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Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.
Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.

Visit church, do something.
Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.

I wish nothing but the best,
Jasmine

okay I need you to stay online and I am going to read your post, I have yet to read it because it is rather lengthy which is okay but I wanted to first post it will be okay and I am here for you to talk to you.

:) hold on.

It sounds like you have something very important to live for, your child. You may feel that he is better off without you but I strongly disagree. Perhaps he may need to stay with your parents for a while during the time you get help, but he will always need you in his life.

You definately need to ditch the boyfriend. Do you have family that can help you out every once in a while? Can they watch your son for a while so you can do something that makes you happy? What did you used to like to do? Walks, art, movies with friends?

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:
Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.
Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.

Visit church, do something.
Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.

I wish nothing but the best,
Jasmine

Thanks for replying but don’t you think that if I could make the choice to be happy then I would have done it already. I’ve tried so hard to find something to live for. I just want to be happy.
And I do go to church every week…it’s about the only thing that helps me.

You have a son, and taking your own life would be selfish.
the whole point of being a parent is to make your child’s life better than the one you had, you need to say goodbye to le boyfriend.
I dont know what to tell you on terms of your job, but I do know alot on being a daughter to a great mother.
I always look up to my mom, and she sets the example for me, so set an example for your son, be strong.

as for now, to make you feel better eat like the most chocolatley sugary ice cream on the planet, or something totally delicious that you love, and watch a funny movie or some I love lucy re runs, those always make me feel better.

keep your head up.

and I am forwarning you for the cheesiest and corniest quote ever.

“the night is always darkest just before the dawn.”

so keep your head up.

:)

prettyprincesspeac wrote:
Talk to someone. Talk to a friend, a family member that you trust, and most importantly, get rid of your boyfriend if he is causing you pain, or adding to your longing to die. God will always forgive you for whatever you do. If you couldn’t have handled another baby, then it was the right thing. You may regret it, but there is noting that you can do about it now. Stay with your parents until you feel more up to being on your own. Go to a spa, meet some people, go to a movie, go shopping or get your nails done!

Best of luck!

She’s right. There is nothing that God won’t forgive. You now have to do what is right for you and your son. Take things a little bit at a time. Ask for your church congregation to pray for you and we certainly will.

“I have been used over and over again by everyone. Especially the ones that are close to me. I have given away thousands of dollars, moved my son into my room so a close friend would have a place to stay (and received no payment), been the ear that friends needed to talk to, a shoulder to lean on when they were down, and always have the first tissue when they cry. …I still can’t stop. I still give. I can’t say no. I’m just a complete moron.”

i feel like that all the time. ^that is like my life story. everyday i rly feel like dying but i just hang in there and it gets better. each day can you name one thing that brings you joy? like for example maybe your son? hang in there so you can make sure that his life is better. and if you go to church do you know that if u commit suicid you go to hell forever? not trying to sound like a saint because im far from that but yea. like that keeps me alive most times too. like i compare my pain to hell and my pain seems like a better choice because in the end, the pain and worries and sorrow is temporary, but suicide and hell, is permanent. suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem

quaba_ wrote:
You definately need to ditch the boyfriend. Do you have family that can help you out every once in a while? Can they watch your son for a while so you can do something that makes you happy? What did you used to like to do? Walks, art, movies with friends?

I know. My family is great. They do actually take me son every month or so for a few days so I have “me” time, but I’m so pathetic I don’t even do anything except what I always do. Sit here.
I loved everything. sports, music, the sun, swimming, friends…I just can’t find the motivation to do anything. I don’t know what to do.

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:
Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.Visit church, do something.Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.I wish nothing but the best,Jasmine

Thanks for replying but don’t you think that if I could make the choice to be happy then I would have done it already. I’ve tried so hard to find something to live for. I just want to be happy.And I do go to church every week…it’s about the only thing that helps me.

