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Stand Up, And leave the House!

She just wants to watch out for you and keep you saft thats all, she is your mom after all.

how is leaving a fan on supposed to kill you?

Mr Foot wrote:
how is leaving a fan on supposed to kill you?

I sleep with the fan on everyday in the summer and they haven’t done anything to me except keep me cool.

yea, my mom told me that at 1 time also, about the fan, and i looked it up on Google, and showed her thats not true, remember Google Is ur friend, and ever sence then i slept with 1-2 fans on in my room at night

Before you talk to your mom, try to start off by saying something like “im not trying to sound like im talking back or trying to be disrespectfull, I just want you to understand”.

yea, what Neutra said

oh well, if u don’t mind me asking, can u go live with another parnet/guardain or another family member, or a friend?

Ehm wow its pretty awkward to post this but, after scanning this forum ive already found out your mum scolds you! nevermind the shouting and screaming at you for hours that would have been enough for me to leave. your mum may be Bipolar but its no exuse you love her becouse shes your mum and you probably think its normal…its not if my mum ever talked to me ike that or scolded me id walk out the door and go somewhere else. you need to leave get your own house/appartment rent it whatever you really just need to get away from your mum. im 19 to and i have been acepted into college as a youth worker and my moms a bit bipolar but nothing like yours i love my mum but if she ever done anything like that to me or my brother or sister i would take them all somewhere else or phone the police. Bipolar or not its inexusable and you deserve better get out before you or your mother do something more serius.

and aren’t u in college, why don’t u go live in ur dorm(well its just a suggestion, i know all colleges don’t have dorms), or can u get a job and move out, so u don’t have to deal with her??

i mean no offence at all if it is deamed that i did, but i have not ment no fault!

wow, all 3 of us are 19, and have problems with our moms, a bit

my mom can just get very upset so its not nearly as bad as musicmans but the best advice is for him to get away from her as soon as possible. its simple leave her and get on with your life. your doing well as youve got into college just stay with a freind for a while.

musicman are you her only child&were is your father?

have you always had a hard time of your mum or just recently?

it quite is!

i bet your ears have been bursting!have you got siblings?

okay so its when you go back home… i thought you still lived at home… ehm have you ever informed the police about her abusing you? if not i think you should… or if you havnt tell your Dad if he dosnt want to help go to the police, keep a record of the times she has hurt or shouted at you and notes on what she did during that time, confront your dad with them or go to the police with them.

mothers show their emotions in different ways&i think this is one of them.
i asked if you was her only child if so shes being too overprotective,sounds silly i know but she sees you as her little boy &not the grown man youve become.
she feels like shes lost you&has no control therefore she takes her frustrations out on you-she loves you really

dont say its just scolding its inhumane and illegal its assualt and is incredibally serius you love your mum but you come first. and does your dad know about what shes doing?

and of course she loves you but ther is a chance it could get worse than a scolding you say the screaming is getting worse? how long before the violance gets worse its inexcusable to treat someonelike this and it is not love she may love you but this is not love its spite.

josh,scolding means telling of not burning him lol-i wondered why you seemed so angry

oh… thank frick for that then…if its just getting shouted at its still pretty bad, id immagine you try to avoid her as much as posible id really just say its in your hands you can walk out the house without saying a word and go do something else but if your not prepared to stand up for yourself and move out or stan your ground then youll just have to grit your teeth and beer it.

Bear it sorry i didnt meen to say become an alchohalic haha

musicman the next time your home with your mum take my advice sit her down &try to explain your a grown man now who has to stand on his own two feet,tell her you still love her &she still knows best-i honestly think its because she has no control therefore shes clinging to you too tightly-im speaking from my own experiences-ive also got a 19 yr old son whos just moved out with his girlfriend.
i became the mother from hell when it finally hit me ive lost him,it was like hes my child &im losing him,angry you never heard ewt like it-i had no control over him anymore &god did it hurt(still does)i cried myself to sleep for days after that,tyhen i realised i had to accept it-hrs a grown man,just like yourself-cutting the apron strings is the hardest thing for any mother to do.

agree with evensent200…

thankyou josh

LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE, I know you love her but you must not tolerate emotional abuse…
What your mother is doing is emotional abuse…She must address her own issues, but that won’t happen unless she accepts the fact that she needs help
Until then, what are you going to do? Are you going to be her punching bag forever?
You should be your number one priority right now and she should not be allowed to inflict any more pain upon you than what she has already has. You will not be selfish if you walk away for a while. Maybe that is exactly what she needs to see what is so precious in her life.

Sometimes we don’t appreciate what we have until it is gone.

My mother did the same thing to me including physical abuse for many many many years until I could not take it any more. I love her and we are on good terms now, but I had to walk away. One day, I just walked away and years laters she realized she was wrong.

I will pray for you and your mom.

Little Wing

muicman are you there?

I have had the same problem you have. I was a straight A student, I did not date in highschool nor did I go out with friends or anything else. Yet, she always had to find a reason to yell at me and if she could not find one she would make one up. Do you still live at home? If not just don’t answer when she calls and cut ties for a while. I did that and my mom finally came around. It took time for her to realize that I was not a child anymore and I had to make my own mistakes. She is now my bestfriend. You have to realize you are the easiest person for her to take her anger out on and that her anger is not realated to you. She is angry about something else and does not know how to deal with it. She has to work that out for herself and you have to live your life in peace and you can’t stand there and just take anymore.

i say go in your room and close the door. let her scream at herself

when you say rip your family apart even further what do you mean?

I have nearly the same mom. She does not see that I am not perfect, but she still expects me to. If you have a solution, can you tell me?

I simply understands your situation with your mother.
all of mothers always be acting like just like your mother.

even when you are more sensative or your mother is one way opposite than yours character.

mothers are more likely to dominate their child or kid.
eventhough you are super number one at school.

but it’s ok to being patient to your mother everytime you getting to listen yell or scriming~~~~

leave your parents won’t do no good either.
just remember !
being thankful to your parents and being fit as your mother want you to be so.

and always taking your mothers side if it’s necessary.
and your mother will notice one day what she was were doing were very unlike her

sometimes world goes upside-down even if we are not agree with it.

my point is that don’t get out of your line unless you are getting ready for your
own another spirit of your soul to become your family.

that mean do not reaction to your mother what so ever!!!!
keeping that rule ever and be sucessful in you life.