Love help: I’m so insecure and anxious in my relationship, I fear he’ll leave me any day! - Help.com

oh this is not a good situation. to tell you the truth, he sounds like a practiced emotional abuser. he starts fights, he’s controlling who you hang out with, he’s controlling every aspect of you girl! and then when you feel at your worst, he comes back in and acts the nice guy, telling you how much he loves you and how pretty you are. please…please don’t fall for this. there are many guys (and girls) out there who do this just to keep you around for their own self esteem. he’s emotionally abusing you. you should NOT have to lose ANY friends because of him, you should not have to fear about how he’ll react on any subject you bring up. there’s no trust here, there’s no loyalty, just alot of abuse and jealousy. sweetie, my advice to you is that you’re better off without this kind of person dragging you down. you need to realize that you’re a beautiful person who deserves the very best, someone who will always treat you and your friends with respect. i urge you to become more confident in yourself and learn to love you, and you’ll see what a jerk he’s being and that you don’t need him. find someone better. *hug*

I think katlover hit the nail on the head about him controlling you. The relationship needs room for the two of you to grow and this jealousy really needs to stop. People change, and this image he has of you being “easy” doesn’t at all seem true. I hope things get better for you *hugs*

ive had this happen to me before and although this may not have the same results for u as it did for me.. ill tell u what i did. first ill give u some background info.. my bf and i have dated for two years also.. and last year on my birthday, he was out of town and i was invited to go to a pubnight at my sister’s college. i texted him to let him know and he said he was fine with it so off i went and i ended up getting pretty drunk. the whole time these guys were following my group of friends around and they were so annoying and gross and i didnt want any part of them but my friend was all into it so eventually we all sat in for a group picture..i was originally not in it but of coarse they recruited the ‘birthday girl’ to sit in the middle. i had my arm around these two guys and when my bf got back and saw it on my sisters camerea he basically acted like ur boyfriend acts.. making an ordeal everytime i went out, thinking i’d cheat..not saying as many nice things, never trusting me, acting careless, etc. i repeatedly explained how harmless it was and that these guys were nothing but a pain in my butt the entire night but it got worse, he was always making me feel guilty and think less of myself..i cried almost everynight for over two months! finally i wasnt settling for it anymore after my friends and family noticed how upset i was.. u should try this and see if anytning improves..call him up and say: listen i need to talk to u about this..and if u dont wanna be with me after i say this then its going to hurt me really bad but if thats how u feel then theres nothing i can do. i need u to trust me because trust is the main thing that makes up a relationship..just let my mistakes and my past go and know that i love u and if u need to tell me somethings to work on that will make trust come easier then fine..tell me. but if ur going to continue to make me feel like nothing because u have trust issues then i cant do this anymore..it’s taking away everything we once had and if u cant look past it then neither can i. what’s it gunna be? ……. it worked with my bf anyways..he totally turned a new leaf after that and just grew up cuz he realized how much icared and he knew he was being childish.. i know it might hurt for u to say something like that to ur boyfriend cuz ur scared u’ll lose him but if he does leave u after then u’ll be at ease and know once and for all that it’s time to move on. if he loves u he’ll learn to trust u and change his ways.. sorry for the long post i just felt i could relate to it..good luck :)