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So I just came out today about being Bi to two close friends.

Currently 21 year old male, life has been tough being on my own and trying to survive. Through these trials of life, I’ve also been hiding and scared of who I really am. For the last week, I was suddenly hit with a huge cloud over my head and been feeling very sad, and moreso alone. Something snapped in my head, and I decided it was time to vent my distresses out to my close friends and about my sexuality.

I talked to one friend on the phone who was very supportive and told me that I don’t have to be scared. Though he’s straight, he related to me well and said that he would be there for me. This was the first time I ever expressed my bisexuality to anyone, and it felt SO good to hear support and love in response.

The second was my closest friend on instant messenger. I told him I had something very personal and serious to talk about, and he was ready to hear it. I told him and he said that it doesn’t change who I am, followed by a

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Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (1 minute after post)

Coming out is so passe these days.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

The second was my closest friend on instant messenger. I told him I had something very personal and serious to talk about, and he was ready to hear it. I told him and he said that it doesn’t change who I am, followed by a 3. Amazing.

Despite this and feeling more relief, I still feel scared and feel that I need to prepare myself for lonliness. I’m scared that even this support may really result in less contact or communication with me.

I won’t tell me family, too scared right now, and don’t think I want to keep this open. Furthermore, I have a friend who I may be getting apartment with, but I need to tell him this which may make him not want to anymore.

Virgin, scared, confused. Any advice?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

OK, first, take the apartement with said friend. Then, after a few weeks or so, tell him you are bi. The weeks waited are meant to show him that even though you are bi, you are completely normal and not the stereotypical bi/gay person the media portrays these days.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Thank you guys. I feel it is my obligation to tell him, if he might be living with me, is that weird? I think it’s the right thing to do. He knows that I have been feeling very sad lately, and says that he would be there for anything, which I appreciate so much. He did open that venue for me to talk to him, but I don’t know if he’s prepared. This is new to me, I don’t know what reactions to expect in response.

To me, I feel normal and the same person who I am. But I don’t want to be viewed differently or be uncomfortable around.

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1 year, 3 months ago (24 minutes after post)

It probably is more of an obligation to yourself than to your friend…i commend you for being as brave as you’ve been so far…i kept a relationship of mine a secret for about 2 years now…i only quite recently shared it with a great friend of mine who has been amazing and is super supportive…
what a weight came off me…

my reason for keeping low has been because of my mom….she was suspicious at one point and let me know it quite harshly…anywayz…i am dealing with it all now…as it is a bit more complicated than that…

however i do know that…it has been/was tough for my partner…as she is fully out…and it has been disrespectful to her…

i could never tell you what to do without being a hypocrite…i can only share how tough its been to not…

as far as telling your potential roommate…i dont think you’re necessarily obligated to him…unless of course you have feelings for him…and want to be honsest about that…

but like i said…you may be obligated to yourself to share it with him…

gluck…
and hey..there’s more of us out there than you think…..we’re all just as scared to come out as you are….

:)

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