Thought help: do you think its unfair for someone who just wanst to spend time with you say that your only thinking of your self? - Help.com

she sounds a bit obsessive

you have to reassure her

Oh yeah, you need your freedom. your life can’t revolve around one person. And she needs to understand that. Being called selfish is very hypocritical because she wants you all to herself and your FRIENDS can’t see you? that’s unfair.

exactly. it sucks that this is a problem in a lot of relationships. don’t fall into any guilt trips. Be your own person, not hers.. she doesn’t control you. no one does. I was in a relationship like this only it was a bit worse. If I didn’t see him everyday I’d get yelled at and it was just really bad. so after six months I broke up with him and I was never in a situation like that again from my past expieriences I learned to avoid it. So you should let her know seeing someone every single day isn’t healthy for a relationship anyway.

I don’t blame you. I’ll admit this, but I’ve been a girl like that before. Before I grew up and matured. I know how she feels and it’s definitely not a good way to be. And I couldn’t help feeling pissed off too, so I don’t think there’s really anything to cure jealousy like that… (that I know of..) So good luck.

I think your right!

It is selfish, but she obviously enjoys spending this time with you…

It sounds like she is insecure. I know how she feels, I’ve been like that before.

A couple of things which I feel may help you out is:

1. Always letting her know when you plan to go out-so she feels that your involving her by letting her know so she can plan things for herself with her mates etc.
2. When your out with your mates-after half an hour or so just send a little text saying how are you or what you up to. I know you want to have a good time with your mates but if you just text her once or twice to ‘break up the time’ a bit then she would think your thinking of her. This would reassure her too.