friends help: There are few things more upsetting to humans than real heartfelt disappointment. - Help.com

I think that we all expect certain things to happen, the same things that happen every day, every week, every year etc.
It can be dissapointing when things go wrong and we have to do something about what throws or routine into chaos. I think that sometimes it can be exciting as well. Putting things back into our neat tidy routine seams to satisfy us most of all but if this does not happen, then it becomes an adventure of life. Or otherwise, the disappointment you talk about.
It seams that change is changing quicker and more often than ever, I wonder if I will always be able to accept it, as well as I do now.
Expectations, are of the future. We can only be certain of now. We can expect all sorts of things, we dont know that they will matterialise.

Life is some kind of wierd. I can tell you from personal experience that nearly everything I plan either dosen’t go the way it suppose to or dosen’t happen at all. I tell you, I must have said “it wasn’t suppose to be this way” hundreds of times in the last three years alone.

why not expect what WILL happen?

or expect less, then the reality will come as a pleasant surprise.

i use this to my advantage

I think that it’s impossible to never have expectations. i also think that could be unhealthy, because without expectations you will settle for anything, or less then you should. Like you said, there must be balance. Too many expectations can really bring you down because you’ll most likely go into overdrive and then really be hurt when you get less then you thought.

some people’s expectations are so high that they begin to act like they are ‘entitled’. i have a friend that thinks she is entitled to EVERYTHING. but…she does not want to work for it. she expects everything to be given to her. that is not a good quality to have.

i think if you focus and work hard for the things you want in life, you should measure your expectations by the amount of effort you put towards getting them.
uh-oo. crying baby-brb!

Utopia is a great place, because there is no disappointments but there is also no expectations…
Nice place to visit but I would not want to live there. As for me, I sometimes need a little pain or disappointment in my life to really appreciate, the good things in my life and the expectation that no matter how dark it may get, the sun will shine…
I think with perspective, comes wisdom… without the sometimes bad moments, how would we ever know and appreciate the good times…

Felicity-{KRISS} wrote:
Ok2BU,Excellent and needed to be said,thank you.I take it you have experienced Utopia.I have too,It was a great place to visit,but at the same time it was weird,foreign.Do you know what I mean?

With Illusion, balance is so very important. I have seen people make desperate decisions and lose themselves in a world of illusion.
As a painter, I paint illusions and no matter how much I get into it , I have learned never to lose touch with reality…I guess I’m getting old…..

Felicity-{KRISS} wrote:
The sad thing is in the pessimists mind(s) they see it as’ Why not expect less then disappointment won’t come’ and that leaves them without hope.And we must always find,keep and trust hope cuz it’s the last thing to go before giving up .I love , think and believe as you do.Optomisticly (?)

on the contrary, this is a quite optimistic view of life. you accept life as it comes and do not ‘expect’ life to reward you things. so when happy instances do occur, they come as a pleasant surprise. ex, surprise birthday party, or, on a smaller scale, an unexpected hug from a friend.

if you can learn to be happy with what you have, then you don’t need hope to get you through the day, you actually HAVE happiness.

no problem. glad if i helped. :)

I think you are right about our expectations leading to disappointment. Did you hear about the Olympic wrestler who won bronze, and then left his medal and quit the sport because he thought he was cheated out of gold? Maybe he should have won gold, I don’t know. But thousands of people who tried just as hard, but didn’t have his talent, would have loved to win that bronze medal. Now for the rest of his life he’ll only see this time with regret. He could have kept the bronze and tried next Olympics for gold again.

Here is the link.
http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/2008…

I can say this: thank God for sleep. It kind of lets us “reboot” the day. I am also glad that I can sleep again. Insomnia is no fun. I told my teenaged daughter that she gave me “insomnia cooties.” She’s up most of the night, poor thing, worried about what her boyfriend will do. First love . . . and the whole world hangs in the balance.

Talk about a sore looser… man Canadians haven’t one any even yet, but I guess our motto is it doesn’t matter if you win or loose it’s how you play the game ( and how you conduct yourself in the wrestler’s case) Yeah this was on the news about how Candians olympic athletes mindsets are potentially causing them no NOT win any medals… what’s up with that eh?

Pshaw… bring in the hockey and will take em all on!!! hahahaha

As the Buddhist say, our desire is what causes our suffering. So if you don’t want suffering… stop your desire (according to the Buddhists). I myself prefer to follow Les Brown’s statement of; “Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars.” There is no such thing as failure. Yes, there is disappointment, but it is a human condition to continue to move forward, I do not see moving forward as a failure. Yes, we sometimes get stuck, but often that is a choice. As Lacuna said, live in the moment, be grateful for that moment, and happiness will be yours.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

I don’t think it is that we expect people to do a certain or act a certain way but we always usually hope for the best. Hope is essential to life. It keeps us moving in a forward direction. It motivates us. Additionally, disappointment is apart of life and can not avioded. Things happen, human make mistakes, and life does not fo according to our plans. We just need to learn to let disappointment destory us and our dreams. When disappointment happens you have redefine your dream or goal.

Hi MamaBear:)

If we didn’t aim high we would never get there. I dream big, I dream small, I’m very happy with nothing at all. Put your faith in man, he’ll let you down, put your faith in God, he never will.

Thanks for the invite:)