Something to live for? Is your child not someone to live for? I understand you’re very depressed here but I cant comprehend how your child isnt someone who gives you the desire to just change everything and be happy, and above all be the reason why you want to live!

Dear Poster,

You need to do some face to face counseling my dear. Your own misery now is the reflection of what you have been through in the years that you were under the abuse of people close to you. We know people treat us the way we let them do so. But it should stop. Now that you want to move on, please do not ever try to think that you are not worthy of it and that your leg is still in the dark side.

In truth, you are in a better place now that you realize the help that you really need.

Please do not give up. In the past weeks, i just survived a very sad affair from someone who maltreated me. It was a mistake that i let them do it. I felt worthless and i wanted to end it.

But i also have a son. The little kiddo who depends on me. When i look at him, i see the future.

I hope you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

You are not alone.

My thoughts are with you.

Let me know if you want to talk.

Love,
lilies

The world looks extra awful to you right now because your brain chemicals are messed up. Depression has it’s hold on you.
Have you tried different anti depressants to pull you out of this state? They don’t have to be forever, just to get you over the hump if that’s what you wish. Meds are a much better solution than suicide (which would haunt your son for the rest of his life and give him disorders like PTSD). If you’ve tried some meds and they didn’t work for you - try AGAIN. It usually takes many many trial and errors before the right med/combo/dose is found.
Don’t give up! Your son needs you in this world.
Realize that your mind isn’t seeing things realistically because of your depression.
I think you’re so far down the depression pit that meds might be the only thing to pull you out now.

and if you go to church do you know that if u commit suicid you go to hell forever? not trying to sound like a saint because im far from that but yea. like that keeps me alive most times too. like i compare my pain to hell and my pain seems like a better choice because in the end, the pain and worries and sorrow is temporary, but suicide and hell, is permanent. suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem[/quote]

ya, that’s why I haven’t. I am trying to find ways to value my life…

bangin241 wrote:

quaba_ wrote:
You definately need to ditch the boyfriend. Do you have family that can help you out every once in a while? Can they watch your son for a while so you can do something that makes you happy? What did you used to like to do? Walks, art, movies with friends?

I know. My family is great. They do actually take me son every month or so for a few days so I have “me” time, but I’m so pathetic I don’t even do anything except what I always do. Sit here. I loved everything. sports, music, the sun, swimming, friends…I just can’t find the motivation to do anything. I don’t know what to do.

no no no no your not pathetic! not in the least, so what? maybe your life isnt a disney fairytale at the moment, but that is still in the cards, really keep your head up high.
and just think about your child, he should be all the motivation you need to live a better life.

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:
Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.Visit church, do something.Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.I wish nothing but the best,Jasmine

Thanks for replying but don’t you think that if I could make the choice to be happy then I would have done it already. I’ve tried so hard to find something to live for. I just want to be happy.And I do go to church every week…it’s about the only thing that helps me.

Something to live for? Is your child not someone to live for? I understand you’re very depressed here but I cant comprehend how your child isnt someone who gives you the desire to just change everything and be happy, and above all be the reason why you want to live!

He is the motivation. He’s my reason that I’m even here.

wow your the female version of me..same story but from a womans view..but iv got 2 kind who live with “it”..your luck babe your sons living with you..look in to his eyes and imagine a life with out him…you couldnt imagine it could you..he need you just as much as you need him be strong and loose his dad and find some one who will treat you like a princess and yous son a prince..you deserve the best for you and your son

That is good. And you are doing the very right thing to talk to us about it. :) My son inspired me to get some strength i am lacking too.

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:
Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.Visit church, do something.Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.I wish nothing but the best,Jasmine

Thanks for replying but don’t you think that if I could make the choice to be happy then I would have done it already. I’ve tried so hard to find something to live for. I just want to be happy.And I do go to church every week…it’s about the only thing that helps me.

Something to live for? Is your child not someone to live for? I understand you’re very depressed here but I cant comprehend how your child isnt someone who gives you the desire to just change everything and be happy, and above all be the reason why you want to live!

