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i have to do whatever i can to b able to find a way to help myself and safe my relationship so i am here writing this to you strangers that hopefully will help me thru this situation.. hi im 26 years old and i was born and raised in puerto rico and then moved to florida at the age of 15 and then i took over my life from there …. i met this wonderful person her name is remy and i love her soooo much … i never met someone as wonderful as her… we have been together for 2 years and five months and it has been great but my anger really gets the best of it and i am tired of making her suffer and making her feel like crap =/…. i really have an anger issue is soo bad that i have embarrased her in public for things that she would say to me that would upset me but not to the point that i react to them no need for the embarrasment i cant control it is soo hard i have tried but i cant and is killing me slowly bcuz i cant seem to find a way to get rid of it or to control it and stop hurting her im scared of loosing her bcuz of this problem and i know that i will destroy the relationship if i dont find a way to fix it… i alwayz take my anger on her and is not fair she doesnt deserve it she is soo good to me … i say so many mean things to her that i regret and take back all the time i hate been like this please i would appreciatte the advice u have to give me to help me …. i want to b able to feel good and feel anger freee and not alwayz feel with this baggage on my back … i feel like a monster when im angry i hit stuff i throw stuff i punch walls i hit myself sometimes well slap my face is bad and i want to stop this now .. this is not easy for me to put it outhere in the open but i have to let it out bfore i go crazy and loose my relationship and i dont want that i want her in my life i need her without her im worthless ..

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sportslif #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 minute after post)

go to like an anger managment class

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lucif 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 minutes after post)

A good advice? Let her read this. As long as you show her you want to change. And that you perhaps will need her help in it. It will all go just fine.
And of course looking professional counsel will help a lot too!
Just don’t keep it from her.

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littlenick 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Before you start on one of your anger rampages, you need to stop, count to 1 from 20 backwards, and breathe easily into a paper bag.

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westlifefan #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

well youve dun the hardest thing and thats admiting you are wrong and in public well thats gotta take some gutts so well done.
Maybe you should take some sort of anger management class bt if you arent ready why not take up boxing or another sport that allows you to control your anger in a fit and healthy way ( plus you can show off your new muscle to your lady and she will be twice as pleased ! )
if that isnt what your after maybe you shouldnt see one another for a week or so, just so you have time to yourself to gather your thoughts and to allow yourself to feel what it would be like without her ! Hope this helped a bit :)
good luck

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littlenick 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Also I suggest anger management classes before you are ordered by a court of law to do it. If you go on your own, you can do it through your community college and just say that you want to do it voluntarily when they ask why you’re there. I would hate to see this get to the point where you are going to hurt your poor girl and then you will have no choice but to go to the anger management courses. Once you are ordered by a court of law, it sucks and they can be pretty expensive! Not only that, you can be labeled as a wife beater or abuser. Not a pretty label to have!

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chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (12 minutes after post)

See littlenick’s reply. Don’t screw up your relationship! Get counseling and get to the ROOT of your anger, so you can let it go!

john1231 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (17 minutes after post)

i used to have anger problems too. i took anger management for about 3 months. that helped a lot. another thing that totally releives daily stress and anger is excersise. maybe go for a long run every second day or join a gym or start some sort of new sport (i started kickboxing, u can punch and kick the bags as hard as u want and it helps me with anger sooo much)

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littlenick 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

I took anger management classes. I was always late. That made me angry!

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beatricegalant 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (42 minutes after post)

If you don’t remedy your anger now, it will get worse over time and you will end up in jail for the rest of your life. Great advices from previous writers. All good but especially the one saying you must go voluntarily before they catch you. How does your girlfriend react to your anger? Or is she too afraid to even tell you that? Yes, it is a very good sign that you recognized your problem but it must not end here. If you really love your girlfriend as you say and yourself, you will go and get help: anger management classes, sports etc.

Captain K 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (46 minutes after post)

You’ll stop if you want to. We call this choice or free will, we wake up each day with choices to make good and bad. You can take classes or listen to folks give advice but at the end of the day its up to you to act up or not.

beatricegalant 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (48 minutes after post)

Well said jah! Good points.

Island 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

jah wrote:
You’ll stop if you want to. We call this choice or free will, we wake up each day with choices to make good and bad. You can take classes or listen to folks give advice but at the end of the day its up to you to act up or not.

Very true, can go to classes etc.. cause it’s what is recommended, but will only work if thats what you want to do. Things will only succeed if they are pursued for the right reasons, i.e cause you want to make that choice to change how you are. First step is to realise your desire to find out the root and then want to do something about it. Wish you well

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