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Sometimes opposites are good for each other. My husband and I are opposites.
Pairing up with someone like yourself can be disastrous.
How would you know after meeting the guy only one time?
Not really a mistake.
I don’t really understand arranged marriages. But I can tell you that if you weren’t happy with him, then I think you made the right decision. I believe there is a perfect match for everybody out there in the world, and if you had gone with that guy, then it could have been worse off for you in the future.
Unless, of course, you are being forced into arranged marriages.
Because you might not have a choice in the future. Will your parents let you choose?
Last week my parents were going to force me. They didn’t let me say no to him. But i spoke to him myself and told him that i dont think are right for eachother and he understood it and we ended it on good terms. I told my family and everyone is steaming mad at me. Everyone keeps telling me that i have made a wrong decision and that i have kicked away a good destiny for myself.
datgirl198 wrote:
Last week my parents were going to force me. They didn’t let me say no to him. But i spoke to him myself and told him that i dont think are right for eachother and he understood it and we ended it on good terms. I told my family and everyone is steaming mad at me. Everyone keeps telling me that i have made a wrong decision and that i have kicked away a good destiny for myself.
What do YOU think?
after i told him my decision i felt relived. But right when i told my parents and they started their lecture, i feel like i may have made the wrong decision.
I think that was a really mature thing for you to do, talking to him.
But I’m worried about you. Would your parents force you to marry somebody they knew wasn’t good?
I think you should go with whoever makes you the happiest. And there’s no way you could “kick away a good destiny”, because the decisions you are making and the life you are living is the destiny that you are experiencing right now. Everything happens for a reason.
But hey. I don’t have a culture with arranged marriages, so I have no idea how you would handle this.
What’s your culture?
Live your life to the fullest. Arranged marriages usually end up unhappy marriages. You did the right thing!
If you felt relieved, then I think you did the right thing. It’s probably just guilt and stress that made you feel bad when your parents lectured you.
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Thank you guys sooooo much for your support, you are making me feel so much better.
Datgirl:
If it helps, there’s more than one man for every woman, and more than one woman for every man. You haven’t lost your only shot at love ;)
Kavkazi?
I have NO idea what that is but I’m sure its cool.
My friend’s family is from Pakistan and she’s supposed to be in an arranged marriage. I haven’t talked to her in ages and I’m not sure how she’s dealing with it, but I think you’re doing just great. Don’t give up on your chance for happiness!
No problem!! Good luck with love, sweetie! (Let me know how it goes lol)
On the other hand, arranged marriages sure save the pain of dating the wrong people!
Just kidding, Datgirl . . . somewhat, anyway!
that must suck to not be able to really choose your own husband.
I think you made the right descision. Sooner or later, your parents will understand that this guy didn’t make you happy. Parents want the best for you and they want you to be happy. They’ll come around.
Telling him he is not the right person for you was honest , he would appreciate that, arranged marriages have pro’s and con’s , its not for me if it was then perhaps marriage n3 would not be going down the tubes like the other 2 . Im just to laid back , free and easy , and loving . I hate hassles and boring , so yes your right , be happy you could say no and pick one that you want not what your parents want or you will be unhappy every min of life
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