He is the motivation. He’s my reason that I’m even here.

Good :) I’m not sure how much help this site can be but know that there’s a room full of strangers you can always talk to. We may not give the best of advice or truly know what to say but know there’s always someone here for ya.

So tell me, what changes will you make?

ha agian “ya, that’s why I haven’t. I am trying to find ways to value my life…” –my life story. so basically just try to hang in there. spend time with your son who will always love you no matter what. and focus on pursuing a career. i love dance and that is another thing i live for

Chameleon wrote:
The world looks extra awful to you right now because your brain chemicals are messed up. Depression has it’s hold on you.Have you tried different anti depressants to pull you out of this state? They don’t have to be forever, just to get you over the hump if that’s what you wish. Meds are a much better solution than suicide (which would haunt your son for the rest of his life and give him disorders like PTSD). If you’ve tried some meds and they didn’t work for you - try AGAIN. It usually takes many many trial and errors before the right med/combo/dose is found.Don’t give up! Your son needs you in this world.Realize that your mind isn’t seeing things realistically because of your depression.I think you’re so far down the depression pit that meds might be the only thing to pull you out now.

Yes in the past I tried something but it just didn’t work.

Listen:
I’ve been where you are. I was so depressed I was suicidal. I had it all rationalized in my mind how my sons would truly be better off without me. That me killing myself would actually be an act of selfless kindness towards them to save them from any more pain I might cause. But I was WRONG. Your brain chemistry is MESSED UP when you’re so depressed and reality takes a hike. You’ve GOT to understand that you’re not seeing things correctly now.

You say meds didn’t work in the past - TRY AGAIN. Better than suicide. Keep trying. Don’t give up. It took me YEARS to find the right combo/dose of meds to give me relief. Please, don’t stop trying.

For right now, to get you out of your funk, call up a friend from church. Have him or her come over to your place and just go for a walk. You don’t have to talk about anything, maybe movies or something. If your son is with you, take him too. Go someplace beautiful like a lake or park. Today!

Try new meds. New ones are coming out all the time. Have you tried Lexapro?

me,myself,and i wrote:
wow your the female version of me..same story but from a womans view..but iv got 2 kind who live with “it”..your luck babe your sons living with you..look in to his eyes and imagine a life with out him…you couldnt imagine it could you..he need you just as much as you need him be strong and loose his dad and find some one who will treat you like a princess and yous son a prince..you deserve the best for you and your son

thank you…sometimes I feel like I’m all he has, because in reality I usually am. Then I think that what good am I to him when I’m this way? I try so hard but I always fail.

what end it all and miss the best days of your sons life he wont be better off he would miss you and prob blame him self in later life go on live life not just for him but for both of you and every one who loves you cause we do

Chameleon wrote:
Try new meds. New ones are coming out all the time. Have you tried Lexapro?

No. One of my clients at my job takes it and it definitely doesn’t work for her but I know we are all different.

bangin241 wrote:

me,myself,and i wrote:
wow your the female version of me..same story but from a womans view..but iv got 2 kind who live with “it”..your luck babe your sons living with you..look in to his eyes and imagine a life with out him…you couldnt imagine it could you..he need you just as much as you need him be strong and loose his dad and find some one who will treat you like a princess and yous son a prince..you deserve the best for you and your son

thank you…sometimes I feel like I’m all he has, because in reality I usually am. Then I think that what good am I to him when I’m this way? I try so hard but I always fail.

Nobody’s perfect. He’s not asking for a perfect parent. He’s asking for a loving parent. Do you love him?

PLEASE READ THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
giving your life a “re-vamping” or a “180″ is not going to be a transformation overnight.

but seriously consider these:
1.) You need to seperate from your boyfriend. You deserve better, and so does your child.
2.) See a therapist, a counseler, I have been to a few, and at first I was so hesitant on going, but in the end they changed my life, they can do that for you too.
3.) I know you said you wish you could have fun and if you could you would still enjoy the things you use to you would. Well don’t give up on that, talk to your son and don’t make him feel isolated.

