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how do i get my ex-boyfriend to love me again?

like really love me. he used to be CRAZY about me. always wanted to hang out, always wanted to talk on the phone or always text, always wanted to know everything, always wanted to hug and kiss, always wanted me. we broke up about a month or so ago because he couldn’t handle me nagging and being a *****. i have mood swings and can be mean when i am cranky. i know i was a ***** a lot of the time and i nagged at him for stupid ****. but for the most part i just wanted him to get his life together. we talked about marriage and moving in together and he said he wanted to be with me forever…so i wanted him to get his life together becuase you need more than love to live a happy life together. love doesnt pay the bills. so i nagged and was bitchy but not all the time. i never thought he would leave me. then one day he broke up with me and said he couldn’t handle my craziness anymore. fast forward to a couple months later…we’re talking again…but i want him to be how he used to be. But, he enjoys his time away, he calls and texts maybe once a day and we hang out like once a week. i want him everyday like how it used to be. i cry almost everyday because i miss him and i miss how he used to be. he says he still loves me but he just wants to take things slow so we can work out our problems….but i jus don’t know if thats true anymore. i don’t know if he really loves me anymore or if he just thinks he does. im very much in love and want him back completely. im so heartbroken. anyone got any advice?

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Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 minutes after post)

My suggestion is to not push him.
Work on yourself. Get your moods and nagging under control. Show him that you’re not going to be that way anymore by proving it to him over time. Only then will he believe you really changed and then he can allow himself to love you again.

My suggestion is to not push him. Work on yourself. Get your moods and nagging under control. Show him that you're not going to be that way anymore by proving it to him over time. Only then will he believe you really changed and then he can allow himself to love you again.

love her 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

You cant make any one love any one, if he doesnt love you he isnt worth it then

You cant make any one love any one, if he doesnt love you he isnt worth it then

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dream_er 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?

it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?

Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

dream_er wrote:
it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?

You buck up. You either decide you’re going to win him back with your happy sunshiney attitude or move on and find someone that can love you the way you already are.

[quote dream_er]it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?[/quote] You buck up. You either decide you're going to win him back with your happy sunshiney attitude or move on and find someone that can love you the way you already are.

dream_er 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

life sucks. thanks for replying.

life sucks. thanks for replying.

Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Why does it suck? You have two option that can both have glorious outcomes. Think positive girl!

Why does it suck? You have two option that can both have glorious outcomes. Think positive girl!

conn8d 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

dream_er wrote:
it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?

don’t isolate yourself. do stuff with your friends and family.

Chameleon wrote:

dream_er wrote:
it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?

You buck up. [B] You either decide you’re going to win him back with your happy sunshiney attitude or move on and find someone that can love you the way you already are. [/B]

being sad will start a cycle. your have to think of yourself before him…

[quote dream_er]it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?[/quote] don't isolate yourself. do stuff with your friends and family. [quote Chameleon][quote dream_er]it just hurts so much. how do i stop being so depressed?[/quote]You buck up. [B] You either decide you're going to win him back with your happy sunshiney attitude or move on and find someone that can love you the way you already are. [/B][/quote] being sad will start a cycle. your have to think of yourself before him...

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dream_er 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

i go out a lot with friends and im pretty close with my family. i just want him back! ahhhh i sound like a psycho desperate ex gf. he’s made me so vulnerable.

i go out a lot with friends and im pretty close with my family. i just want him back! ahhhh i sound like a psycho desperate ex gf. he's made me so vulnerable.

conn8d 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

It is normal to fee like that, but you also have to keep it in perspective. he liked you before because of the person you are, so keep being that person.

Chameleon wrote:
Why does it suck? You have two option that can both have glorious outcomes. Think positive girl!

I agree with this. No matter what happens, things will be okay, you just have to remember that you can’t control him. you only control you.

It is normal to fee like that, but you also have to keep it in perspective. he liked you before because of the person you are, so keep being that person. [quote Chameleon]Why does it suck? You have two option that can both have glorious outcomes. Think positive girl![/quote] I agree with this. No matter what happens, things will be okay, you just have to remember that you can't control him. you only control you.

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evansent 2008 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 hours, 40 minutes after post)

unless you get your temper under control,things are not going to work out,show him how much you care by seeking help for your anger issues etc,once he see your making a great deal of effort-theres a chance he will take you back,good luck dreamer x

unless you get your temper under control,things are not going to work out,show him how much you care by seeking help for your anger issues etc,once he see your making a great deal of effort-theres a chance he will take you back,good luck dreamer x

aaliyah20087 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (3 weeks after post)

I sooooo totally feel u! And its great to know I’m not the only girl feeling crazy,lol…I know its tough, its like your whole world stopped, and therez nuthin u can do about it. I think about it 24/7, practice what I wanna say 2 him if we ever speak agin, I’ve practically ran my friends away talkin about it alllllll the time! I have no advice to give, bcuz I’m n the sam situation, but just know YOU R NOT ALONE!! Good Luck!!

I sooooo totally feel u! And its great to know I'm not the only girl feeling crazy,lol...I know its tough, its like your whole world stopped, and therez nuthin u can do about it. I think about it 24/7, practice what I wanna say 2 him if we ever speak agin, I've practically ran my friends away talkin about it alllllll the time! I have no advice to give, bcuz I'm n the sam situation, but just know YOU R NOT ALONE!! Good Luck!!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

Its crazy im in the same situation right now… we broke up like 2 months ago n i want him back, he wants to b friends n work on our issue before we jump to a relationship, i told him that i wanted to go to therapy w him n we re gonna start doing that.. we were together for 3 years n we have two kids… so i really wants this to work out.. wish me luck im gonna need it…

ITS CRAZY IM IN THE SAME SITUATION RIGHT NOW... WE BROKE UP LIKE 2 MONTHS AGO N I WANT HIM BACK, HE WANTS TO B FRIENDS N WORK ON OUR ISSUE BEFORE WE JUMP TO A RELATIONSHIP, I TOLD HIM THAT I WANTED TO GO TO THERAPY W HIM N WE RE GONNA START DOING THAT.. WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS N WE HAVE TWO KIDS... SO I REALLY WANTS THIS TO WORK OUT.. WISH ME LUCK IM GONNA NEED IT...

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