you, why you should stay with him.
And tell him he cannot stay alone with his ex anymore.
If he convinces you. (Don’t go light on him)
And if he never stays alone with his ex.
You can forgive him.

Just remind him,
that if he breaks these rules.
Its over.

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Hybrid Theory 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (12 hours, 48 minutes after post)

♥ Kristin Renee♥ wrote:
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Because u forgive him once he’s gonna
think u will let him get away wit it
again..and so on.

thats why i said don’t just forgive him, make him work his a$$ off for it.

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