As for today, as in today today.

you should get off the computer, technology will not solve your problem, take a walk eat some seriously yummy food, excersice (sorry I cannot spell that word!), endorphins will make you feel better, just get out and do something, don’t sit inside all day on the computer, do something today, go outside!

Lexapro has been proven in clinical trials to be an effective and well-tolerated prescription medication that improves the quality and enjoyment of life for adults suffering from depressionA disease that affects millions of Americans each year, believed to be caused by an imbalance of certain chemicals in the brain, called neurotransmitters. and generalized anxiety disorder (GAD)An overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often accompanied by physical symptoms such as tension, sweating, or increased pulse rate. Anxiety symptoms are commonly associated with depression..2

Lexapro is a member of the group of prescription drugs called selective serotoninA neurotransmitter that is believed to influence mood. SSRIs help relieve the symptoms of depression by increasing the available supply of serotonin in the brain. reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Lexapro has been prescribed to over 15 million U.S. adults for depression, anxiety, or both.5 With just one 10 mg tablet a day, Lexapro significantly improved the symptoms of depression and anxiety for many patients beginning at week 1 or 2.* It is a powerful medicine that is well tolerated. In studies of patients taking 10-mg a day of Lexapro, the number of people who stopped taking Lexapro due to side effects was comparable to those who took placebo in the treatment of depression, and low in the treatment of GAD.2,3,6*†

Explore additional information in this section such as Why Take Lexapro, and How Lexapro Works.

* Full antidepressant/anxiolytic effect may take 4 to 6 weeks.

† 8% for Lexapro vs 4% for placebo in the comprehensive GAD safety database

bangin241 wrote:

Chameleon wrote:
Try new meds. New ones are coming out all the time. Have you tried Lexapro?

No. One of my clients at my job takes it and it definitely doesn’t work for her but I know we are all different.

It was the miracle cure for me.
Yes everyone is different. Rather than suicide, find the one that’s a miracle cure for you.
Please, please, please get help. Even if it’s just more therapy. You’re in dire straights.

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:
Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.Visit church, do something.Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.I wish nothing but the best,Jasmine

Thanks for replying but don’t you think that if I could make the choice to be happy then I would have done it already. I’ve tried so hard to find something to live for. I just want to be happy.And I do go to church every week…it’s about the only thing that helps me.

Something to live for? Is your child not someone to live for? I understand you’re very depressed here but I cant comprehend how your child isnt someone who gives you the desire to just change everything and be happy, and above all be the reason why you want to live!

He is the motivation. He’s my reason that I’m even here.

Good :) I’m not sure how much help this site can be but know that there’s a room full of strangers you can always talk to. We may not give the best of advice or truly know what to say but know there’s always someone here for ya.So tell me, what changes will you make?

It does not take much to make me happy. I don’t need expensive things or stuff like that. What I truely value in life is giving and receiving love and I think that’s why I’m so messed up cuz over the years love has been my downfall. I wish I could just change the outlook I have on myself.

PLEASE READ THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
giving your life a “re-vamping” or a “180″ is not going to be a transformation overnight.

but seriously consider these:
1.) You need to seperate from your boyfriend. You deserve better, and so does your child.
2.) See a therapist, a counseler, I have been to a few, and at first I was so hesitant on going, but in the end they changed my life, they can do that for you too.
3.) I know you said you wish you could have fun and if you could you would still enjoy the things you use to you would. Well don’t give up on that, talk to your son and don’t make him feel isolated.

As for today, as in today today.

you should get off the computer, technology will not solve your problem, take a walk eat some seriously yummy food, excersice (sorry I cannot spell that word!), endorphins will make you feel better, just get out and do something, don’t sit inside all day on the computer, do something today, go outside!

quaba_ wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

me,myself,and i wrote:
wow your the female version of me..same story but from a womans view..but iv got 2 kind who live with “it”..your luck babe your sons living with you..look in to his eyes and imagine a life with out him…you couldnt imagine it could you..he need you just as much as you need him be strong and loose his dad and find some one who will treat you like a princess and yous son a prince..you deserve the best for you and your son

thank you…sometimes I feel like I’m all he has, because in reality I usually am. Then I think that what good am I to him when I’m this way? I try so hard but I always fail.

Nobody’s perfect. He’s not asking for a perfect parent. He’s asking for a loving parent. Do you love him?

More than anything.

bangin241 wrote:

quaba_ wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

me,myself,and i wrote:
wow your the female version of me..same story but from a womans view..but iv got 2 kind who live with “it”..your luck babe your sons living with you..look in to his eyes and imagine a life with out him…you couldnt imagine it could you..he need you just as much as you need him be strong and loose his dad and find some one who will treat you like a princess and yous son a prince..you deserve the best for you and your son

thank you…sometimes I feel like I’m all he has, because in reality I usually am. Then I think that what good am I to him when I’m this way? I try so hard but I always fail.

Nobody’s perfect. He’s not asking for a perfect parent. He’s asking for a loving parent. Do you love him?

More than anything.

Every day you have to say that to yourself.

Go Fight Win! Pink wrote:
PLEASE READ THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!giving your life a “re-vamping” or a “180″ is not going to be a transformation overnight.but seriously consider these:1.) You need to seperate from your boyfriend. You deserve better, and so does your child.2.) See a therapist, a counseler, I have been to a few, and at first I was so hesitant on going, but in the end they changed my life, they can do that for you too.3.) I know you said you wish you could have fun and if you could you would still enjoy the things you use to you would. Well don’t give up on that, talk to your son and don’t make him feel isolated.As for today, as in today today.you should get off the computer, technology will not solve your problem, take a walk eat some seriously yummy food, excersice (sorry I cannot spell that word!), endorphins will make you feel better, just get out and do something, don’t sit inside all day on the computer, do something today, go outside!

I definitely need to get out of this room. And I would honestly love to eat but there is just something with my stomach that won’t let me…i hate it cuz I used to love to eat.

quaba_ wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

quaba_ wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

me,myself,and i wrote:
wow your the female version of me..same story but from a womans view..but iv got 2 kind who live with “it”..your luck babe your sons living with you..look in to his eyes and imagine a life with out him…you couldnt imagine it could you..he need you just as much as you need him be strong and loose his dad and find some one who will treat you like a princess and yous son a prince..you deserve the best for you and your son

thank you…sometimes I feel like I’m all he has, because in reality I usually am. Then I think that what good am I to him when I’m this way? I try so hard but I always fail.

Nobody’s perfect. He’s not asking for a perfect parent. He’s asking for a loving parent. Do you love him?

More than anything.

Every day you have to say that to yourself.

I just want to be more strong for him. He sees me cry so often it’s like 2nd nature to him and I hate that.

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Jasmine Jackeline wrote:
Woman, you need to snap out of it. Do something, take action. You cant continue in your state. Get help if you cant do it for yourself do it for everyone else around you who loves you. You have a child you need to be strong for.Make the choice to be happy. Get rid of that man you call your boyfriend and start building healthy relationships.Visit church, do something.Don’t drown yourself in your own missery. Only you can do something about it.I wish nothing but the best,Jasmine

Thanks for replying but don’t you think that if I could make the choice to be happy then I would have done it already. I’ve tried so hard to find something to live for. I just want to be happy.And I do go to church every week…it’s about the only thing that helps me.

Something to live for? Is your child not someone to live for? I understand you’re very depressed here but I cant comprehend how your child isnt someone who gives you the desire to just change everything and be happy, and above all be the reason why you want to live!

He is the motivation. He’s my reason that I’m even here.

Good :) I’m not sure how much help this site can be but know that there’s a room full of strangers you can always talk to. We may not give the best of advice or truly know what to say but know there’s always someone here for ya.So tell me, what changes will you make?

It does not take much to make me happy. I don’t need expensive things or stuff like that. What I truely value in life is giving and receiving love and I think that’s why I’m so messed up cuz over the years love has been my downfall. I wish I could just change the outlook I have on myself.

First of all I must say you should really end the relationship you have with this guy. If you’re living together kick him out of the house if hes violent set a restraining order, if its his house ask your parent to take you in while you get back on your feet and still just keep away from him and so called friendships of people who were never truly your friends to begin with. The help is out there but 1st you need to make the choice to help yourself which you just did and now make a plan and carry it out. =] God bless you.

I would like to ask you to visit this website http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domes…
Down the left hand side are many links to all sorts of illness problems. You have many things that are causing you problems that can be diagnosed and treated.

I would ask that you studdy this website, find the parts that apply to you. Then come back in your own time and talk to us again.
There are many more links that lead to more information should you need it.

I am hoping that you will use this advice. I realy do think it might help to explain things to you and help you to find some answers.

Chameleon wrote:

bangin241 wrote:

Chameleon wrote:
Try new meds. New ones are coming out all the time. Have you tried Lexapro?

No. One of my clients at my job takes it and it definitely doesn’t work for her but I know we are all different.

It was the miracle cure for me.Yes everyone is different. Rather than suicide, find the one that’s a miracle cure for you.Please, please, please get help. Even if it’s just more therapy. You’re in dire straights.

I will definitely make another appt. with a doctor. Thank you.

thep wrote:
I would like to ask you to visit this website http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domes… Down the left hand side are many links to all sorts of illness problems. You have many things that are causing you problems that can be diagnosed and treated.I would ask that you studdy this website, find the parts that apply to you. Then come back in your own time and talk to us again.There are many more links that lead to more information should you need it.I am hoping that you will use this advice. I realy do think it might help to explain things to you and help you to find some answers.

Thank you so much I will check it out now.

my grandmother used to say this to me, “Everyday and in every way, I’m getting better and better.” Put that in your list of things to say every day.

So you have not ended this relationship with this guy. You won’t be lonely if you will be on your own…just you and your son. If you keep on getting sad, your son is going to see you and feel the sadness in you.

It’s not going to be easy dealing with this bec this guy makes you dependent of him emotionally and that is actually a tactic for manipulation.

bangin241 wrote:

Go Fight Win! Pink wrote:
PLEASE READ THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!giving your life a “re-vamping” or a “180″ is not going to be a transformation overnight.but seriously consider these:1.) You need to seperate from your boyfriend. You deserve better, and so does your child.2.) See a therapist, a counseler, I have been to a few, and at first I was so hesitant on going, but in the end they changed my life, they can do that for you too.3.) I know you said you wish you could have fun and if you could you would still enjoy the things you use to you would. Well don’t give up on that, talk to your son and don’t make him feel isolated.As for today, as in today today.you should get off the computer, technology will not solve your problem, take a walk eat some seriously yummy food, excersice (sorry I cannot spell that word!), endorphins will make you feel better, just get out and do something, don’t sit inside all day on the computer, do something today, go outside!

I definitely need to get out of this room. And I would honestly love to eat but there is just something with my stomach that won’t let me…i hate it cuz I used to love to eat.

well that is very unfortunate that you cannot eat….
ummm sometimes when I get really depressed, I feel like I don’t want to eat or I will get sick if I do, but my mom makes me and I feel better, really just eat. =) eat eat eat and really say your goodbyes from all of the helpful people on this board and GET OUTTA your room, turn off the computer, kick start this transformation!

go get some food eat the food with passion sit there and day dream think what you want to do and then how to do it start simple like start tomorrow with an idea plan a goal but sit there with food cos they say food for thought

i know wot you mean hun..i was 16st and im now 8..every time i try and eat im s**k..you need to go see the doc before you loose too much weight like me…i black out and colaps..see thing that arnt there im too weak to even get a wash some times..and thats not good..go see your doc and make a start..then move away and find your prince charming

Go, go, go. Take a walk and bring a camera.

yeah that is a great idea quaba_ take some pictures out on this adventerous walk, even if the pictures arent great, I am sure it would be fun and distracting.

Thank you to all who responded…I really do feel better. I will take all of your advice in and try to act on it.
I’m going to wash my face and go outside…thank you all so much.

take an apple with you or any friut if its to hand

bangin241 wrote:
Thank you to all who responded…I really do feel better. I will take all of your advice in and try to act on it.
I’m going to wash my face and go outside…thank you all so much.

np, good luck

Keep in touch! God bless!

yay!!! dont respond to any more posts, quit out of the internet!!! hip hip horrayyyy!!!

=D

smile, be happy.

bangin241.

Good night, let me know how you get on please. You can give me a shout and leave me a message that way, if you wish to. Thank you.

Yay! good luck! :) and let us know about it. :) have some ice creeeaaam!

gimme a shout too! I hope to hear from you soon!!!

Will do that. Good night.

Hi Bangin - Sorry I came to the post late. I have read your post and all the replies. I see you are trying very hard to change the saddness ring that severe depression brings.

I too suffer from the same thing and I know how the saddness effects the rest of your functions (sleep, eatting, crying etc). Depression screws up every aspect of life. All color is gone and only blackness remains. I too have been used and thrown away by the people I have cared for. This ripes you apart.

You have a wonderful gift in your son. I know you know this and are fighting with all your might to continue to live for him. He needs his mother. I have lost both my parents and wish everyday I could still have them around. If you were gone he would miss his mother for the rest of his life. Every happinees he experences he would wissh his mother would be there.

Your boyfriend does not deserve you. This relationship is toxic and bringing you further down. You need to do things that make you happy.

In fact reply back with a list of things that make you smile and warm you heart. It can be small things or big things. Just type it all down. This way youcan refer back to it as often as you need to. then each day make sure you experience 5 or more things off that list.

Don’t focus on the things that are so negative in your life. Focus on the positive things you have.

Lexapro has worked wonders for my friend who was very suicidal. It is suited more for people with depression and aniexty. It has helped curb my aniexty also. Wellbutrin helps more with depression.

I am here for you.

I went exactly the same thing for a year. Not as long as you, but i can relate.

It seems you really wanted to help and love everyone in the world…
…but never got any love back. That’s exactly what i went through. Long story, message me if you want to know.

Kinda makes you feel that everyone is selfish and hateful, doesn’t it? Kinda makes you feel like the world is a Lord of the Flies horror movie?

I don’t know about you. But I thought that everyone in the world was like that. Everyone. I mean here i was, helping everyone, always the shoulder to cry on, turning the other cheek, i put up with my abusive girlfriend, my abusive parents, I was always there for them… i … why couldn’t people love me like i loved them?

I do debate. And thank goodness I do. Well, even if you have never breathed on argumentation, i’m sure you’ve heard the expression “it only takes one exception to break a rule”.

Well, the rule seemed to be “people are selfish *******”. So all I needed was an exception.

**** it. I couldn’t find one really. Or at least at the time i thought I couldn’t.

I decided to create one, and be that exception myself, which is why i help people like you and volunteer and school and such. If I still remain the one who isn’t selfish and who is ethical, then I know not everyone is that way. Moreover, the “self, don’t be arrogant” rule tells me that if I am like that, surely there must be others (like you I am sure).

Maybe that line of thought will help you with the feelings of contempt towards the world.

But you also expressed a feeling of being used and I don’t want you to do what I just said above and have that happen to you again - because I know what that feels like too /:

So, here’s what i did. I was used by my girlfriend. And… by my friends in general. Much like I think you will sway from your saintly altruism and that you should be proud of that, I don’t think the company you are around currently will change much either and that you should be disdainful towards them.

If you’re like me, you might feel guilty for feeling any hate or dislike towards anyone, which is why i would assume that this has continued for so long. I used to for the longest time.

This brings me to my second thing I need you to do: bring yourself to dislike these people more than you dislike yourself and get the hell out and don’t give it too much thought. You might have taken psychology and know about Martin Seligmann. Long story short, depression is a lot about perception. Perception is a lot about where you put the contempt. Depressed people put contempt towards themselves primarily. Healthy people know when to put that contempt towards someone else. From what i read, it seems like you hate yourself in places and at times where you should really be blaming someone else.

At the point where you have done this, it’s time to get out of there and don’t think too much about it. Often times, depressed people have difficulty doing this. I know I did. I kept rebounding onto that same abusive girlfriend… breakup after breakup. You need to let go of those around you. Get a plane ride and move somewhere else. Away from the people who hurt you. If you don’t have the money to do so, get some, you seem to be hard working.

Finally, the last thing, when you finally do move, do what it takes to heal. Make some close friends. Some depressed people have problems with this. You seem to have close friends, friends who are comfortable making close relationships with you. Make them again. Healthy ones. Albert Camus once said “Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.” I love that quote because I think it models how friendship ought be (: You may not feel happy to start off, but it’ll come back slowly. You should read Tuesdays with Morrie. It tells the story about a person who needed to feel whole again and how he gained it back through love and friendship.

You may be cheated by the world, but there are people like you who would never do that, I promise.

I hope I made you feel better.

I am so sorry that you feel that way. I have felt this way before. I won’t say I have felt the same way becasue everyones circumstances are different…& I hated it when people would tell me that. The reality is there really probably isn’t anything that I can say (or anyone for that matter) that is going to pull you out of your “funk”. BUT…I have battled depression for 6 years now. After about 4 it started to get a little better. I have been locked up in a psychiatric unit n 2 seperate occasions…once on my own…the nest it was by police escort because of a suicide attempt. Fortunately, I survived. I was one of the lucky ones who got to come back. But a lot of times…you can’t come back. I have 5 kids (2 step…3 of my own) I used to think that my 3 would be better off with their father because I just wasn’t emotionally capable to handle it. I thought my kids would be better off without me dragging them & everyone else down. I began cuttng after 3 1/2 yrs as a way of release (of the inner pain). I was on every different kind of depression med you can think of. They would work for awhile & then I would level out & would have to start over again. I GET WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM!!!

Pray. I know it sounds corny & you’re probably thinking…yeah right. Believe it or not it will help you feel better. Do think about your child. BECAUSE NO ONE CAN TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD LIKE MOMMY CAN!!! Sometimes it’s just a change in a persons way of thinking. Even if it is just something small. That’s a start. Eventually it will come full circle. It probably feels like the weight if the world is on you holding you down on the floor of the ocean & you’re not making any progress to get out from under it…like it would be easier to just give up. (I did)…BUT I PROMISE YOU IT DOES IT GET! It won’t be miraculous & all at once (I wish it was that simple) but it will. Try not to think of everything all at once. Just deal with one thing at a time & go one day at a time. I prob sounds corny but it really is true. Get rid of “abceses” (bad people that bring you down & not try to help you up) in your life. I HAD TO LEARN THAT ONE THE HARD WAY!! It seems that even though they don’t realize it (these people) they’re really only making matters worse.

I wish you all the best!! I really do! Like I said…I was lucky enough to survive my suicide attempt (AND THAT WAS THE SCARIEST THING I HAVE EVER EXPERIENCED!!)..But not everyone can be so lucky!!! Take Care.

Hello Bangin, just dropping to say hi and i hope you are well.